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Teva
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 Posted - 03/26/2009 : 10:39:35 AM
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melissa , anyone would be crazy not to say hi to u ! so hello !!
She doesn't seem to have been here since mid-Jan.
Teva (also female)
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gulfwaterlily
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Posted - 03/26/2009 : 1:57:34 PM
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I also noticed that Melissa hasn't written another post on this thread since mid-January. I hope she looks at it from time to time though because I wanted to say I really liked what she wrote. I agreed with just about everything she wrote and shared the same thoughts on experiences we had in common (such as not being offended when a single man has approached me at a nude location, being able to easily tell if a guy was talking to me because we were having a polite, genuine conversation or if he was just hitting on me, and also getting CREEPED OUT by the type of guy that never approaches me to say anything, but would just stare at me for long periods of time. YUCK!)
Due to a lot of very boring reasons that I will spare sharing, I haven't been fortunate enough to go to any nude resort or beach in over 2 1/2 years! And I can't even begin to tell you how much I miss it. But when I used to go to a nudist resort near my home at the time I tended to attract a lot of male attention. I don't think someone's physical appearance should play a role in anyway when it comes to choosing who people are willing to talk to and who they wont. But let's be honest here, sadly we all know that many people do judge people by their appearance including people that are nudist and those who are not. I don't know for sure why I was approached by single men frequently. Maybe it was because I always attended this resort alone. Maybe it was because I was a local resident that knew a lot about the area and most of the other people were there as tourists on vacation(the resort was in the Walt Disney World area of Florida). Maybe it was because I was blessed with good genes that allowed me to have a great figure at the time. Key words: "at the time". Somewhere between age 42 and 44 those good genes cruely abbandoned me with out my consent. Yes, I was hit on lots of times. Again, I'm strongly against judging another person based soley or mainly on that person's physical appearance. I do think it's completely normal if someone does a double take when an attractive person walks by. I think that's just human nature. From the neck down I may have looked good, but from the neck up I was certainly no Melissa! Not even close. I would consider myself a plain Jane at best. When I was out in public fully dressed, single men approached me far less often. Unfortunately I wasn't as capable or strong as Melissa when it came to independently handling the men that were flirting. Eventually the staff caught on to the fact that I wasn't very good at standing up for myself. I'm not proud of being that way and I am working on it. It was incredible to see how protective the staff of this resort became towards me. If they noticed a guy talking to me for quite awhile, one of the employees would come over and say something like "Lily, you have a phone call at the office". Of course this wasn't true. It was sort of a code system they made up as a way of looking out for me. They knew me pretty well because I would go for day visits a couple of times a week. They also were aware that I had recently been the victim of a violent crime which robbed me of a lot of confidence and left me very vulnerable for quite awhile. If I needed a way to get out of the situation, I had an excuse to leave. If I was actually having a nice conversation with a guy that was only interested in having a friendly conversation, I would tell the employee that informed me of my non-existant phone call, "Thanks, but could you take a message for me and I'll call them back". Then they got the message that I was doing o.k.
I didn't mean to turn my post into such a long confession of my areas of emotional weakness. The main thing I would say to ANYONE who wanted to know if it was appropriate to approach someone that was by them selves is simply this: Check your motives and/or intentions. If your goal is simply to talk to them, then go for it! I had lots of great conversations with many single men who were comfortable enough to approach me. If they hadn't, I would have missed out on a lot of wonderful discussions. Who knows, you may approach someone with the original intention of just wanting to talk but end up really hitting it off together. There's nothing wrong with that!
But if someone's intentions to approach someone are just to hit on them, I would suggest giving it a little more thought before you actually approach them. Just for the record I wanted to let hefe4pres (the man that originally started this thread back in December) know that in my opinion, I thought your reasons and motives for wanting to approach certain people were certainly appropriate ones. I was happy to read that people gave you helpful advice that allowed you to feel more comfortable approaching people the next time you went back to the Dakota Hot Springs. I think you'll find that overall nudists tend to be friendlier than other people, and I mean friendly in a good way not a sleazy way.
-Lily
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NudeAl
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Posted - 03/26/2009 : 2:23:39 PM
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I do not tend to strike up conversations with the opposite sex at a nude destination. I am a happily maried man and I have a wife who tends to be a bit jealous so I have learned to simply be polite but not chatty. I am also a bit of an introvert by nature, now if someone does strike up a conversation with me I am more than willing to talk but my wife is the real talker in the family. She talks to everyone about anything, so I am usually introduced into the conversation that way. I really do enjoy conversations with other nudists but at times it can be a bit awkward getting the ball rolling. I don't go often enough anymore to be considered a regular at nude resorts so I have that going against me.
However, some of the most interesting conversations I have ever had have been with other nudists at nude destinations. There seems to be something about the nude environment that allows us to, open up so to speak. I am reminded of some amazing conversations I had while sitting naked in a natural hotsprings down in Baja Mexico everything from politics to cooking recipies to aliens and life on other planets and of course tequilla. Amazing what you can come up with while gazing at the stars from a hotsprings in the desert.
The woods are lovely, dark and deep, But I have promises to keep, And miles to go before I sleep, And miles to go before I sleep. -- Robert Frost
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balataf
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Posted - 03/26/2009 : 9:17:31 PM
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My experience, such as it is, is that the absensce of clothing makes no particular difference in conversational byplay. The same basic human subjects didn't change without textiles, (with the obvious exception of complimenting unusual clothing styles.)
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olwino1
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Posted - 03/27/2009 : 08:51:18 AM
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Another missing female contributor ... interesting pattern , Melissa where are you ?
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Teva
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Posted - 03/27/2009 : 10:39:38 AM
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Originally posted by olwino1
Another missing female contributor ... interesting pattern , Melissa where are you ?
Melissa can be found at www.NaturistFamily.net
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FlCpl4NewdFun
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Posted - 03/27/2009 : 6:36:51 PM
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You all have your Melissa's confused.
Ultrahd was obviously referring to sunnymelissa on page 1 of this post.
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MichiganMan
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Posted - 06/27/2009 : 12:56:51 AM
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On the topic, I would think that being nude doesn't really change how you should approach someone.
Staring and the like are just as rude when clothed.
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CalTom
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Posted - 06/27/2009 : 10:39:53 AM
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Another missing female contributor ... interesting pattern , Melissa where are you ?
"Me thinks" M.I.A. SunnyMelissa may fall into a category known as fictional female forum contributors. At another nudist website there was an early twenties single woman desperately searching for a male to take her to nudist resorts and beaches. Her profile was a dream come true right down to her photos, early pics of Czech Supermodel Daniela Pestova.
Gentleman, if it seems too good to be true than likely it is. 
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tsunami
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Posted - 09/09/2010 : 04:57:08 AM
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I am new to the nudist society and have found the other nudists to be even more friendly than the clothed persons I encounter in society. We talk to many singles, couples, and even kids at our resort. They have all been open to conversation and no one feels awkward about it. IT seems nudists are more open and accepting of people than others in society. Thats the best part about being a nudist. We are there nude in front of each other and its cool and accepted and seems we are all equals no matter what body type, age, gender we are. And the great part is you cant even guess at what financial class everyone is. Its great being 'stripped' of these things that are limiting in regular society.
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txnatnud
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Posted - 09/09/2010 : 06:36:01 AM
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Well said, Laurie.
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I had the encounter of being approached by a woman on the beach my very first trip she was with her family and she could tell by looking at me I was brand new to nudism and moderately scared to death being nude in public for my first time. My thought personally in my mind when she came up to say hello was oh my , is she looking at my penis? what does she think? etc was very stressful at first but she talked to me for a while and I became much more relaxed.
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