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| Carnelian |
Posted - 08/15/2009 : 4:08:06 PM
I have been to numerous resorts, mostly in the midwest (U.S.) alone. No, I cannot find someone to go with to these places. I am not an athletic type, so I only go in the pool and hang around. I get bored after a couple hours. Do you? I try to make conversation, sometimes with success, but it doesn't last long.Usually it's about other nudist clubs. I am very careful what I say, because it has been taken the wrong way, like I am trying to pick up someone. Honestly, there isn't much to do, except for petanque and such games.I am reluctant to continue to pay as I go.(Not a member) |
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| freecospirit |
Posted - 09/02/2009 : 03:45:11 AM
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Originally posted by Diger
When I first read this I thought, no way I could be bored. Now after reading and thinking about it I can see how if you didn't have a partner it could happen. I know I couldn't enjoy myself if Mrs. Diger wasn't with me.
But that's just me.
Diger
No not at all - I enjoy naturism but I would not enjoy a holiday naturist or otherwise without my wife. We are only into casual nudism on CO beaches and around the home, not interested in clubs or socialising. |
| Diger |
Posted - 09/01/2009 : 10:11:05 AM
When I first read this I thought, no way I could be bored. Now after reading and thinking about it I can see how if you didn't have a partner it could happen. I know I couldn't enjoy myself if Mrs. Diger wasn't with me.
But that's just me.
Diger |
| sailawaybob |
Posted - 08/28/2009 : 12:15:57 AM
you may try going during the weekdays when the crowd is gone, when i was a active member there would be a small group of us (less than six) that would hangout the women would be more relaxed without there counterparts around. on the weekend it seemed most were cliques and if you were a single male you didn't fit in . and yes finding someone to go with when single will probably not happen unless you have been with them a while. |
| NudeAl |
Posted - 08/28/2009 : 12:12:41 AM
Most clubs have a special social event like an end of summer bash this Labor Day weekend in September. If I were you I would be looking around the area clubs you go to, to see who is having what and go to one of those events. These big end of summer events can draw a good crowd and the chances are you will meet more people there that way. Even if ther eis no one there and I have been a few places when it was me and one or two others there is still stuff to do, read a book, go for a hike, swim a few laps etc. But if you would like to have more friends with you invite those you know and keep inviting them persistence pays off someday someone will say yeah sure and then it will start to snowball they will hopefully tell friends and so on. That is the best advertisement word of mouth.
The woods are lovely, dark and deep, But I have promises to keep, And miles to go before I sleep, And miles to go before I sleep. -- Robert Frost
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| Calbob |
Posted - 08/27/2009 : 5:31:54 PM
Carnelian-I think that the club experience is what you choose to make it. You say that you're not athletic, but most clubs have a good range of sports that do not require special athletic ability, such as water volleyball and shuffleboard. And, let's face it, we can all use some exercise! When the club is planning a special event and needs volunteers, step up and volunteer and you will become better acquainted with other members. If you are an AANR member, travel to your regional convention, or if you are a member of TNS, go to one of their gatherings. This will broaden your nudist experience and give you more to talk about in the hot tub.
Bob
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| Warmskin |
Posted - 08/27/2009 : 5:21:50 PM
I know what you mean, Carnelian. It's difficult to find people to go with you to nudist resorts, (the reaction of the other person is something like -- "Me, go to a nudist resort. No way.") and when you go alone, too many times you are alone in the crowd. I also try to strike up a conversation where possible. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.
For some reason nudists are often not open to include others in a conversation. Many folks only like to talk with their own established friends at a resort. If you're not one of their friends, often they will ignore you. If you are a single guy, I wonder if others automatically think you are on the prowl. Hard to fathom.
If there are organized activities that break up the cliques, that can be very helpful in meeting folks. Volleyball games have been great for me to be in. No cliques there. Oddly enough, I have found a few people who, under the influence, shall we say, have been more socially oriented with me. Not that I like drunkenness, but at least they tend to be more open, and less critical about who they talk with. I know that weird.
I would bet that if you brought a woman with you, you'd be more likely to meet others with far less problems.
Just some thoughts.
"The means of defense against foreign danger historically have become the instruments of tyranny at home."
James Madison
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| GeeWilly |
Posted - 08/27/2009 : 12:16:42 PM
Carnelian, your profile says that you are from Illinois. Surely in a state of that size you can find a nudist/naturist club, landed or not, in which you can find new friends with whom to accompany you on future visits to nudist resorts.
Seems like the surest cure for boredom is to have others you know experience new places with you. Find others who see the humor and the unexpected in the folks around you. Look to enjoy! |
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