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Originally posted by ah2benude

tjdsmitty,I know exactly how you feel. My wife went once with me to a nudist club. I think she did it just so I wouldn't bug her anymore about going. We've been married for 23 years and I doubt if I could ever get her to change her mind, so I just let it be.

Over the summer, my wife and I went to Florida on our on one of our trips to Disney, but this time without our children. We rent the same house every time with a nice private pool. Needless to say,I spent every waking moment nude in the house and out by the pool. With a little coaxing, my wife joined me nude and we had the most wonderful time. For the first couple of days she set the table, did her ironing all in the nude.

Then, a family moved in next door. When my wife heard the children splashing about in their pool, well, that was the end of that. Even with the privacy of the tall bushes that separate the properties, she stopped going nude for the rest of our trip. Since we've gotten back, my wife has not mentioned a word about our experience together.

I go to the nudist club all the time alone. I usually call my wife as soon as I get there, and the first thing she says to me is "are you having fun?" Weird, isn't it? I too, sometimes feel like a third wheel when being there alone and sometimes sad that my wife isn't there with me especially when there are so many couples having fun together.

My advice to you smitty, is to go and have a good time. Once people get to know you, like in my case being married to a non-nudist wife, the couples are very nice to me knowing that it is difficult for many women.

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Originally posted by NaturistDoc

Tom,

I think going to a nude resort "without her knowing" is a recipe for disaster. Your deception will lead her to assume the worst when (not if) she eventually figures it out. Social nudity isn't worth lying, even by omission. Consider how you'd feel if you found out she was sneaking off to a nudist resort.

Also ... I'm having a bit of difficulty getting my mind around the whole notion of Nude Bowling. The visual I get of a naked man in bowling shoes is so hysterical, I doubt I could keep score. But that's just my limitation, I guess.

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Originally posted by FireProf

Smitty,

I've got to agree with the Doc here. I don't think it's a good idea going to a resort without her knowing.

The most troubling of this issue, is her reluctance to practice nudism with you at home. We all often hear of a male nudist with a reluctant partner and their first question is how to get them to go to a social nude place for their first encounter.

I think you should work on her to accept non sexual nudity at home first. She's not going to ever join you at a social nude venue if she's not going to at least be open minded enough to be naked at home with you.

It isn't a hopeless case. My wife was willing to be naked at home since we were married, so I didn't have to work on that aspect. She did, however, state repeatedly that social nudism was absolutely out for her. It took years of patience and building her self esteem to get her to visit the beach first. I understand that they aren't many nude beaches and maybe none where you are, but non sexual nudity needs to start at home first and not at social nude gatherings with a reluctant partner. My wife now plans and books us on nude trips all the time, even if it's just for the day. So there is hope.

My only advice would be to take a few steps back and try and get her to join you at home with nudity, watching TV, eating, reading, sleeping, all that other stuff before you introduce her into the social nudism circle.

Good luck and much patience.

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Originally posted by NaturistDoc

A couple of personal opinions, and then I'll pipe down.

One thing I've learned about marriage: you've definitely got to pick your battles. Personally, I enjoy social nudism, and I'm grateful that my wife does too. But if she came to me tomorrow and said that she'd never really liked it and didn't want to do it any more, I don't think I'd spend a lot of time trying to convince her to give it another try. Nor, I suspect, would I take a stand on my right (?) to go solo. In the grand scheme of things, it's just not that important ... is it?

As for the vitally important issue of the aesthetics of nudity and bowling shoes, I'm sticking to my guns. I support everyone's right to nude bowling; I might even join you some time. However, I reserve the right to dissolve into helpless giggling. But I solemnly promise not to point.

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