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| mugwert |
Posted - 08/14/2007 : 8:52:02 PM
HI, since I can't get my log in to work and haven't heard back from the administrator, I am putting this post up under my husbands log in. I hope no one minds too much
Anyhow, my name is Cheryl and here is my question.
I recently went to a clothing optional hot spring with my husband and need some advice. My husband enjoys being nude at the clothing optional resorts near our home, and wants to take me to them. He says that he wants me to experience the freedom of being naked. The problem is, that I just can’t get used to the idea of being nude in front of other people. When we first met, I used to sleep nude with him all the time, but now as a married mother of 2, I have a real problem being naked, even in our house. I know that my husband enjoys being nude, both at the hot springs and around our house, but I get this little voice in my head that says I need to stay dressed. What do I do, I want to be with my husband and do the things he enjoys, but I just can’t get past the mental block of being nude around other men and women. The question is how do you separate the notion of being nude with sex and start to look at as an acceptable lifestyle. He says he will give up the naturalist lifestyle if I ask him to, but is that fair, please, help me out!
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| fhbh |
Posted - 09/19/2007 : 9:25:15 PM
This is going to be our first time as public nudists and we are not a bit scared, we are very excited. My partner and I have discussed everything and we have been ditching our clothes almost the minute we get to the house. We enjoy time outside in our lanai and the feelings of being free and feeling nature, pure nature on our bodies is great. We both enjoy going to the beach and love to tan without the lines, we are heading to Apollo this Sunday. I sure hope the weather will be good for us as we are looking so forward to going. We will look for a club or a resort when the weather chills out too much. Thanks to all for the good information that is shared here. |
| juddo01 |
Posted - 09/19/2007 : 04:13:43 AM
Thanks Diger,BaltoBob and whatshisname.
All good info and points.
Balto - you sent a link for a CO place which we virtually warned off. Some pics have turned up on the voyeur type websites and at one stage from their website was a link to MetArt - yep nudie pics. So we kinda thought twice.
Diger - we'll let you know for sure - might even make a blog about it. And whatshisname - I think your right, whats the fuss about. |
| whatshisname |
Posted - 09/19/2007 : 03:20:50 AM
Hi Cheryl,
I'm new here but your post reminded of something. When I was in radio and having trouble learning something new, my voice coach would ask me what I was afraid of? What do you think is going to happen if you don't do it right? Try the same approach for yourself.
Try asking yourself what you are worried about. Are you afraid of a bunch of nude people seeing you nude? Is it like that old dream of being the only nude person at a party?
The biggest shock for most people on their first visit to a nude place is that nothing happened when other people saw them nude. You were nervous at first, then started to relax, then finally wondered what all the fuss was about.
Try it. It will be OK.
tom
life long nudist |
| Diger |
Posted - 09/17/2007 : 6:03:13 PM
juddo01,
A CO resort is not that bad cause nearly everyone is nude. Mostly the only clothed people are the reluctant spouse, and Nudity is required in the Pool, Sauna, Hot Tub areas.
I'm not trying to talk you in to anything, cause sounds like you are doing what's right for the two of you, but I just thought you might want to know.
Good Luck and let us know how it goes.
Diger |
| Balto Bob |
Posted - 09/17/2007 : 11:54:17 AM
juddo01
Welcome-You folks are having spring. I hope it is a wet one. I will try to give you a couple links that might be of use. The first is on the nudist/ naturist issue and the second is a resort near you.
www.nudist-resorts.org/talk/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=3084
www.nudist-resorts.org/talk/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=1752
Bob
Have a nice NUDE day !! |
| juddo01 |
Posted - 09/17/2007 : 10:40:27 AM
Thanks for your reply Diger.
Kind of gives us some comfort knowing others may have had the same misgivings or concerns.
But the turning point was really an issues I quess with the CO thing - we didn't want to be standing there in the nude talking to some people wearing swimsuits or even jeans and t shirts. Kind of defeated the purpose.
We talked it over and over and if we were going nude we wanted to be in that environemt. Nothing to hide and for us to be on a level playing field I quess you could say.
We would describe ourselves as nudists, we enjoy being in the nude. So can someone enlighten us on why there is this term "Naturists" - seems rather funny. |
| Diger |
Posted - 09/17/2007 : 08:13:14 AM
Our first experience was at a Nude Beach, the only advantage of that or a CO resort is that your wife can hold on to her clothes till she feels comfortable. How ever if at a Nude Resort she is willing to go for it right away, then in 5 min she will be fine and you won't have the Gawkers to contend with.
Everyone is different so do what's right for you and it sounds like you already have a plan.
Diger |
| juddo01 |
Posted - 09/16/2007 : 11:56:34 PM
Firstly, Hi from Sydney Australia.
My wife and I have had several discussons about where to go/what to do for our first time. After contacting several clubs and a resort which is clothes optional and finding the locations of some beachs we are still yet to choose.
Ofcourse my wife has what would seem to be the usual reservations - gawkers and lookers, too old, too fat etc etc.
But after some info from the clubs that we contacted, we have pretty much decided to give the CO resort and beachs a miss.
We have decided to go for the clubs as both are nude (except if the wether is too bad). We figure that apart from the first few minutes of feeling "naked" as everyone else is nude that it wouldn't take too long to get used to a social nude experience rather than half the crowd clothed and the other half nude.
Does anyone have a similiar experience or does anyone think that we are just jumping in at the deep end and need to give it more thought.
M & J
Sydney Australia |
| catbird |
Posted - 09/09/2007 : 6:38:19 PM
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Originally posted by mugwert
Cheri
I disagree that a long sun dress that is slightly see through, or that wearing a bikini is being an exhibitionist. I have seen women in long sarongs that blow open in the wind, flashing whats underneath. Is that being an exhibitionist? Not everyone has been at this for 30 years, you seem to think that if your not nude or in a t shirt, your being lude and not a "proper" nudist. Sorry to disagree with you, but if nudism is about being free from judgement, then don't judge everyone who isn't like you. Its not always as easy to do things in 2007 as it was in 1967. Sometimes you have to start slow.
If the see through helps you warm up to nudism, so be it. A see through might attract gawkers. As long as it isn't your intention to exhibit, I have no problem with it.
The long shirt is another way to warm up to nudism, and it is free from constriction. But a long shirt exposes whenever you need to squat or bend over. But does that bother you? If it doesn't bother you, then you're on the way to becoming a nudist.
As Cheri says, nudism is about freedom from constricting clothes instead of showing body. It is a matter of attitude, as to whether there is exhibitionism. Sometimes you have to start slow.
Naturally, Catbird |
| Diger |
Posted - 09/09/2007 : 4:14:25 PM
Cheryl,
You are on the right track, start slow. We have been to several Nude Beaches and have seen lots of bikinis. Most of the time they end up nude before the day is over, or at least topless.
Looking back my wife only went topless the first time we tried it. The next trip she was ready to go for it and has been hooked ever since.
I consider a topless woman on a nude beach to be a nudist in training. LOL
Diger |
| mugwert |
Posted - 09/09/2007 : 2:41:33 PM
Cheri
I disagree that a long sun dress that is slightly see through, or that wearing a bikini is being an exhibitionist. I have seen women in long sarongs that blow open in the wind, flashing whats underneath. Is that being an exhibitionist? Not everyone has been at this for 30 years, you seem to think that if your not nude or in a t shirt, your being lude and not a "proper" nudist. Sorry to disagree with you, but if nudism is about being free from judgement, then don't judge everyone who isn't like you. Its not always as easy to do things in 2007 as it was in 1967. Sometimes you have to start slow. |
| Balto Bob |
Posted - 09/09/2007 : 1:54:01 PM
Cheryl, The best part about C/O is the optional part. You can cover or expose as much as you want. After a while you may join us that only wear clothes when and where we have to or NOT. The important part is that you are willing to make the effort.
Bob
Have a nice NUDE day !! |
| nakedinla |
Posted - 09/09/2007 : 12:43:30 PM
When one has a moment to ponder, one does a lot of "what if?" however, take your time and in due course, you will arrive at the right answer for you. It does appear that your husband wants to share a hobby with you. Time will help in your answer.
HT |
| NudeAl |
Posted - 09/09/2007 : 12:18:28 PM
My wife made the comment to me once that in a bikini most women have already shown the areas of their bodies they are most embarressed about so going nude is not that much of a stretch.
I would suggest as Cheri does a nice big T-shirt or perhaps a colorful sarong or pareo. Good luck enjoy and I'm sure your husband appreciates your efforts
The woods are lovely, dark and deep, But I have promises to keep, And miles to go before I sleep, And miles to go before I sleep. -- Robert Frost
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| Cheri |
Posted - 09/09/2007 : 11:25:41 AM
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Originally posted by mugwert
I have been working on this issue for a while now and I think that I will still go to c/o places with my husband, but just wear a bikini for now, I did buy a semi sheer sun dress and may try topless after a while. Guess time will tell if I ever gather up the nerve to go nude.
Thanks for the help
Cheryl
Cheryl, A sheer anything is exhibitionistic and not nudist. A bikini is a bit so too. You'd be better to wear a long tshirt than what you describe. Nudism is about the freedom from tight constricting clothing, not showing one's self off.
Cheri
Doing what I can to positively promote nudism
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