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Spontanudity
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 Posted - 11/08/2003 : 8:57:57 PM
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Being a young single male and frequently meeting potential partners while out and about, I have often wondered when is the best time to tell the person you're a naturist.
I've tried different approaches to the subject, some I have told on the first night others I have waited a considerable amount of time.
My feeling is that you need to establish the relationship before bringing up the subject. I think is primarily due to the societies association nudity with sex.
So when is the best time:
a) First meeting?
b) Within a week?
c) Months?
d) Years?
Cheers,
Spontanudity
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rockinghorse61
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Posted - 11/08/2003 : 9:54:44 PM
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I have only told my wife of 25 years and no one else. Although not interested in it herself, she is tolerating it with me. 25 years ago, I was not that serious about it so I never raised it. Had I been that serious about it when getting to know her, I would have had to bring it up to her within a few weeks. So, if you are really serious about being a nudist, bring it up early or consider having a limited experience with it as I am having. The longer you wait, the harder it will be.
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Cheri
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Posted - 11/08/2003 : 10:15:36 PM
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IMHO, I think getting to know the person. When the new partner is trusting of you.
Another suggestion: leave some information laying around, possibly my reluctant partner brochure that can be found online at - /cheri.html. Without admitting your interest, ask your partner what he/she feels about it possibly saying that skinny dipping sounds relaxing. Just my 2 cents.
:) Cheri
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melissastarr
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Posted - 11/09/2003 : 03:03:41 AM
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I have no experience with this, but being the genius that I am.... if you meet your partner at a nudist event, it'll probably be ok to mention that you're a nudist at the first meeting. LOL Sorry, it's 3am and I'm tired and just couldn't resist.
Melissa
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Kimberly
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Posted - 11/09/2003 : 03:14:20 AM
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Spontanudity;
One posible solution is to talk about about the all over tan that you have. That might get some intrest going in how you got the all over tan.
Kim =^.^=
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Spontanudity
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Posted - 11/09/2003 : 07:58:57 AM
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Kim,
I'm a fair skin boy... You can never really tell whether I've got an all over tan or not.
I really don't think its that simple. I've been out tonight with a very strick catholic girl, I can't imagine introducing her to the concept of naturism in the near future. Tho' it doesn't mean I can't do it some time in the future. In fact, I feel that if I did it now, it could mean the end of a potential relationship.
Cheers,
Spontanudity
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FireProf
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 Posted - 11/10/2003 : 01:19:12 AM
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I would think you can tell when the right time is to tell someone. If the chemistry is right and the conversation lends itself to opening up about your lifestyle or interests that's the time to tell someone, it could be the first date or may be after several dates.
The thing is, you want to be honest, better to know up front if someone you are going to date or want to see over and over again is going to accept your lifestyle or interest in nudism.
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FireProf
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Posted - 11/10/2003 : 01:23:44 AM
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I would think you can tell when the right time is to tell someone. If the chemistry is right and the conversation lends itself to opening up about your lifestyle or interests that's the time to tell someone, it could be the first date or may be after several dates.
The thing is, you want to be honest, better to know up front if someone you are going to date or want to see over and over again is going to accept your lifestyle or interest in nudism. Best to know up front, then to really get to liking someone and then tell them, to find out they are adamently opposed to nudism or nudity. You then put yourself in a position to make a choice between this person and something you really love doing.
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Kimberly
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Posted - 11/10/2003 : 02:34:27 AM
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Spontanudity;
I was being facetious with my answer to you, I think fire proof has the right idea.
Kim =^.^=
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Spontanudity
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Posted - 11/10/2003 : 05:14:23 AM
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I've tried telling a few girls straight out... Most run a mile! :) I guess it shows how many people have misconcieved ideas about naturism.
Cheers,
Spontanudity
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Fred3
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Posted - 11/10/2003 : 09:49:07 AM
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It seems to me there has to be a level of trust generated between two people, before introducing a new partner. I don't think decide when to tell them according to any time table, but rather a comfort and trust level. At the same time, I dont' think one should hold back telling them for an overly long time. This only leads to feelings of distrust, that person wondering what else you're keeping from them, as well as your own anxieties of not being open with them and not doing together what you love doing.
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Spontanudity
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Posted - 11/11/2003 : 03:13:08 AM
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For us single folks out there, its a tough decision. Many people have preconcieved ideas about naturism. So I kind of think its a gradual process. I normally bring up the lighter side of nudity, say talking about a strange experience i had while nude and try to see how they react. If all goes well then I tell them, others i tend to wait until the trust is firm.
Cheers,
Spontanudity
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Kimberly
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Posted - 11/11/2003 : 03:47:43 AM
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In some cases, not all cases, a single female might feel vulnerable about going nude. If a single female goes nude at a beach or club with a guy, then she might think the next step is sex. After you two have grown to know each other, and trust each other then she might be more acceptable to the suggestion.
Kim =^.^=
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Bare in the Desert
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Posted - 11/12/2003 : 02:02:02 AM
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I got lucky I guess, my girlfriend and I of 7 months had no idea either one was a home nudist. It wasnt until about 3 months ago that we started talking about it, after we established our physical relationship and realized this was just one of many things we had in common. But still it wasnt even brought up by either of us until 4 months into the relationship. So what I am saying is its a dynamic situration and it really depends on the person you are dating.
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Kimberly
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Posted - 11/12/2003 : 02:20:33 AM
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Thats great Bare in the Desert, you both had an interest in nudism, I think you are lucky. From what I read on the board, most men are into nudism, and are trying to convince their wives or girl friends to try it.
Kim =^.^=
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Spontanudity
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Posted - 11/12/2003 : 06:02:53 AM
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Kim,
I take your point. Its a very difficult subject and really needs to be discussed a little a time. Saying that, most of the girl friends I've introduced to naturism are still into it long after our relationship has ended.
Cheers,
Spontanudity
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