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Posted - 06/02/2004 : 8:28:34 PM
How do you tell a real nudist from someone mostly interested in sex, and posing as a nudist?
Many nudists will tell you nudism is good for your mental health, and is healthy for the entire family. But what about the "nudist sex" you see on the Internet, isn't that part of nudism? How do you explain this to someone interested in trying nudism for themselves?
In other words, how do you personally sort out the bad apples? |
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| Diger |
Posted - 12/04/2007 : 3:23:10 PM
Veena,
It would help if you let us know more about yourself. Your Age, how you were raised, your plans, if you plan to try social nudity.
My son is going through peuberty and I know how rough it can be, but he is getting over it in good time. These are the years that a young person needs a healthy family view towards nudity the most.
Diger |
| TravelingMountainNudist |
Posted - 12/03/2007 : 3:52:19 PM
It all comes down to time and place. If one is interested in someone else at a nudist veneu than perhaps some tactful attention towards the subject of your attention is warrented. If I were in a case like this and I were single I would ask the other person out to dinner or something.
Andrew |
| Cheri |
Posted - 12/03/2007 : 10:24:33 AM
Veena, Overt sexuality isn't welcome at a nudist venue. Those who visit are taught this. I've been a nudist for over 40 years and am not sex-free. The two are compatible if you are conscious of where you are.
Sexuality is fine behind closed doors, but it's not okay out in public view.
Cheri
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| Veena |
Posted - 12/02/2007 : 9:19:47 PM
Melissa,
Absolutely not! It’s not a sex club. Sorry if I given you that impression. Personally like every one here, I feel sex is something you do privately. However, from reading many posts here and given the average age level of members here, I can’t help but to feel that most people here believe that if you want to be a nudist then you have to be completely sex free or pretend to be that. To me, a nudist means a person just like every one else but without cloth.
Again, this has more to do with sexual arousals and sexual thoughts. Perhaps since most of you are older and you learn to control your selves but if I can speak for young males. Some of what you expect are very difficult to keep. As a young boy who jut hit the puberty, who start to see girls differently and have sexual feelings.. It’s hard to control erection and it’s difficult not to have sexual thoughts, especially if you are going to be nude around nude people. If I were a young boy, I would be really embarrassed and would never want to be nude around my family or anyone.
Again from reading the post here, I don’t get the feeling there is anything done to make the young males to feel comfortable and not embarrassed by something that you can’t really control.
I could be wrong since I don’t know nudism/nudist the way you do. If I’m wrong then forgive me.
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| melissastarr |
Posted - 12/02/2007 : 8:59:09 PM
Veena,
Are you insinuating that nudism is dying out among young people because of the absense of sexuality in nudist resorts? Before I respond to this, I want to know if this is what you're actually saying. Please let me know.
Melissa
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| Veena |
Posted - 12/02/2007 : 8:23:54 PM
It depends on what this “seeking for sex” means to you. People do get sexual thoughts, people do flirt, and people do hit on people in general so my argument is, WHY SHOULD IT BE ANY DIFFERENT AMONG THE NUDIST?
Vas majority of the non-nudist feel that nudism is some sort of sexual pervert ness. But what surprises me is that vas majority of the nudist feel they need to act numb about sexuality while being a nudist.
I am not saying that one should go around humping everything, what I am saying is.. Be what you be if you have your cloths on.
Our lifestyle represent who we are as humans. If anything I can tell, nudists are the most peaceful, friendly people. It’s beautiful that people can separate naked human body and sex. I don’t remember where I read but I read somewhere that family nudism and nudist lifestyle among young people are dieing out. Why? Think why.. and you will know why?
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| HG8Harrier |
Posted - 12/02/2007 : 5:48:55 PM
Melissa,
Agreed. In any nudist or textile resort across the country, we hope (and some expect) to keep our families happy, healthy, and safe even though we may be away from home. |
| melissastarr |
Posted - 12/02/2007 : 3:31:47 PM
It's not that nudists shouldn't seek sex. Let's face it, human beings are sexual creatures and may seek sex at some point in their life. However, to seek sex at a nudist venue is completely inappropriate, just as it would be inappropriate in many other environments (ie. at work.) Nudists are human, but we are also very protective of making our gatherings family-friendly so that male and female, adult and child are safe and feel comfortable.
Melissa
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| Veena |
Posted - 12/02/2007 : 1:40:08 PM
It’s unfair to call them “bad apple” because you see, nudism is not something discovered by a person. It doesn’t come with any guideline. It’s not wrong for a nudist to seek for sex. There is no rule that says nudist should not seek for sex.
But I do understand a person should not pretend to be a nudist for the purpose of sexual interest.
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| Kimberly |
Posted - 06/14/2004 : 04:31:14 AM
Cheri good idea, might make a nice present for him. 
Calmnude and Seneca I think you are both right.
Kim =^.^= |
| calmnude |
Posted - 06/13/2004 : 4:58:42 PM
i have found out that the bad apples usually become quite visible after a while, even the married ones on the prowl (and it is not just men).
so you can avoid them and stick with folks you like.
most camps/beaches/resorts have several social subgroups,so you should be able to find a niche after a while. |
| Seneca |
Posted - 06/13/2004 : 4:29:39 PM
Kim, what you said about being hit on by more married men than single men, rings true. I've talked to a number of club owners who have a "singles friendly" policy. All of them say they normally have more complaints about married men (and club members at that) than singles. Most have said they feel it's because the singles know they have to be on their guard, because they're usually suspect. And that the married men feel "safe" hitting on women, because they say "I'm married" when accused of anything of this nature.
Seneca |
| Cheri |
Posted - 06/13/2004 : 09:58:41 AM
Gary,
I wish you could have felt more comfortable. Don't be self conscious about being single. Couples don't spend all their time together at the swims/dances. Once you walked in, it probably would have felt relaxed andenjoyed the event.
Hugs, Cheri
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| naturalgar |
Posted - 06/12/2004 : 12:45:53 PM
Well it was this February that I arrived at the Holiday Inn express where there was a nude swim & dance...many people were there and I even had a contact ...but showing up as a "single" male I could tell that they were less enthusiastic about letting me gain admittance> I a'm an outgowing person and I feel that I could have fit in well, but left due to the way I felt about being "single"
Gary |
| Cheri |
Posted - 06/12/2004 : 10:12:47 AM
Kim, Is your son an AANR or TNS member through a club? If so that club management or even you, can call ahead for him to try to gain admittance. I do that for any and all of my singles who travel.
Hugs, Cheri
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