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| hefe4pres |
Posted - 12/29/2008 : 11:50:52 PM
Im new to nudism and i really enjoy it. I have asked my wife and tried her to introduce her to nudism. Her answer is always no. I have gotten her to a clothing optional club and she did not like it at all. I didnt want to push it after reading some of the posts here. What do i do? Is it OK for me to frequent these clubs w/o her? |
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| docfreeman47 |
Posted - 02/03/2010 : 9:21:34 PM
As many of you, my wife isn't into the natural lifestyle. I am nude at home and was at our condo on vacation. She doesn't mind at all. We do give each other messages but she gets 3 to my 1. She needs a lot of TLC. She has a lot of hardware in her legs etc. do to an auto accident 10 years ago. I try to ease her pain and she does appreciate and enjoy the message.
As many of you said, give it time and maybe she will inch into at least a CO place.
Doc |
| dakotacpl |
Posted - 09/01/2009 : 1:53:33 PM
You got it right Diger. We had a great first experience going nude....now my wife is into it even more than I am. |
| Diger |
Posted - 09/01/2009 : 10:21:47 AM
Tommyjoe,
Don't give up, I've heard of wives turning around and to the surprise of their husbands falling in love with nudity. Freecospirit had some points but be sure to not let things tun to sex. A backyard pool or hot tub is a good ice breaker, nothing feels better than some skinny dipping.
Just remember ... Baby Steps.
Diger |
| freecospirit |
Posted - 08/26/2009 : 09:45:38 AM
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Originally posted by tommyjoe
I am in the same boat with some of you. My wife isn't to crazy about it but she tolerates me walking around in the nude. I have asked her to give it a try, like walking down the hall, but no go. I am really getting frustrated, we don't have any friends that are nudist so there is no one to talk to.
You may have to accept that your wife is not comfortable naked. All you can do is to take it slowly. I assume that you sleep nude and have tried to encourage her to sleep nude. When you shower/bath ask her to do your back for you and offer to do her back in turn. Massage each other to get started pretend you have a bad back and get her to massage you naked; really lay it on thick saying how good it feels leading up to offering to massage her. Find ways of really enjoying each others bodies and being more used to seeing other naked more frequently; even if she doesn't change you'll have some fun. |
| tommyjoe |
Posted - 08/11/2009 : 10:33:10 AM
I am in the same boat with some of you. My wife isn't to crazy about it but she tolerates me walking around in the nude. I have asked her to give it a try, like walking down the hall, but no go. I am really getting frustrated, we don't have any friends that are nudist so there is no one to talk to.
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| Cookie |
Posted - 07/28/2009 : 8:36:22 PM
AnnieFisk:
Congrats and welcome, and we envy you that you have your own campsite. We are lucky since we live out in a very rural part of New England, so we don't have to worry about neighbors.
Through the years we have talked about purchasing a camp site at our fav site in Conn.
but it seems too "clicky" if you know what we mean.
We are lucky that we have about 20 nudist couples and also singles who we socialize with through the year, and have some great parties
through the years.
Last week we had Xmas in July!!! A Christmas Tree was all trimmed in the back yard, and everyone brought a surprise gift.
Remember, we are only here for a short time, so let's have a good time.
Cookie
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| anniefisk |
Posted - 07/28/2009 : 6:20:57 PM
Hello all...first time posting btw...
My hubby was a nudist with his first wife; so when he first suggested it to me, I wasn't so sure about it. I said I would go for the first time, but on the stipulation that I did not have to immediately take my clothes off and to give me a little time to adjust. I'm just talking about a few hours. If he had said I had to immediately take my clothes off, I would not have ever went.
We went, laid out our towel, and after 30 minutes or so, I decided that I would take everything off and walk to the bathroom. I looked around and realized no one was looking at me and they were minding their own business, I was hooked. An hour later, I wanted to buy a place...and that was 11 years ago. We now own a beautiful campsite and I love being a nudist!
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| freecospirit |
Posted - 07/28/2009 : 04:20:49 AM
Being too insistent on your own naturism could cause a rift in your marriage, ask yourself is it worth it. As to how to handle the reluctant partner situation it you need to play it by ear as each situation is different. Personally I sleep in the nude, I always have done, my wife used to but now wears long tee shirts in bed. Our children have left home and I am retired but my wife is still working. At home I'm quite often nude either on my own or with my wife who may be wearing clothes or may be nude as well; sometimes it is the other way round. Neither of us has any desire to join a club or go to a nudist resort though if we come across a clothing optional beach on holiday the chances that we will both go nude at some stage; I am probably more likely to go nude first. On the beach I often notice couples where one partner only is nude, it is generally the man but not always. As long as your partner does not mind you going nude don't worry if they don't want to.
Social nudism is not something that either of us has ever really considered beyond talking to people on the beach. Neither of us would go nude in front of relatives or friends at home. I do think however that as part of a normal relationship you should free to be nude in each others company anywhere in the home where it is secluded. The mistake that many couples make is to change this habit when children come along; kids don't give a damn and they to be better balanced if they are used to seeing their parents and siblings nude without giving it a second thought.
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| Randall50 |
Posted - 07/26/2009 : 7:48:49 PM
I know this is a woman's site but as a man I need to ask: If a married male shows up alone, is that a problem? I'm in love with my wife but she won't join me in this life style. |
| CathyK |
Posted - 01/13/2009 : 08:07:49 AM
A few simple words of advice. Be patient, don't push her to do something she isn't ready to do, and DO NOT go to a nudist club or gathering without her...unless she is totally OK with it. If you go without her permission it will cause additional strain on your relationship that you don't need. Some women will come to accept social nudism over time and some will never accept it. What you can do is to show her the benefits by printing info off the web and set an appointment to have her talk to a nudist woman from a local club.
Women have much more cultural issues with social nudism than men do.
Cathy |
| making |
Posted - 01/03/2009 : 4:16:29 PM
At first my wife said being nude did not bother her but she always had an excuse not to come over to the nude side of the resort. At day 3 I began to realize what the problem was. I had been sitting in the hot tube with a bunch of people and one of the girls went over and talked to my wife. Next thing I know my wife is in the hot tub, making drink runs, laying by the pool etc. I think you just have to let it seem like their idea. My wife now loves it and wants to join a club near home. Women, all I know is I dont understand em. |
| FlCpl4NewdFun |
Posted - 01/03/2009 : 4:16:28 PM
hefe - First, your question last week was asking how to approach couples and single women (beep beep beep). You should have asked this first because going to nude resort/club/beach with your wife makes your question last week about approaching couples or single females not an issue because as a couple everyone will talk to you.
As for this question, what worked for me was to leave the decision on where to go up to her. I did all the research upfront and picked what I believed to be the five or so best resorts in the country. I focused on clubs that were primarily couples for a balanced gender ratio (sorry single guys, it was her first time) had a spa for her to get massages, and had resort style amenities. I presented her with all the info and let her do her own research and decide which one to go to. Well, that great first experience paid off and we haven't looked back. She'll now go to any place with me, both rustic and resort alike and not threatened or uncomfortable at all when the crowd is predominately single males.
Cheers!
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| Drakkus |
Posted - 01/03/2009 : 12:22:04 PM
My fiancee and I have been together for 3 years. She knew I was a nudist since day 1, and I've just recently got her to wander with just her undies for the first time, and after an hour, she had to get dressed. She was just too nervous that somebody would be able to see her.
Just be patient, don't push her at all, and expect it to take years. If you push too hard, she'll start pushing back, and that's not what you want at all.
Be True and Stay Naked,
Drakkus
One is nothing more, and nothing less, than what they believe themselves to be. |
| txvic |
Posted - 01/03/2009 : 09:34:21 AM
The best bet is to not push her too much. If she is ok with you going without her then go and enjoy. I am in a similar situation and have had no problem with 'married - going alone' to my area resorts. Be sure and call ahead and ask though as some resorts, as I understand it, have rules against it. Hang in there. Maybe she will come around. How long did the two of you stay at the c/o club you went too? What did she not like about it?
Victor
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