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| jjinohio2 |
Posted - 10/18/2004 : 02:35:18 AM
Wife and I want to participate in landed & non-landed club events, but do not want to leave our children behind. We have a 13 Y/O daughter and a 15 Y/O son who are unaware of our interests. Looking for suggestions on how to approach the subject with them without turning them off or 'grossing them out'. Any suggestions? |
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| n/a |
Posted - 03/06/2012 : 10:33:02 AM
For me when I got into nudism without the help of parents I was around 15 and I would have loved for family to have been involved so that I could have learned that being nude is acceptable and normal. But at least sit down and talk to them, my parents had gone to nude resorts without me and my sister but yet when my mom found out I enjoyed nudism she never told me or admitted going to the nude resort. |
| CarrieAnne |
Posted - 04/27/2010 : 07:00:00 AM
Mariarose: Love your quote.
I have recently told my 12, 12, & 9 yr old boys about my being a nudist & while they aren't up for being nude themselves, the accept this about me. They don't mind my being nude in front of them but prefer not to be nude in front of me. I think it helped that I wouldn't necessarily hide myself in front of them (do a few chores before my bath nude or walk from shower to room nude) & I've always been fairly open with them on other topics. The only thing that really surprised them is that I want to go to a nudist resort. They didn't even blink an eye when I told them my first professional massage would be done in the nude by both me & my masseur. They just didn't want to see me getting it or see "Naked Dan" as they call my masseur/friend. (BTW: He thinks that moniker is cute!)
~Carrie~ |
| mariarose |
Posted - 12/20/2009 : 4:21:27 PM
Diger, please feel free to spread the word. Gerry really likes how I put it also. I may even make it my signature.
"Naturism is about being real, not about being naked."
Maria |
| Diger |
Posted - 12/20/2009 : 11:31:37 AM
Mariarose,
I have never heard it put quit this way before but I agree.
quote:
Originally posted by mariarose
Being a naturist is about being real, not about being naked. If the parents are always real, then Teens learn they can be, too.
Hope you don't mind but I'm going to use this myself.
Diger |
| Charged |
Posted - 12/19/2009 : 11:47:32 PM
As a 15 year-old boy, ( admin, please don't kick me out for being "underage") I know that being naked in front of them without informing them would be awkward. If they agree, take them to a clothing-optional resort and let them get a feel for the place. Just whatever you do, don't lay it all on them at once or else it will make the situation weird. |
| mariarose |
Posted - 12/13/2009 : 08:25:37 AM
I think this is also a relationship issue, and not just an age (teenager) issue. Have the parents cultivated the habit of discussions about life, philosophy, world cultures? Do the children see the parents as complete people in their own rights, or are they (as has been allowed to happen far too often) ONLY Mom and Dad? Yes, I know that works both ways, and too many children are mere extensions of the parent's egos. I say that when a proper relationship is cultivated and encouraged, then talking about sticky subjects (and everything can be sticky with a teenager!) is managable. Teenagers are tough, but they are the adults of the future, and worth becoming acquainted with, in my opinion. And if we are not willing to talk and get them to talk about nonnudist issues, then I don't hold out much hope for a relationship transformation about nudism. Let them become acquainted with the real people you are apart from the social nudist venue, and you might succeed.
My youngast son was just here yesterday, and the three of us had a great conversation, with great give and take as equals. He told us some things we did not know, and we told him some things he did not know. No, it was not about social nudity, but my point is that that kind of friendship is not an accident, I cultivated it all his life, and Gerry did too, when he became part of the family. We could always talk. I hope we always shall be able too.
Being a naturist is about being real, not about being naked. If the parents are always real, then Teens learn they can be, too. |
| Ricki00 |
Posted - 12/13/2009 : 01:37:16 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Diger
The sad part of this is, that jjinohio2 posted this nearly 3 and a half years ago and that was his only post. Good people have offered good advice and we don't know if he was even serious about his post. My hopes are some person in a similar situation has had some benefit from all this advice cause it just may have fallen on a deaf ear.
Diger
Well my situation actually now ours is kind of simailar now. |
| Fleshlover |
Posted - 12/14/2008 : 11:36:48 AM
Do you have any nude Photographs of them when they were young? If so, get them out & look through them together. Also, if you have a secluded place to go skinny-dipping or nude sun-bathing together (private pool,creek etc.) GO! Doing this as a Family will be easier for them as opposed to going naked in front of strangers.
Once they get use to it they will likely enjoy being seen naked, then they will be comfortable naked in front of everyone. |
| Diger |
Posted - 02/02/2008 : 11:21:31 AM
The sad part of this is, that jjinohio2 posted this nearly 3 and a half years ago and that was his only post. Good people have offered good advice and we don't know if he was even serious about his post. My hopes are some person in a similar situation has had some benefit from all this advice cause it just may have fallen on a deaf ear.
Diger |
| McNigel |
Posted - 02/02/2008 : 05:16:24 AM
It is impossible to introduce anything to a teenager.
If you are very cunning you can make them think that something was their idea, but I don't rate your chances with nudism.
I'd say your chances are 0.001% with the boy and 5% with the girl. |
| sailawaybob |
Posted - 02/01/2008 : 7:35:27 PM
My two children were raised as nudist but when they were approaching the teen years they quit participating ,we all go through those awkward years and they did to,I have seen a few teens introduced to nudism but have seen more leave and have talked to the parents about it but came to the same conclusion ,they're teenagers.As much as I enjoy being a nudist maybe if I was introduced to it by my parents as a teen I may have shyed away ,because I was like most teen and very self concious and shy,but good luck and I hope it works out for you. |
| jim19452 |
Posted - 11/19/2007 : 11:05:25 AM
I agree with Doc. I am of two minds about informing the teenagers about your nudist activities. If the subject came up, I wouldn't dodge the issue.
Best Wishes, Jim |
| NaturistDoc |
Posted - 11/18/2007 : 2:57:35 PM
Recalling my own teenage years (back in the Mesozoic Era), I can't help but think that the adolescent years may be the worst time to try and introduce your children to nudism. Much younger children are natural nudists, left to their own devices, and a visit to a nude beach or family resort would probably be a bit of a lark. At 15 or 16, however, a person is trying to come to terms with one's burgeoning sexuality, and finding oneself naked in a group of strangers might prove stressful and embarassing, to say the least. In addition, this is precisely the time of life when children are struggling to differentiate themselves from their parents. Is this the best time to announce "OK kids, time to get naked with Mom and Dad!"? I think not. |
| nickandallyfl |
Posted - 11/18/2007 : 10:07:47 AM
I was not raised as a nudist but when I was 12 I was invited to skinny dip with my parents and some of their friends. I think it was more of a joke but I took it serious and went out to join them. I think it was the invitation and letting me make my own choice. If they said take off your shorts and go swimming I would have run away. |
| balataf |
Posted - 07/21/2006 : 03:47:50 AM
Altho I have mentioned it in other threads (non-textile type threads, the subject is right on target here.
My Wife and I are long-term home nudists, with my 14-YO boy following suite (non-textile suite). My son has only attended one Phi Nu swim, while my Wife and I have done three swims and two house parties, so far. While there have been a handful of kids from infant to about age five, he was the only teenager to come even once, and felt quite alone.
He does not feel secure in inviting his male colleagues, more so for girl friends, and extremely so for girls he doesn't know very well.
I'm sure other teens have that same dilemma. |
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