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| scrunner77 |
Posted - 12/18/2009 : 11:50:46 AM
my wife is not really into being nude outside of the home. I enjoy it. Would it be wrong of me to go to a nudist place on my own?
Travis |
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| nudesunguy |
Posted - 06/11/2010 : 1:34:52 PM
Is it too late to annul the marriage? Kidding, but I don't envy you. She may never be ready to go to a resort. Talk to her about her objections...
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| Primm |
Posted - 05/24/2010 : 12:46:00 PM
I believe it should be a 50/50 deal Ask her just to go even if she stays clothed be open and if its not her thing Then let it go learn that things are not fun without her No I take that back you already know that its not fun without her
Michael Primm |
| Warmskin |
Posted - 01/20/2010 : 04:58:44 AM
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Originally posted by free2be
I agree with Warmskin. Any place, beach or club, that is CO would be the best. Then you can each decide. My wife does not understand my love of nudity and she doesn't like to go nude herself, but she has agreed to go with me to a CO beach this year. Who knows what will happen once she is there. I'm not putting any pressure on her at all. It will be up to her if she takes anything off at all.
Smart man, Free2B. Just let your wife take her time and be in charge of what she wears or doesn't wear. If the spirit moves her, she'll go nude sooner than if you had overbearingly talked to her to strip off her clothing. Free will is a wonderful thing in circumstances like this.
"If tyranny and oppression come to this land, it will be in the guise of fighting a foreign enemy."
James Madison |
| 77777 |
Posted - 01/19/2010 : 04:23:13 AM
This is a very delicate question. Ideally, we all would have an understanding spouse that would be totally supportive and would join us in nudist activities. Unfortunately, my wife has all kinds of body issues and hang ups and wouldn't be caught dead in a social nudist situation. I, on the other hand, enjoy social nudism a lot.
"Cheating" would imply that somehow there is something morally wrong about participating in non-sexual nudist activities. If you're going to simply gawk and stare or look for women to pick up or have an affair with, then perhaps it would be "cheating" just as if you went fully clothed to a singles bar looking for a one-night stand. Unfortunately, "cheating" accusations reinforce the negative stereotype that all nudist clubs or resorts are fronts for swinging activities. Admittedly some are, but I have avoided those types of nudist clubs and resorts.
I have told my wife about my trips to nudist clubs. She may not like it, but I was honest about it, so I don't consider it cheating. She may or may not join me in the future, but I have to be true to myself. If your spouse can't accept you for who you are and you can't be honest with you, you have bigger marital issues to worry about.
Of course, each individual's situation is different. Unfortunately, for the extremely intolerant spouse who's only answer is "don't ever go," there are no easy answers.
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| soonbnude |
Posted - 01/13/2010 : 01:20:07 AM
Warmskin & frre2be
Thanks. I will take up the suggestion once we can get some time without kids, it is still summer school holidays here for a few more weeks. My wife has been with me many years ago and may have totally dis-robed once but panicked when someone was walking along the beach 1/2 a mile away. Other times she was probably topless but she is a little shy about her body, she need not be as it is very nice, but as many comments here suggest men seem to charge in with less inhibitions and women are often the ones who take time.
I'm still interested in responses to the lone beach attendance question I posed.
Cheers, soonbnude. |
| free2be |
Posted - 01/12/2010 : 10:07:49 PM
I agree with Warmskin. Any place, beach or club, that is CO would be the best. Then you can each decide. My wife does not understand my love of nudity and she doesn't like to go nude herself, but she has agreed to go with me to a CO beach this year. Who knows what will happen once she is there. I'm not putting any pressure on her at all. It will be up to her if she takes anything off at all. |
| Warmskin |
Posted - 01/12/2010 : 9:09:53 PM
You could both go to a nude or clothing optional beach, and each person gets to decide for her/himself what to wear or not to wear.
I'm presuming, though, that Mrs. SCrunner77 is okay with being clothed while Mr. SCrunner77 is nude.
Compromises can work nicely.
"If tyranny and oppression come to this land, it will be in the guise of fighting a foreign enemy."
James Madison |
| soonbnude |
Posted - 01/12/2010 : 7:30:53 PM
Yingying
What about the beach, is that cheating if you go alone as a man? What about if you speak to others while there, male or female, is that cheating? I'm just interested in your comments.
I agree that going to a nudist resort on your own as a man is not a good look unless you are single but how do women view nude beaches attended by partners alone? It seems that a significant % of beach goers at a nudist beach are unaccompanied men, probably 75% or more. Maybe this is because their partners are working or busy or do not want to attend or are not comfortable with nude beaches or their own nudity or other peoples nudity or whatever.
Cheers, soonbnude. |
| YingyingHotNSpicey |
Posted - 01/08/2010 : 12:02:45 AM
If you go to the nudist resort on your own, consider it cheating....your wife will |
| Balto Bob |
Posted - 01/01/2010 : 08:17:27 AM
If this is important to you, you should do it. Be open about it.
Bob
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| Chiefs1970 |
Posted - 12/31/2009 : 6:28:41 PM
You may also want to consider attending a local fetish or Femdom group where she can visit with other women and be in control as to how much she is willing to reveal. Most of these groups the women have the option to wear fetish or street attire. |
| free2be |
Posted - 12/18/2009 : 10:11:49 PM
I have to agree...find things you can do together...the best being if you can go to a clothing optional beach where she does not have to go nude if she doesn't want to...but you can. My wife doesn't understand the nude lifestyle but she knows I enjoy it. When I said I thought I was ready to try social nudity, she gave her blessing for me to go check it out on my own...no secrets...no sneaking around. She has promised me that she will go with me in 2010 to check it out for herself. I doubt she will go nude, but who knows. Take care. |
| mariarose |
Posted - 12/18/2009 : 10:00:49 PM
Not without her full OK, and don't even think about going on the sly. Commit to the relationship, like the relationship is an actual person. That is what I did. I always tried to figure out what the relationship needed, Not me, and not Gerry, but US. And do I have a knock out relationship to show for it!!!! Do what you have to, to make the relationship strong and mature, and you and your wife will reap a treasure in return. Naken is 100 percent right. Definitely find something the 2 of you can share. Gerry likes to say that the wedding should be the start of real courting, not the end. Best of luck to you. |
| naken |
Posted - 12/18/2009 : 9:47:37 PM
Scrunner,your 20 an married,i would suggest you spend about the next 5 years developing a strong personal ,trusting relationship with your wife,i would also suggest you curb your independent interest,an develop common interest that bind you together,Going solo to a resort in my opinion would be not a good idea,a co beach where your wife could be also may be something to work on.Theres an old song that says whos making love to your oldlady while you are out making love.This is my suggestion ,others may see differently. Good Luck |
