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Mr Nudist
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Posted - 12/10/2012 : 08:14:46 AM
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I am waiting for her next visit so I can test waters again or just keep getting her used to seeing me nude.
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runekkid
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When my in-laws come to visit, they usually stay for at least three months. It is very difficult to be a nudist at home if they are dead set against it. So I took an chance and confided in my mother-in-law that I have a secret... I just really don't like wearing clothes very much! I asked her if she would mind if I didn't sometimes.
She replied that she had already noticed that about me. She said, "It is your home, you can dress as you like." Then I approached my father-in-law and told him about my discussion with his wife and asked if he had any objections. He said if she was ok with it, he was too. They see me nude now occasionally with no real problem. I consequently feel much closer to them now than I ever did before. My wife is another story. She remains real uncomfortable with the situation, and will invariably say something if I am nude in front of her as well as them. Oh well!
I guess my main point here is that, if you do talk to her, rather than classifying yourself ("I am a nudist")I think it is better to say how you yourslf feel about the issue. ("I just don't like wearing clothes very much"). I think telling her it is your secret (although she doubtless already knows) will perhaps help as well. It was very difficult for me to have that conversation, but I am glad now that I did.
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Posted - 12/11/2012 : 06:35:30 AM
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runekkid===I did talk to her that way I didnt just tell her oh I am a nudist I did give her the reasons behind why I prefer to be nude, how it began etc. She was very understanding and supportive but she didnt feel at the time in beginning to tell me that my nudity around her would make her comfortable. It took about 2 years after I sat down with her to discuss this before we had an encounter in which I was fully nude in front of her. How old were you when you had this conversation with your in laws?
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runekkid
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Posted - 12/11/2012 : 9:42:12 PM
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I was well, er, um, gulp, 55. Yeah, I'm really pushing some boundaries here! Better late than never, though. It was just a year ago, actually. They are 80 this year. Still sharp minded and have opinions on everything. (I am talking about them, not necessarily myself, LOL)
Actually, a harder situation for me is my grown son who has moved in here. He is 32 and has aversion to my nakedness. It is pretty hard to take. (Especially when he doesn't contribute a dime toward expenses) I feel like I am a textile prisoner in my own house. I haven't had the courage yet to just ignore him and do what I want in my own home. I would have a real fight with his mother if I did, plus he might just move out. Hey!!!!
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FireProf
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Posted - 12/11/2012 : 10:51:51 PM
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My mother in law is getting up there in age and is having some real medical issues. Still has a very sharp mind but the body is failing her. The Prof and I have talked and I told her that I would not object to her coming to live with us if she was agreeable. The Prof said ... "I guess it would be okay. She's having trouble seeing anyway and she wouldn't be able to notice if we were clothed or naked!"
It probably would have been easier for us to have continued living as nudists with my father in law. He was a bit more progressive and liberal. My MIL ... a tad TOO conservative.
Loves being naked. Plays well with others!
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Posted - 12/12/2012 : 06:08:28 AM
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Yeah I chose not to wait until I was like 55 to tell my MIL I was into being nude. I am 35 now I felt sooner then better plus it gives me longer to be nude in front of her to get her used to it.
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Nudony
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Posted - 12/12/2012 : 10:26:11 PM
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My MIL story is a bit "different"; since it was actually my ex - her daughter - that did the "coming out." She just one evening opened the door nude when her Mom made an unannounced visit. On that particular day, she just didn't feel like covering up anymore. When my MIL walked through the door and my wife, standing nude behind it, just pushed the door shut and just walked right back into the kitchen: my MIL's expression was priceless. But in all fairness, it wasn't a complete surprise. My wife and her Mom had talked about it; my MIL knew we were often nude at home and were also social nudists. She just hadn't been confronted with it until that day! She ajusted pretty rapidly to the situation though. It wasn't uncommon for me to come home and finding my MIL and wife in the kitchen or on the living-room couch sitting/standing side by side; one nude, the other dressed.
On that very night my wife came out, my MIL also uttered these famous words to me: "It's your house; don't mind me!" Up to that point I'd always worn a pair of shorts around her. I was hesitant. Then a few evenings later, as I was exiting the bathroom and walking though the hallway to the bedroom, I heard a familiar voice yelling out "Heyheyhey!" (or "Yooohoo!"; I forget). And I realized it was my MIL, standing at the end of the hallway, and "being funny", so to speak. My wife hadn't told me her Mom had made another unexpected visit. That and the verbal exclamation totally threw me off. I was weirded out. I stood in the bedroom, thinking for a second...and decided to put my shorts on. And just kept/put them on every time she dropped by.
A couple of years later. We'd relocated; and decided to go visit the MIL for a day. As we walk through the door, my MIL uttered another set of famous words: "My home-your home. Make yourselves comfortable!" In a blink of an eye my wife was nude and helping our daughter do the same. I immediately flashed back to the "Heyheyhey" *or "Yoohoo") expressed a couple of years earlier. So I jumped on the phone, called my best friend and ran out of the house.
I came back late in the night. I knocked; my wife opened the door, still nude. As I entered the house, I saw a nude backside exiting the bathroom and disappearing into the main bedroom. I gave my wife a stunned look. We walked upstairs and she told me that indeed, her Mom was nude. She'd disrobed shortly after I'd left and the three of them had spent the evening nude. As we left the next day, I realized I'd blown it. Once on the road, I asked my wife a gazillion questions. And what she told me perplexed me for a long time. My MIL had in fact been puzzled about the fact I'd never been nude in her presence. She'd thought quite a few times about joining in; but my lack of nudity made her think I didn't want her as a participant in our nudist family activities. That night, she'd decided she was going to make the "leap" and go nude anyway. And then I took off. Due to timing and distance, the opportunity never presented itself again. Bummer.
The blame for this rests squarely on my shoulders. I failed to communicate. That evening when my wife "came out", or shortly afterwards, I should have pulled my MIL aside and discussed/explained to her the nudist philosophy. After the "Heyheyhey", I should have addressed the appropriateness of her comment instead of covering up. Realistically, had I communicated with her, we could have entered into a situation where she'd been nude with us whenever she'd visited; and vice-versa. But...
The point of all this, I guess...is to not fail to communicate. Perhaps your MIL won't go nude when you/she visits; but then again...that's what I thought too.
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Posted - 12/13/2012 : 06:12:42 AM
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I do talk with my MIL often so the subject isnt new and she does at times insist that I be clothed but at same time says my nudity isnt a big deal to her if she sees it. For her I think its all about context and also length of time nude that determines her comfort with it.
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Posted - 12/15/2012 : 09:30:20 AM
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I think over time your mother in law will get used to you being nude around her. Does wife join you in going nude around the house??
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Posted - 12/15/2012 : 09:33:02 AM
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No wife doesnt and the twist in all this is the MIL told me from beginning she isnt ok with my nudity around her in general but if wife is around she said not to do it at all, so if she saw me nude if it was just MIL and myself the MIL doesnt have a huge negative reaction.
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Posted - 12/25/2012 : 02:39:37 AM
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Most of us would feel uncomfortable nude in front of family members would are not partners or may be children and not nudist inclined themselves. Your mother-in-law is probably too embarrassed to say what she feels and your wife has indicated that she'd rather you didn't.
So much depends on context and custom. Non-nudist wives generally don't mind their partners being nude in front them in private even if younger children are around. When visitors (family or friends) come round it is customary to cover up.
If you live in a warm climate then nude sunbathing or nude swimming with non-nudist family/friends who know you is different from generally being nude around the home.
Just act appropriately, consider how others feel and avoid making your desire to get naked paramount when others with you feel uncomfortable with it.
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Posted - 12/25/2012 : 07:17:26 AM
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Freeco---you are right for the most part. However the MIL has told me from time to time she understood my reason for being nude. And finds my nudity not as offensive as it would be if it were in the wrong context. She can handle it in small doses.
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