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| Omnistica |
Posted - 09/16/2008 : 7:23:19 PM
So i've recently broken up with my ex-boyfriend. I'm a divorced 36 year old mother with a taste for nudity. It all started a year into my on and off dating. Long story short one of my few exs helped me release my inhibitions and i took up nudism. After learning a few core values from my last ex i've decided i would like to bring my two kids into nudism. My eldest being my son has just hit 15 and my youngest 11.
I know these are core times for the kids and getting their 'social identification' but i'd love to help them realise the natural wonders of the human body and how they should not be covered up. I've planned to book on a nudist resort and am currently waiting for a list off of my friend of the most local ones.
I've talked to both of my children and being in a secluded area have started going nude about my daily jobs when i'm home. My son was admittedly shocked and my daughter took it quite well. What i'm most worried about is that my son has often worried about his body and he admitted he was ready to try it, but was still quite embarrassed. After trying a few full days during the summer with the two of them my son covered up almost instantly.
I noticed he had a problem with erections, and if anyone has any advice on how to combat those that'd be great. He's also very unnerved about his sister seeing him like that. Anyway, in all my daughter is little of a problem but if anyone has any advice on how to encourage my son that would be great. Thanks in advance. |
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| blavan |
Posted - 09/02/2015 : 09:42:04 AM
For a 15 year old boy just being introduced to mixed gender nudity, having an erection is only natural, and it is nothing to be ashamed of.
Teenagers have raging hormones, and although an erection should not be encouraged, it should definitely not be criticized in any way when experienced by a 15 year old. It is normal. It is natural. He will get used to it, and it will eventually diminish.
No teenager should ever be told that having an erection is wrong. It is best to allow him to learn how to control it as he feels more comfortable with nudity over time. Support him during this period when things can be awkward for any teenager. It is just normal physiology. As nudists we should be enlightened about this.
Being Naked and Being Real |
| FireProf |
Posted - 08/30/2015 : 10:00:27 PM
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Originally posted by ES_DW
I just wanted to say I have appreciated the comments others made about raising teenage kids. Our oldest daughter is beginning to develop, and those comments have given us an insight to help explain how everyone is different and changes as they get older, and that is okay.
When our girls were pre-teens, they left nudism. There was no internet and my wife was not ready to take our nudism social and visit a club. Hence ... no support group to give us any advice or support on what we were facing and how we were going to continue living as nudists with two pre teen non nudists.
It would have been great to have a forum like this to ask others questions and get some input. As it turned out ... we fumbled through and our girls, now 40 and 38 have revisited nudism. They haven't adopted a full nudist lifestyle but do enjoy skinny dipping, occasional visits to the nude beach or a resort. I guess building that foundation was a good thing after all. They became strong, independent, intelligent, women with good careers, outstanding family's and have tried to instill that same foundation, we began, with their children, our grandchildren.
At least they have us to bounce questions and concerns off of! 
Loves being naked. Plays well with others! |
| Warmskin |
Posted - 08/29/2015 : 6:36:08 PM
As with anything human, and introduction to nudism included, we humans must be taught things. Our kids are taught to be dressed at all times and that the human body is something about which to be embarrassed. We have to cancel out that learning and then substitute the precepts of nudism. It's not necessarily easy, but parents have to teach their children every facet of being nude in a clothed world. Without education, it's exceedingly difficult for youth to become functioning nudists.
“I rise early almost every morning and sit in my chamber, without any clothes whatever, half an hour or an hour, according to the season, either reading or writing.”
Ben Franklin
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| ES_DW |
Posted - 08/23/2015 : 2:09:08 PM
I just wanted to say I have appreciated the comments others made about raising teenage kids. Our oldest daughter is beginning to develop, and those comments have given us an insight to help explain how everyone is different and changes as they get older, and that is okay. |
| FireProf |
Posted - 08/21/2015 : 1:07:32 PM
We will never know ... this person posted the initial dilemma way back in Sept of 2008 and has not returned to post anything since.
This is a dead issue and it's obvious she either got some help she didn't like or it was a sham ... I'm thinking ...
Loves being naked. Plays well with others! |
| MikeinFL10 |
Posted - 08/21/2015 : 12:59:00 PM
Understand your dilemma and can help. Raised a nude boy and girl so been down that road.
Email me: mhmike1950@yahoo.com.
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Let's chat so I can help you |
| ian_j |
Posted - 05/13/2015 : 3:07:13 PM
Makes me wonder if the son is self conscience about being nude is because
he is in a household with two females (no offense) maybe he needs
reassurance that its okay to be nervous at first |
| baie rouge nudists |
Posted - 01/08/2014 : 9:03:20 PM
Fifteen is a difficult age for your son. Since it is just you and your daughter, he may feel as a male that seeing mom and sis naked is not natural. This may be due to pre-concieved notions about nudity. The trouble may stem from his fear of being "outed" by his peers. Teenage boys can be very cruel and competitive. Explaining to him that it is perfectly normal to have an erction at that age when in the company of naked females is normal. The whole "roll over until it goes away" is difficult at his age. Boys of a certian age may equate the idea of other boys being naked and liking it is somehow associated with homosexuality in the minds of some teenagers. Or the fact that nude women are exhibitionists like in girly magazines and that may stem his reluctance to embrace nudity. Fear of his friends finding out about being part a nudist family may be creating anxiety as well and be a cause of his reluctance. We have seen in news stories how children are bullied by their peers for reasons because of their looks or the fact that they may feel their behaviors do not conform to what they believe is "normal and acceptable" to their peers. Having your son in a nudist environment with youngsters his age will definitely help as education is most important.Since dad is not around, he may need constant re-assurance that an erection is perfectly normal. Do not give up on him. Nudity is a wonderful way of living as you know. Assure your son that nudity is not sexual in nature though his body and mindset tells him differently by his reaction that it is perfectly normal and that some day he will see how fortunate he is to be raised in a household without shame. We applaud you and wish you luck on raising happy and healthy children. |
| Warmskin |
Posted - 01/05/2014 : 9:31:51 PM
For what it's worth, I'd take my family to a secluded spot in a wilderness or similar place, and try out naturism there, away from others. Take them to a spot where there are things to do that would keep their minds off themselves and their nudity. Nothing like activity to redirect the mind from self to activities. I used to go to the Sierra Nevada and play around in a creek. I'd move a log to a spot on the creek and dam up the creek, causing the water to back up and form a pool. I did all that in the nude.
In that light, I'd find a place for my family, who might want to try nudism, where they can play in the nude, away from the crowds, where it's just the family at play. If there is an erection, who is going to care?
Once you find out that you can play in the nude in the outdoors without dysfunction, you can graduate to a nudist resort, or you just might be happy in a remote place in the wilderness.
“I rise early almost every morning and sit in my chamber, without any clothes whatever, half an hour or an hour, according to the season, either reading or writing.”
Ben Franklin
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| Bob Knows |
Posted - 04/09/2012 : 12:32:36 PM
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Originally posted by renobiker
i think even if I wasn't into nudism as a teen I had hoped if my mother ever saw me with erections she would have taken time to tell me they are normal,natural etc rather then never telling me anything or teaching me about things in life that a teen would find embarrassing.
Mom can say all she wants, but when the young man never sees any naked man with a normal swollen penis because all "nudists" are forced to hide our body "shame," then the boy growing up will hear what he sees and not the words of the mother. The very fact that she's telling him only reinforces the realization that his natural body is something to be hidden and ashamed of in public.
It won't become possible to teach boys not to be ashamed of their bodies until the grownup "nudist" men stop forcing body shame on the nude public.
Blessings
Bob
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| n/a |
Posted - 04/09/2012 : 07:43:51 AM
But I am also very pleased to see a nudist parent actually wanting to have their children involved with their nudism, most parents just dismiss the idea that nudism is truly a good family thing. My mother went to a nude resort when I was 12 never told us or asked if we would like to go. Years later when she discovered I was into nudism she still was silent on admitting she has gone to nude resort etc and was very little supportive with letting me go nude. |
| n/a |
Posted - 04/08/2012 : 10:25:20 PM
i think even if I wasnt into nudism as a teen I had hoped if my mother ever saw me with erections she would have taken time to tell me they are normal,natural etc rather then never telling me anything or teaching me about things in life that a teen would find emberrasing. |
| suscolli |
Posted - 10/10/2009 : 1:04:27 PM
I think that you need to teach your son that an erection is normal and natural and it is only embarrassing for him the first time. In our family nudity is practiced in the backyard pool and my son develops frequent erections while swimming with my husband, myself and his sister. His dad did explain to him about boys and growing up and it has never been a problem.
Sue |
| agde |
Posted - 09/21/2008 : 04:28:53 AM
A lot of good advice above so just a few thoughts on your 15 yr old.
When I was a naturist teen, my dad and I discussed strategies. First, we agreed that erections happen, and often for no particular reason. If anxiety is added to the mix, its pretty unmanageable. So what to do? Well, he explained that you don't really want to get into general suppression mode. That's unhealthy. It's better just to have a reliable coping routine to reduce the anxiety. Everybody is different, but we discussed what might work for me and my thing turned out to be sitting down and doing a quick math problem. My younger sister would often "helpfully" propose one. It was just a way to get my brain, and hence body, into a different mode -- one that didn't focus on dealing with embarrassment. Knowing that everyone understood, wasn't freaked out, and knew my routine helped me relax. It may take a couple months for your son to figure out his routine and practice it, but then the worst is over. For me, it was good to know from the outset that it is something that every guy goes through, and that with a routine it quickly gets easier to deal with. Meantime, your son also of course will be getting used to seeing and learning a lot about female bodies -- like "womenly week" where he learns that guys have the erection inconvenience but being a girl has inconveniences too! We get to take turns being mutually understanding. Overall, as my dad pointed out, learning about all this in a naturist family context puts you way ahead of other teen guys, you can be more relaxed and confident, and others will sense that, including the cute girls! 
Btw, associating playing monopoly with clothes-free time is a good idea. Keeping things "situational" helps kids. School clothes, church clothes, nude body-airing after baths/showers, pajamas are redundant when you aleady are "wearing" sheets and blankets, "tv time" is nude time, game time is nude time, vacuuming is nude time, cooking requires apron, etc. It just highlights the purpose of clothing and integrates nudity into normal activities, instead of making it a focus in itself. |
| Nudony |
Posted - 09/18/2008 : 9:03:50 PM
That's not a problem. That's only five or so days where she would be keeping underwear on. Just plan your nude week-end around it so that no one gets self-conscious.
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