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| USAnudist |
Posted - 03/19/2007 : 11:20:33 AM
I found this on Yahoo Answers:
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Why are Nudist Husbands willing for other men to see their wives naked?
We all understand that men go to nudist clubs to look at naked women, but why do husbands take their wives there, knowing that other men will look at their naked bodies? Do these men truly "not care" or do they unconsciously get a thrill out of seeing other men looking at their wives? Or is there some other reason altogether?
I replied that I didn't think this was nudist behavior and saw it more as exhibitionism and voyeurism. The author of the question replied that he had been going to nudist clubs over 30 years and had been to a dozen clubs and made his "own observations and have talked with hundreds of other nudist men".
I have been a nudist over 30 years and been to over 30 clubs and I haven't noticed this. We carried the conversation to email and I stuck to my opinion that it is sexual, not typical nudist behavior, while he says men accept other men looking at their wives because:
1 - They are required to have a woman with them to gain admittance
2 - They have been going to nudist clubs so long they are jaded and just don't care who sees their wife
3 - They actually enjoy showing off their wife and it enhances their sex life.
I've never had to take a woman to get access to a club. I haven't become jaded, because nudism has the same effect on me now as it did on my first visit to a club. I think the third option has nothing to do with nudism.
Am I truly clueless or do people really worry about who sees them and their partner at a nudist club?
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| outdoorfun1 |
Posted - 03/26/2013 : 05:04:48 AM
Well said Nudony. I also found that my wife is much more comfortable with herself, and being a nudist does help a lot in that respect. And after all, why can't we hug and compliment each other as well, our friends do it with her and vice versa, we are also human, so why stop hugging, etc just because we are nude? |
| nudesunguy |
Posted - 03/25/2013 : 11:51:52 PM
Well put!
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| Nudony |
Posted - 03/22/2013 : 08:38:15 AM
I think most nudist husbands already start from a place of non-possessiveness. Can you imagine a jealous/possessive husband taking his wife to a nude resort? He'd spend most of the day chasing her around with a towel/sarong! It just wouldn't be a very enjoyable experience for either parties.
When I was a nudist husband, in the early days, my wife had a "Kardashian-like" figure and a caramel skin tone. So I knew going in that by virtue of that fact, she was going to get noticed. I can't say that ever really bothered me; my only concern was that she might get oggled at. But what someone might be thinking about her or her body? I didn't really care. I was more concerned with her comfort and well-being.
As we began making friends and becoming more familiar to some people, comments and compliments became more frequent. Most often it was her curves or skin tone that received praises; sometimes it was even her "derriere" (but never in a lewd or crass manner). Some of our closest friends would bear-hug her, hold a closer physical proximity to her of make more pointed compliments. I never saw her get offended by any of it; and most times, I think it actually helped her with her body acceptance issues. Seeing her being so comfortable nude and being noticed did fill me with some pride. And I think it is this very sense of pride that makes textiles say: "Ok; so you actually enjoy other guys seeing her naked!" It's a misundertanding of what the sense of pride is really about.
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| FireProf |
Posted - 03/21/2013 : 12:40:22 PM
The Prof has never been put on display so I can "show her off." If she's admired, it can work both ways for her. She'll either feel better about herself and increase her self esteem and body image... but it can also work against her. She's a private person and doesn't like to be looked at and critiqued. She can be self conscious about parts of her body but I think many women have this issue and those that do not ... actually have helped my wife get through some of her concerns and anxieties. I don't think of it as "showing her off" but I do enjoy the fact that I have a wife that is a willing participant and willing to talk with and help any reluctant wives out there to get through their anxieties. She does it one on one and in person, not on the internet.
Loves being naked. Plays well with others! |
| nudesunguy |
Posted - 03/21/2013 : 10:34:18 AM
Finally, a topic almost everyone agrees on! http://www.nudist-resorts.org/talk/images/icon_mi_11.gif
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| Diger |
Posted - 03/20/2013 : 9:16:45 PM
Angie is the center of attention in a group whether nude or clothed. I know guys check her out but it doesn't bother me in the least. Nothing is more alluring than a woman that is comfortable naked, and their confidence shows through even when they're clothed. I agree with you guys... I'm proud of Angie and feel like the luckiest guy in the world that she's my wife, but I don't feel I'm showing her off.
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| baie rouge nudists |
Posted - 03/20/2013 : 8:06:51 PM
IMHO my wife is the most sexy woman alive, clothed or naked. Even though she may not agree with my assessment, I don't show her off, but I know that other guys do check her out in public. Look, but don't touch is the rule that should apply. Like Outdoor1 said, big dif between admiring and leering. |
| outdoorfun1 |
Posted - 03/20/2013 : 09:18:01 AM
I agree with nudesunguy. I am also very proud of my wife, and if someone looks at her, either if she is clothed or nude and admires her, it does not bother me. It only enhances the fact that I am her partner and should b proud of her. And of course there is a big difference between admiring and leering. The one is cool, the other one is offence. |
| nudesunguy |
Posted - 06/10/2010 : 2:59:06 PM
Yeah, I think the bottom line is that nudists are people, just like other people, and there are as many reasons for enjoying nudism as there are people. I'm proud of how my wife looks, both nude and clothed. I wouldn't say I show her off, but I'm also not offended when people look at her admiringly. I'm sure some of my textile friends (and family) would be horrified that I allow other men to see my wife naked. To my mind, that's their hangup. There are lots of gray areas here; I probably wouldn't be quick to judge someone as being into nudism for the wrong reasons. But that's just me, I guess...
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| misterbean |
Posted - 12/11/2009 : 8:53:31 PM
Wow - This is getting so deep and meaningful !
Soon we may need a guide book and a rule book just to be nudists at the beach - , events and swim-nights!
I think I prefer our old way ! Where if someones girlfriend or spouse looked good - of course I would admire ! And my wife is also known to make comments about people she notices ! we even compliment people we know who have a good tan , lost weight, new hair style - whatever! Just like the real world.
We are nudists and people - neither dead, a-sexual or blind!
We even tell jokes , some off-colour(to those we know won't be offended), and behave with very little difference to when we are clothed.
I am proud of my wife - and proud of the efforts she 'upkeeps' to keep her nice figure. I shave her weekly cos we both like how she looks.
And we both have no difficulty telling the difference between looks of admiration and appreciation 'versus' perving.
We are quite sensual together and know the point at which to take our affections ( and etc! ) out of sight or off the beach !
We have often been the 'victims' of perves who lurk on the fringes of the beaches and have found that if either of us go up to them and invite them to strip off and actually come onto the beach the problem usually goes away - literally. Same for those who lie "close" to sneak unwholesome and furtive glances -- If only they could see how obvious they are. We usually approach them and ask them to join us for a conversation ! Sure most have no conversation and fade away.
Just because we are nudists also doesn't mean we abandon our common sense or normal people and communication skills. |
| HomeNudist |
Posted - 09/26/2009 : 7:27:45 PM
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Originally posted by Warmskin
A man that has more than one wife would be well advised to not show them off.
At least, not at the same time . . .  |
| Warmskin |
Posted - 09/26/2009 : 7:20:50 PM
A man that has more than one wife would be well advised to not show them off.
"It is error alone which needs the support of government. Truth can stand by itself."
Thomas Jefferson
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| B and S |
Posted - 08/08/2009 : 12:15:32 PM
A couple weeks ago at the beach, a Hispanic man approached us, offered to take our picture for us with our camera (we only take pictures of each other or the scenery in the background, such as sailboats, the mountains - never other people), so he said yes, that would be great. The guy acted as though he was having trouble finding us in the view finder ... we looked at the picture later, and we were both in it, alright - but our heads & lower bodies were cut off - the picture is about 90% my breasts & 10% his chest. Needless to say, we won't be taking just anyone or everyone up on their offer to take our photo for us anymore. All that was left to do was to laugh off the incident, and chock it up to a learning experience. |
| rhinoguy |
Posted - 06/14/2008 : 3:25:50 PM
hmmm.....Well, I am a man and I can say that I don't go to nudist resorts to look at nude women. I don't go to look at nude men either. I go to be nude because I enjoy being nude. In fact, given my work schedule I often visit clubs during the week in the middle of the afternoon when almost nobody else is there. Certainly when people are there. I see them, but I'm sure this isn't what the guy on Yahoo answers means by "look". Honestly, I have to say that I have lookes at some particularly attractive women, but I have done the same thing with fully clothed particularly attractive women. In fact I have done it more with clothed than nude women. Anyway, my 2 cents |
| macbuzz |
Posted - 05/19/2008 : 5:31:32 PM
I have to admit I am with NaturistDoc on this one. It it far more enjoyable when my wife joins me at the nudist beach
than when I might go with friends. I find the whole beach takes on a more interesting complexion when she is there. I
don't showing her off I can enjoy her. I have totally selfish motives. |
