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| bareskin_rug |
Posted - 03/20/2006 : 11:07:08 AM
Hi everyone,
I'm 33 yrs old from Texas and new to nudism. My wife and I decided last year that we wanted to become nudists.
We went to Antigua last spring to celebrate our 10-year anniversary and found a beautiful clothing-optional beach with people of all shapes and sizes. We decided to go on a dare. She was the first to shed her clothing, starting first with her top, then her bottom about 20 min later. I closed my eyes and took off my trunks and immediately felt great. The breeze and sun on the bare skin is something I hadn't felt in many many years. I hadn't seriously considered nudism before then but now we really like it so much we want our family to enjoy it, and even moreso to develop a healthy attitude about nudity, sex and our bodies.
After we got back from our trip we talked about introducing the kids to nudism, but with busy schedules we never found time to take them out, and we still have not yet gotten around to discussing it with them.
I have been doing some reading up on the subject and have found some good links here, but I thought I would share my family's situation and see if there is anymore good feedback you all might have.
I have 4 kids: a daughter, 12, and 3 sons, 9, 6 and 4. We realize it would probably be no big deal to get the boys to join us, especially the two youngest. The 4-year-old already swims naked in the back yard pool and our six-year old also does sometimes (at least last summer he did). Our 9-year-old has not developed the body shame yet either. He walks freely around the house, watches TV and sleeps in his underwear and still streaks from the bathroom to his bedroom after bathing. 
The challenge, we realize, is getting our daughter to join us. She seems to be at the critical age. She's not quite as open with nudity (nor was she really raised to be). I don't want her feeling left out or disgusted.
Your advice is welcome. Thanks and sorry I went so long. |
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| Diger |
Posted - 12/22/2007 : 3:38:08 PM
Jim,
Give us more info about your family: are you married or divorced, Is your wife cofortable being nude and is she nude around the kids? Why do you think the kids wouldn't want you to be nude around them?
If you start being nude when nude is expected they won't think anything of it. Such as bathing with the door open, then make a trip to the laundry room for a towel. Just take Baby Steps and get them acustom to casual nudity around the house. Then another step could be, if you have a pool or hot tub, Skinny-Dipping. You and your wife can start it off (Skinny-Dipping) then involve the younger kids, then when the older kids see how much fun it is they may want to join in. Even if they don't join rite off, they may try it in private before they are ready to do it around you.
Just rember Baby Steps.
I hope it made sense and any of it applied to your family.
Diger |
| nudepilot2007 |
Posted - 12/22/2007 : 2:20:18 PM
Jim, yes and thanks, I am going to contact Cheri to get some of the brochures. Have a great Holiday!
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| jim19452 |
Posted - 12/22/2007 : 2:06:27 PM
nudepilot20007, Have you checked out the posts on page 1 of this topic? Also, I think Cheri has posted info on brochures that would be useful. Perhaps you can do some searches on her posts.
Best Wishes, Jim |
| nudepilot2007 |
Posted - 12/22/2007 : 1:07:46 PM
Wow finaly a site that is actually a positive place to get advice.
I have been a nudist for a while, I would like to get the kids, B5,B16,G11,G9 to understand it better and get some good positive information. I don't want to "push" them into it though. I respect thier decision on the subject, and do not go nude in front of them. I think that they would enjoy going camping at a nudist resort, and once there see that it really is no big deal, how can I get them to go? |
| Phydeau |
Posted - 12/13/2007 : 05:49:59 AM
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Originally posted by bareskin_rug
Thanks everyone for your posts.
We have started slowly shedding our clothes this past week, and it has been going well. I have started spending more time in just my underwear, and my wife has now begun to wake the kids in the morning and put them to bed at night in just her underwear and no top. Our 9-year old son made a remark about it, but she pointed out that he too only wears his underwear sometimes. That simple logic seemed to satisfy him.
My wife and I sat down with our 12-year old daughter and basically told her that there are some people who go without clothes. She said yeah, she knows. We told her about our clothing-optional beach experience last year, and she was quite taken by surprise. She actually smiled and said WOW in exasperation. We told her that we found it to be a pleasant experience and that we would like to do it again. She was wide-eyed but did not appear repulsed or embarrassed. We told her that the body is nothing to be ashamed of, and that we want to keep a home where everyone can feel comfortable. We then told her that nudity is acceptable in our home (under the right circumstances) and that we should all respect each others' bodies. I told her that she is welcome to join us, or not if she chooses. She was speechless but she said "yeah, okay." We said that she can always feel free to tell us if something bothers her, or to let us know if it makes her uncomfortable. She shrugged and said "okay."
On Saturday evening I got our 4-year old son out of his clothes and let him stand in the jacuzzi. Our 6 and 9 year old boys then asked if they could join and stripped and got in. I then took off all of my clothes and joined them. Moments later my wife came out in a towel and then joined us, fully nude. Lastly our daughter came out, in her bathing suit. A few minutes later our daughter then removed her top. She was so relaxed doing so, I couldn't believe it. The whole family was there, naked together for the first time.
It was so peaceful and free. I realize that as the kids grow they might change their attitudes, but my wife and I talked that night about how wonderful the moment was.
Sounds like you got there in time. Awesome. |
| Diger |
Posted - 12/12/2007 : 09:58:06 AM
This topic was from 2006 and Bareskin Rug hasn't posted since July of 2006.
I think this was his last post from (How often are you nude at home?)
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Wow, things have changed in the last 3 1/2 months. We started off with nude family time in the back yard hot tub, and now we're naked probably more than half of the time we're home, mostly on the weekends. I usually wait until a little later in the evening to shed the clothes, but our two youngest boys usually undress as soon as they get inside. Our two older kids usually have something on, but not more than a pair of shorts, a swimsuit or underwear.
I haven't slept with anything on probably since the month of March, and I love it!
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I hate it when you're left hanging like that.
Diger |
| jons23 |
Posted - 12/11/2007 : 11:31:15 PM
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Originally posted by bareskin_rug
Anyway, we are looking into places in Texas to visit this summer. My wife and I may go and pre-view them and decide if it's a place we want to take our children.
How did the summer go? Did you find some good family place for the family to visit?
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| Phydeau |
Posted - 11/19/2007 : 04:15:26 AM
I'm less than new to this, but that sounds about as healthy advice as I've ever heard. Children have to be TAUGHT to be ashamed of their bodies. They're born with no such nonsense. So getting back to that should be just as natural. That makes perfect sense.
I'm babbling. |
| nickandallyfl |
Posted - 11/18/2007 : 10:02:12 AM
I have an 11 yr old daughter who will be 12 in december. Almost 2 yrs ago I took her to a resort and she was against being nude. But in time she met friends and joined them. It wasn't about joining me. Let your kids find it on their own. Body image is very important at that age too. If she sees another girl at that stage and being ok with herself, thats the bigest drive she will have. |
| Balto Bob |
Posted - 10/19/2007 : 08:18:33 AM
Radioman125- this is a good thread there are others.
Bob
Have a nice NUDE day !! |
| Marcoxl5 |
Posted - 08/10/2007 : 8:06:34 PM
Hi Cheri. The answer to both of your questions is yes. My wife would probably put her in a full swimsuit but I don`t think she would have a problem with my daughter wearing nothing so long as she feels she can trust the attitudes of the textiles ( I am trying to say in a polite way 'are they looking at her in an unfavourable manner'.
Thankyou for your advice - you have been most helpful |
| Cheri |
Posted - 08/10/2007 : 5:59:02 PM
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Originally posted by Marcoxl5
I am about to go on a nudist beach for the first time with my non-practising wife and 4 year old daughter. Is it best to just go for it and practically be forcing it on my daughter making her think that it is perfectly acceptable or do I wait until she is old enough for her to make up her own mind.
A couple of questions:
1) Does your wife know you will probably disrobe?
2) Is your daughter potty trained?
If the answer is yes to both questions, this is a perfect age for your daughter to start enjoying the freedom from sandy, wet swimsuits that are often a problem esp. to females getting sand in places it shouldn't be and keeping that area from drying out.
Your daughter will enjoy the feeling of the water on her without the constricting feeling of the suit. Also, at age 4, will she wear a one piece or just the bottom part of a 2 piece? I can see no reason to have a child at that age wear a swimsuit.
Recommendation: when get to the spot you've decided on, without consulting your wife since she's aware it is a nude or clothing optional beach, say to your daughter, "come on...let's go swimming" Take off your clothes and see what happens. You can reassure her that this is normal and that it is more fun than wearing clothing.
Cheri
Doing what I can to positively promote nudism
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| Marcoxl5 |
Posted - 08/10/2007 : 3:23:10 PM
I am about to go on a nudist beach for the first time with my non-practising wife and 4 year old daughter. Is it best to just go for it and practically be forcing it on my daughter making her think that it is perfectly acceptable or do I wait until she is old enough for her to make up her own mind. |
| bareskin_rug |
Posted - 04/07/2006 : 12:58:12 PM
Hi everyone, just checking in. Thought I'd share my "status report."
I am amazed at how quickly our family has grown more comfortable with nudism and semi-nudism. We have gotten in a pattern of taking frequent, almost nightly, dips in the hot tub. Our daughter is comfortable fully removing her bathing suit once she gets in to the hot tub. Since our back yard isn't fully screened, my wife, daughter and I usually go out to the tub in swimsuits or a towel till we get to the hot tub, which is out of view of the neighbors. That's pretty much the extent of full nudity--I think we're all trying to figure out the protocol for ourselves. My 6 and 9 yr olds strip down to their underwear when they come home from school in the afternoon now, and they have been dabbling with sleeping nude. They share a bedroom, so they seem to positively influence each other.
I think it's pretty much realized that we can't be all-naked all-the-time, at least at this point. Even my 6 and 9 year old sons are sensitive to when it's appropriate or not--they seem to have no problem understading that it's just a matter of when someone's going to come over, who we discuss the issue with, etc. I've had talks with them, and my wife has talked to our daughter about it.
Anyway, we are looking into places in Texas to visit this summer. My wife and I may go and pre-view them and decide if it's a place we want to take our children. |
| GeeWilly |
Posted - 03/30/2006 : 12:02:21 PM
You are most welcome, bareskin, well done.
Forgive me, pilot, I see your point. Although I thought the apple hit Newton on the head and it was the acorn that fell near the tree?
Sorry.
That "comfort zone" you speak of, going back to what you experienced, can be so restricting if one has not been given the "tools," the permission, to break away. (Assuming one did not grow up in a "Father Knows Best" environment.) If one's parents did it wrong, you have to be able to discern harmful behavior and not repeat it.
The mother of my children was totally intolerant of nudism. I hope I have given those kids the internal courage to make their own choices (just like bareskin) and to do so without feeling as if they betray their mother. |
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