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| tjdjsmitty |
Posted - 11/29/2005 : 09:22:25 AM
My wife refuses to take part in nudism in any way. Not even at home. She finally has told me I could go on nudist outings such as bowling etc., but has no plans on joining me ever. My question is this.... If your partner refuses to join you even fully clothed, do you still go? I want to start enjoying being nude with others socially but not sure if I will (enjoy) without her. We spend all our time out of work together. We do everything together except for being nude. I have been to 2 resorts in the past without her knowing and enjoyed it but felt like a third wheel.
Tom Smith |
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| Reb |
Posted - 08/09/2006 : 11:36:38 AM
I suspect that it is much easier for a female nudist to get her male SO to attempt to join in social nudism, than viceversa, (I may be wrong). What I don't know is why? Has anyone addressed the reluctance of American females to try social nudism and why they seem to have such a strong resistance to it. Those that have given it an honest trial seem to love it. Most men are willing to at least try it, but some don't like it. That is the way it should be. Social Nudism is not for everyone and if it is not for you, thats ok. You should never allow your fears, whatever they are, to force you from trying something are interested in. Life is full of fears, overcoming them is one of the great victories we all can experience. |
| scale99 |
Posted - 08/03/2006 : 4:11:01 PM
I had a nice surprise yesterday when I came home. My wife was laying in the back yard reading the paper NUDE. The kids weren't home of course. Any time I have the chance to do the same, I'm there. In the last year I have taken more liberties being nude around the house and yard, and although she wasn't totally comfortable with me she accepted it. The more I did it the more she became at ease. She began wearing less around the house. She would join me sunning on the deck, she often sleeps nude, and how has a special haircut.
Neither of us have the bodies we did 25 years ago when we met, she is a beautiful lady and I take every opportunity to tell her that. Maybe now she believes me.
I think the key to this may be that I never presssured her. |
| Diger |
Posted - 03/25/2006 : 09:02:09 AM
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Originally posted by sharee
I have read the posts here, and agree that slow and easy is the best policy. Spending one day nude around the house and expecting a person to head off to a nudist club or beach the next day is going to cause problems. I do have one question. What are the mates giving as a reason they won't even spend time nude in the safety of your own homes? I find this a little odd. This says to me that something else is going on here. I would be asking my mate what is their thoughts as to nudity, and sort that out first, before I talked about going nude in a public setting. Not wanting to see your mate nude, or having your mate see you nude, sends up a red flag that something is amiss.
I agree with Sharee completely, my wife and I spent considerable time getting comfortable nude in our home then started skinny-dipping in our backyard pool long before we tried a nude beach. If one is not comfortable nude at home then you can forget social nudity. You have to think of baby steps, it will take lots of patience but it will be worth the effort.
I would like to here Sharee’s question answered it might shed some light, and give us some ideas.
What are the mates giving as a reason they won't even spend time nude in the safety of your own homes?
Diger |
| Cookie |
Posted - 03/20/2006 : 8:50:36 PM
I remember when my wife,(then girlfriend) suggested we go to a nudist beach on the Cape.
I almost died. A dream come true. Well we shyed away from the beach idea and we went to a nudist camp on the Cape. This was over 10 years ago. I remember that first experiance, we were both shy and had no idea what to expect.
But in the coming years, we have met many new friends and we enjoy being nude anytime, any where.
When the weekend arrives we are nude from the time we hit the front door, until it is time to head back to the salt mines on Monday A.M.
During the Summer months, we are nude almost every moment we can be, and we enjoy the warm weather. Being in a rural area, we don't have to worry about neighbors too much.
Also, with our friends, we make sure we have a monthly social event. We take turns at each other house. Just last weekend, we had a St. Patrick's Day party. Some where on our body we had to be wearing green. We have a social every month, whether it is Valetines Day, St. Patty's,
Mem. Day, 4th of July, etc.
Thank god my wife suggested the nude beach 10 years ago, because we would have missed out on a lot of fun and getting to know some great friends.
Cookie
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| sharee |
Posted - 03/20/2006 : 1:09:34 PM
I have read the posts here, and agree that slow and easy is the best policy. Spending one day nude around the house and expecting a person to head off to a nudist club or beach the next day is going to cause problems. I do have one question. What are the mates giving as a reason they won't even spend time nude in the safety of your own homes? I find this a little odd. This says to me that something else is going on here. I would be asking my mate what is their thoughts as to nudity, and sort that out first, before I talked about going nude in a public setting. Not wanting to see your mate nude, or having your mate see you nude, sends up a red flag that something is amiss. |
| tooldady |
Posted - 03/17/2006 : 10:27:10 PM
i am the nudist in our home and my wife calls her self the nudist apprentist its great,we do own a spa and we never wear suits in it she is willing to try almost any crazy idea i come up with. we had our first trip to a nude beach here in california a couple of years agoe for a day then our second trip we went to terra cotta inn last summer, this summer in may we are going to visit haulover beach. my wife does not call her self a nudist but i think she is liking it more every time we go out.i know she is loving her all over tan and so do i |
| sea foam |
Posted - 03/17/2006 : 9:31:55 PM
my wife of 15 years has gradually, during the past 2 years, progressed from being set against public nudity to enjoying what she now terms "our kind of beach." when we happen upon those rare opportunities to spend a couple of days by ourselves away from family and work, she readily suggests looking for a venue where we can "relax," which means spending some time naked on a beach. she's gradually opening up and becoming more comfortable in her skin, and it has been a treat to walk that path with her.
some things just take time...and the requisite patience.
sea foam |
| GuyThaLizard |
Posted - 03/17/2006 : 12:59:19 PM
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Originally posted by tjdjsmitty
Cheri,
No she will not go at all. She doesn't disapprove she's just not comfortable being in the company of nude people. She honestly doubts she ever will be.
Hello Tom
I have the same with my wife. She says she does not have a problem with me going nude at the beach or hiking but she will never go with me, so I go alone. She seems to like my all-over-tan and is sure to let me know when I am getting white and need one. :) My kids also are not naturists and tend to giggle or get embarassed when I speak of going to the beach. I have heard from one of my daughters that my oldest girl has been to the nude beach in town, topless.
I guess we just have to be patient and enjoy our own naturisim till hopefully some day they join us.
bye4now!
Guy
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GuyThaLizard,
"Nude" just means barefoot all over.
... Go and loose the sackcloth from off thy loins,
and put off thy shoe from thy foot. And he did so,
walking naked and barefoot. (Isaiah 20:2-4)
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| lifelong nudist |
Posted - 03/12/2006 : 05:00:44 AM
hi Tilly,
I was raised in a nudist family, so i thought you might like to hear what my mother did?
She was completely naked at home, quite alot of the time, but I do not ever recall being able to see her vulva well. she had a full pubic bush, and would always sit "lady like" as she called it.
I always thought it strange, she would be a nudist, and shy about exposing herself.
I hope you find the freedom, to be as natural as you please in your own home, with your own family....
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| Stilllearning |
Posted - 03/10/2006 : 4:37:46 PM
Like many of you, my wife doesn't see nudity as I do. There is one post above that stands out and notes that it's a private thing. I totally agree. The element of consent between participants in any behavior is paramount. I don't choose to listen to right-wing conservatives and will excuse myself. I'll defend homosexuality to the death, but will not participate in it. Conversely, it's my wife's choice. I must admit that I'm new here and the extent of my nudity has been private, but my wife knows I enjoy it and I have encouraged her. No, not to do it socially, just enjoy it at home once in a while by mutual consent. I've only succeeding in whetting her appetite for sleeping nude and that is probably only the result of the warmth she feels when she cuddles up to me. If I walk from the shower to the bedroom nude, I'm not a nudist in her parlants, but an "exhibitionist". Someone noted the state of mind difference between nudity and naturism. My fascination with nudity might be a little odd. I only knew one other nudist in my life and I discovered that losing clothes led to losing mental inhibitions. The conversations were so revealing and without boundaries. No, before you think it, it wasn't a sexual relationship at all. I don't require a companion to be nude with. It has always been very freeing to be without clothes.
I've never asked my wife to socialize with me nude. In fact, I don't socialize nude. I would like to try a nude beach someday and I think it would be great to be nude with the right people. I've never hidden the fact that I enjoy being without clothes, but don't chide her for not accepting it. As noted, it's her choice.
Interestingly (been married more than 30 years) I've noted that she can get quite loose in public situations (with a little help from alcohol). On a recent vacation near a beach with lots of people around, a woman lifted her top and my wife dropped her pants to her knees so that the people in back of her got a moon and then lifted her blouse to all in front of her.
I laughed and the crowd clapped. You can be assured that if I had done the same thing, I wouldn't be married today. |
| stewincanada |
Posted - 02/21/2006 : 8:43:31 PM
My wife generally does not go naked around the house, apart from nipping to and from the bathroom. She has no problem at all with me being naked, which I usually am in the summer months, although not at this time of the year.
At nude beaches she can take it or leave it..depending on how she feels...
Stewart 
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| TallTim |
Posted - 02/21/2006 : 3:49:39 PM
My wife does not mind me nude around the house but not around her kids. She has tried nudity but does not want to try social nudity with a club. She will go to a c/o or nude beach and ease into it but neither of us are real "social" types. I might not have clothes, but I will have a book! 
Tim |
| smendes |
Posted - 01/19/2006 : 10:45:02 AM
My wife walks around the house nude... but thats it...
she has told me she would not be going to any nudist club or beach... she has no interest in social nudism...
in fact she has no interest in social anything... she does not like meeting people.... she does not want friends... she is a total recluse...
so that seriously curtails my involvement also |
| NudeAl |
Posted - 01/18/2006 : 10:42:33 PM
Tilly your situation is similar to my own. Except that my family have gone with me at various times to nudist resorts and beaches. I am always nude around the house in the evenings and in the mornings before work and on the weekends, most of the time in other words. My wife will go topless much of the time and my kids will run around naked after haveing thier evening bath or shower but I am nude around the house far more than anyone else. I have asked each of them privatly if they are okay with my nudity, including my 22 year old daughter, and all have said yes of course it is part of who you are. I think if you were to talk to your husband and perhaps show him this site he would be very supportive. Most of the time things are really no big deal we just tend to make them a big deal in our minds. Good luck and let us know how things go.
"The best dress for walking is nakedness." Colin Fletcher |
| FireProf |
Posted - 01/15/2006 : 10:56:17 PM
I figured that's what you thought........no problemo! |
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