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| melissastarr |
Posted - 11/12/2007 : 2:24:52 PM
I'm trying to get back into nudism but have 2 problems that are noncompatible right now: a roommate who doesn't condone nudism and 2 cats. (You're probably wondering about the cats, but I'll explain in a second.) The roommate insists that I be clothed at all times. Fine, right? Just close my bedroom door and all is well. Thus enters the cat issue. My roommate insists that since tbey're my cats that the litter box be kept in my room (I keep it VERY clean, so it's no big deal.) We've talked about this arrangement before and it's just non-negotiable with her. The problem is that my cats roam all over the house at all times, day and night. So I can't really close my door for any length of time during the day or during the night because they need to be able to come in. If I close the door with them in the room they will scratch at the door to get out; if I close the door with them out, they scratch the door to get in. Because we rent, it's not a good idea for them to scratch the paint in the door. Does anybody have any ideas on what to do? Keep in mind that my roommate is ALWAYS home- she has no life. :(
Melissa
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| dgcyphers |
Posted - 11/25/2007 : 7:38:34 PM
Melissa,
It would not allow me to email direct...Yes you could move on your own or as I said it is warmer in Texas and there are plenty of teaching jobs there! HAHA but TRUE... I am somewhat of a nudist. I would say I was never called that, but have walked around when friends where over from the bathroom and when I have cleaned the place in the nude. Years ago I did have multiple homes with multiple roommates and some where strippers and gay as well. I am straight but we would lay around the home watching tv nude. It all started upon my return one night from another location (office) and found them all with friends over naked. Of course I observed as one of my roommates was also straight and female, plus a hair stylists. She was shaving, and waxing most all of them who where not already, privates including backs for the guys. It got me courious again as I hadnt done that in years since swimming in HS. I later came out to put laundry in and was in my boxers, to find out later they dared me to join in the fun. That is something I agree that is hard to find, someone raised christian and enjoys sex and nudity. Have you tried anything past the trim as you said months back? Feel free to email me directly through ya hoo under dgcyp hers. Take Care and stay warm, I keep my place at 67 in the winter and 78 in the summer.
Darin |
| Warmskin |
Posted - 11/25/2007 : 3:02:42 PM
That's even a far better idea, Melissa!!! I didn't know what your financial possibilities were at this moment, but then I didn' want to know anyway, except in vague generalities. I'm pulling for you, Melissa. You're a miracle woman, and I am grateful that you have re-established yourself as the great woman you are today. I hope your faith is always your bulwark, and that your viewpoint of being natural before God gives you the liberty and fulfillment you desire.
And to the fellow who wants to start a fund for Melissa, I say --Bravo!!!
That government governs best, which governs least - Thomas Jefferson |
| FireProf |
Posted - 11/25/2007 : 09:43:43 AM
OR.............nudist of the nation, UNITE! Send Melissa a cash donation to buy her roommate out of the shared rent deal and allow Melissa to live as she likes, with her cats and without a controlling roommate.
It's just a thought!!!
I'll contribute!! |
| melissastarr |
Posted - 11/25/2007 : 07:51:33 AM
Next ro0ommate- oh no! I'm living ON MY OWN from here on out unless I find a Christian nudist man with whom I'm ready to share the rest of my life. After this experience, no more roommates.
Melissa
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"Do they say that nudity and sex always go together? Well, then be careful and don't get pregnant while taking a bath." |
| Warmskin |
Posted - 11/23/2007 : 12:13:01 AM
Hi Melissa,
(BTW, I read your website text -- very inspitational!!)
I read the helpful comments here. One thing I might add, that you might develop various strategies for your next place in finding compatabile roommates. Doing things like interviewing prospective roommates as to their comfort with your being nude at home. The main thing is to plan for a home that works for you, wherever and whatever that home might be. You have a wonerfully developed sense of Christianity. Wow! -- if you could find a roommate with your characteristics of being a Christian nudist, that could work out great!!!
So, if you have to grin and bare it (bad pun, I know) until a breakthrough comes along either with your current roommate undergoing some changes in attitude, or one of you leaves by next July. Meanwhile, you could do some investigating of possible plans for your next roommate. Good things usually take planning, and here's your chance.
The most important thing is that this is your life; be true to yourself, and to your purpose.
There is a roommate out there, somewhere, who is perfect for you!!
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| illusion |
Posted - 11/21/2007 : 06:33:32 AM
Melissa,
I can not be help to admire you for wanting to find a solution to your problem. I also can not but help admire you for trying to make the best of the situtation you find yourself in. That is a very unusual quality in a young woman these days,(young being relative). I find to many young women these days are like your roommate, got to have things their own way. And they make life miserable for the rest of us, sometimes without meaning to. Sometimes because they intend to.
How about an off the wall idea. You say she never goes out. Now your going to tell me that you would not do this to any or your friends. But consider. Do you have any male friends, co-workers, etc, that you might introduce her to? While this would get her out of the house for a few hours and allow you to be the Melissa you want to be. If you could then ask this person to call you when they were coming back you would have ample warning and could resume your non-natural Melissa profile with time to spare. (Assuming they do not forget.) Do not promise the guy anything. Just find out if they would be intrested in meeting her. IF no then no. If yes then great for you. Who knows there may be something she is missing. Then again if she treats the guy badly he won't see her again. But if she really likes the guy and he likes her, well then maybe she will lighten up a little. Of course you need to have either a really good relationship or a really bad relationship with the guy for this to work. But who knows. If the right guy came along maybe this would make life bearable for you. Not to say this is the only solution. Maybe not even a real solution. Just a thought. But you know your roommate. Maybe this would not be the thing to do. Only you can tell.
Another idea would be to get her involved in some other project. Ask her to go bowling or to the spa with you. Places where she could meet other people. Get her to go a few times then suggest she go by herself. This way you do not have to feel you are imposing on your friends. You are taking on the burden of finding what she wants to do. But once she got going would she go by herself? Again you could then be the Melissa you want to be. But with out knowing when she would return. Who knows if she actually got a life she might leave yours alone. Of course I am not saying this to make you run off right now and try this. You need to evaluate your roommate as you would a trouble student. Will this work? Do I have to try something else to reach her? What other approach can I use? I firmly believe in your ability to find a solution to this problem. And I firmly believe you will find the best solution to this problem. Believe in your own skills. They could possibly serve you very well right now. I also belive that if you use a loving approach not a confrontational approach you will find a way to easy your path. |
| TravelingMountainNudist |
Posted - 11/15/2007 : 8:40:11 PM
You could also just go totally nude in the home and drive out the mundain. If she leaves because she does not like your life style is that your fault?
Andrew Reckeweg |
| agde |
Posted - 11/15/2007 : 8:15:52 PM
Without getting into commentary on your roommate , three technical ideas:
1 - Double door-stops (those rubber triangles) that keeps the door open enough for the cats but not enough for your roommate's head (but of course she could still see in at an angle...)
2 - Install a curtain on the back of door with a few inches of overhang on the side where the door opens. This would allow you to open the door a bit for the cats without roommate being able to see into room. If the landlord won't let you use screws to secure it to the door, get an over-the-door clothes hook and attach the curtain rod to it.
3 - You could also put a privacy screen at an angle where the door opens. It may be a bit more expensive, but has the advantage of being free-standing and movable for different situations. I had one of these in college for exactly the same reason -- until I switched roommates! |
| balataf |
Posted - 11/14/2007 : 2:50:40 PM
Socalnudist, one problem is that even the most common two sizes of door, put together, re only about 30-40% of all doors. They come in quite a variety of different sizes, and are difficult to find another place to fit that single sized item. I sold doors for several years, and have found, for instance, that a row of houses put up together in the 1920s may have whatever sizes the lumber yard had extra at the time without uniformity. Some of the modern subdivisions each have a standard, but don't bet your life on it. |
| GrayWolf |
Posted - 11/14/2007 : 11:26:05 AM
Do you need a door in the first place or would some cloth tacked across the top of the opening to screen your nudity from your room-mate be ok? Could even be quite heavy cloth or a blanket if noise was a problem. Then just leave the door open all the time and the cat will find a way in/out anytime it wants. |
| socalnudist2003 |
Posted - 11/14/2007 : 01:58:27 AM
Maybe installing a cat door in your bedroom door would help. I know you are renting but you might get approval beforehand especially since your place allows pets. Or maybe you can purchase a cheap door and replace the current door with it. This way you can bring the cat door with you everywhere your future takes you.
I think that many of us can relate to having partners in life that don't follow your beliefs. When you can turn a situation into a win, win it will be best. Keep looking for that solution before giving up |
| GrayWolf |
Posted - 11/13/2007 : 8:53:59 PM
Sorry to hear about your problem. Actually, it's your room-mates problem! But glad to see you back again.
Take care.
Don |
| melissastarr |
Posted - 11/13/2007 : 5:44:09 PM
The roommate does have issues but, alas, I don't move until July. Such is life. To make things more difficult for the next few months would be intolerable (things are already pretty bad- she's VERY weepy and making all sorts of cruel jests over the phone about my move.... it's pretty bad right now and I can hardly stand it.) But I do intend to enjoy nudism to the best of my abilities for the next few months. That means getting together with my nudist friends again and enjoying sleeping nude, regardless of what she says. I tried moving the bed last night and using something to keep the door open only a few inches. That seemed to help a bit. So, maybe sleeping won't be an issue. As for during the day, I think I just have to put up with her for a while and hope she gets a life.... she has to leave the house SOME time, right? Even if it's to visit her parents 4 minutes away..... Lord knows she calls them enough each day, maybe she can visit. We'll see. Thanks for all of your suggestions and support!
Melissa
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"Do they say that nudity and sex always go together? Well, then be careful and don't get pregnant while taking a bath." |
| balataf |
Posted - 11/13/2007 : 1:14:20 PM
Melissa:
This roomate sounds like a very troubled person, manipulative and domineering. You have equal rights if you are sharing expenses.
My Wife and I agree that you are welcome to visit, be nude, and sleep over at our place whenever you care to. We still live at the same place and have the same phone. |
| Balto Bob |
Posted - 11/13/2007 : 10:30:17 AM
I've had cats for years. I work nights and don't air condition the whole house. Try hooking a robe over the top of the door. Then place something against it so it won't come open easily(I have used an upright vacuum cleaner). This should give the cats enough room to go in and out while maintaining your privacy. My biggest problem has always been claws on bare skin  .
Bob
Have a nice NUDE day !! |
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