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Spontanudity
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Posted - 12/21/2003 : 07:11:18 AM
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Melissa,
Your comments on dating are interesting... I don't know whether I'd ever eliminate a potential partner because they weren't a naturist. I think its a little prejudice to think that a textile wouldn't want to be involved in your new lifestyle.
Cheers,
Spontanudity
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melissastarr
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Posted - 12/21/2003 : 09:00:27 AM
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Spontanudity,
I agree with you wholeheartedly. Let me clarify my thoughts a little bit, ok? I'm DEFINITELY not looking for a date right now and certainly not a husband. I think, though, that if I were to meet a compatible nudist male it would be easier for me because then I wouldn't have to explain my lifestyle or convert him to my lifestyle. That's not to say I'm closed off to textiles, however. BUT, I don't think it would make any sense for me to date someone who is clearly opposed to nudism. For example, I have friends right now who are convinced that my nudist lifestyle is a sin and they're praying that I will repent of it. What would be the point of me dating or marrying someone like that? I'm not going to become a textile again and the chances of him becoming a nudist are slim to none. Furthermore, I think the daily messages about how sinful I am or how wrong nudism is would grate on my nerves, you know? So, a nudist would be easiest but an open-minded textile would be fine, too. It makes no sense to date/ marry someone who would make my nudist life miserable with negative messages.
Melissa
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Spontanudity
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Posted - 12/21/2003 : 09:30:10 AM
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Melissa,
So, in other words, you need somebody that has consideration and respect for your choices and your lifestyle. I think that applies to all relationships regardless of whether they are a nudist or not.
Cheers,
Spontanudity
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msinger
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 Posted - 12/21/2003 : 10:57:15 AM
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Melissa, thanks for your nudist history. It is always enjoyable to hear how others have entered the lifestyle. We always discuss these type of topics when we meet new people at the resorts. It's a good ice breaker.
Thnaks again, Mike
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melissastarr
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Posted - 12/21/2003 : 11:05:39 AM
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Spontanudity,
I think that pretty much summarizes it. But I really DON'T want to have to wear clothes to keep my mate's mouth shut. LOL
MSinger,
No problem sharing my nudist history. Maybe we should make a nudist history thread? I'd enjoy hearing others' stories.
Melissa
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CoolNude72
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 Posted - 12/21/2003 : 4:56:47 PM
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Thank you irishred and Randy.
As far as dating conversation goes.... I feel that when I do start dating again, it will definately be a nudist, considering the problems I have had with my previous girlfriends. They were all textiles and all had different opinions about my lifestyle, and all wound up near the end trying to change ME from being a nudist. You can call me selfish I guess, but I really am not sure if I can go through that anymore. All I want is to be happy with a woman that is happy for who I am, not for what she wants me to be.
Ray
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Spontanudity
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Posted - 12/22/2003 : 05:45:06 AM
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Ray,
Mate, its hard enough trying to find a special person amongst everybody in the world. Additionally, given the imbalance of men to women in the naturist community, I think you'd have a hard time narrowing potential partners down to naturists only. Let me know how you go tho'.
Cheers,
Spontanudity
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melissastarr
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Posted - 12/22/2003 : 06:16:15 AM
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So the question, Spontanudity, is whether it's easier for a nudist woman to find a nudist man than a textile man? If the balance is really skewed, which I have noticed, perhaps it's easier for us nudist women to date in the nudist world than in the dressed world? Just a thought/ curiousity.
Melissa
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Spontanudity
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Posted - 12/22/2003 : 06:33:37 AM
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Melissa,
Yet another interesting question. I guess its easier because you at least have one thing in common. Tho' I'm guessing it'd be harder to sort through those that are geniune naturists from those that aren't, particularly on the internet... But that's pretty much like sorting any potential partner out of the crowd.
I believe that "if its meant to be, it will be"... Though I do wonder whether its wise just to sit back and wait for something to happen... I guess sometimes you have follow your heart and take a leap of faith. Either way, its about falling... In love or flat on your face.
Cheers,
Spontanudity
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cheef
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Posted - 12/22/2003 : 09:40:35 AM
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Originally posted by melissastarr
If the balance is really skewed, which I have noticed, perhaps it's easier for us nudist women to date in the nudist world than in the dressed world?
I don't know if the dating part is necessarily easier, but there is no doubt that the numbers are much more heavily skewed in your favor.
Over the years, I've generally told nudist guys that it's easier to find a textile girlfriend and convince her to become a nudist than it is to find a girlfriend who's already a nudist. In the same time, I've told women asking "why can't I get a date?" that if they would just become nudists, they would be find plenty of high-quality men lining up to date them.
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melissastarr
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Posted - 12/22/2003 : 6:15:28 PM
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How'd we get on the subject of dating? Interesting.
I get to actually experience nudist family home life in 4 short days. I can't wait. And I'll DEFINITELY give you all a full report! (Well, maybe I'll omit a few things.)
Melissa
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calmnude
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Posted - 12/22/2003 : 6:28:50 PM
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melissa,
have a GREAT time at cheri's (mom's). will be interested to hear from both of you about the visit.
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papabare
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Posted - 03/06/2004 : 01:08:07 AM
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Originally posted by cheef
.......... In the same time, I've told women asking "why can't I get a date?" that if they would just become nudists, they would be find plenty of high-quality men lining up to date them.
http://cheef.com
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/nudist-news-group/
OK I know I am posting to an old topic but hey (I was looking for another topic and found this instead).
Cheef, this is what I do aswell :) I have told my Mom (Who is having problems with her BF, first relationship since she divorced my father 27 years ago :) that she needs to come to the resorts with me and her grandchildren, lots of great single guys there.
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Kimberly
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Posted - 03/06/2004 : 02:46:38 AM
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That might work papabare!
Kim =^.^=
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chic
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Posted - 03/06/2004 : 11:39:46 AM
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Yep, you've got to get out and meet people to have a chance of success.
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