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| bonesrmj |
Posted - 07/21/2011 : 4:43:54 PM
I have been a nudist for many years but I can't get my wife to try it. She will go in our hot tub nude but only with me. She sometimes goes to bed nude after getting out of the hot tub but thats about it. When we were younger, she would go around the house all the time nude but not now. We are empty nesters but I can't get her to go any farther. We went to Maui, 5 years ago and it was her idea to go to the nude beach, Little Beach, but when she climbed up over the rocks and down the trail to it, as soon as she seen naked bodies, it was a quick about face and lets get out of here. Any suggestions? |
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| n/a |
Posted - 04/06/2012 : 11:18:02 AM
I am still working on both my wife and mother in law to join me being nude... |
| MrsAzLagoon |
Posted - 04/06/2012 : 11:06:17 AM
Congratulations! Glad it went well and she had a positive experience!! Good job making it comfortable for her. C-OHome
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Originally posted by mj45
Hi all, Well it happened and all went swimmingly, the wife loved the Cove and for the rest of the trip compared everything to the Cove. she is talking about a month next year!! A babe is born. Michael
Enjoy the sunshine!
MrsAZLagoon
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| mj45 |
Posted - 04/06/2012 : 09:46:05 AM
Hi all, Well it happened and all went swimmingly, the wife loved the Cove and for the rest of the trip compared everything to the Cove. she is talking about a month next year!! A babe is born. Michael |
| n/a |
Posted - 04/05/2012 : 5:56:04 PM
If there was an easy solution to this, then all our wives would be naked all the time right? But majority of women avoid being nude due to their bodies how much they weigh etc. Until their mental state tells them it is no reason to be ashamed this will be a battle all us men will have to wage war against to get our wives to go nude with us. |
| Diger |
Posted - 01/27/2012 : 7:05:10 PM
Congrats mj,
Keep us informed of how it's going.
It's such a great feeling when your spouse enjoys nudity with you.
Diger |
| mj45 |
Posted - 01/26/2012 : 2:11:58 PM
Hi all, we have had a breakthrough! Last year on the way to the Keys I aranged an over night at Breezier Palms on the way down. The wife seemed ok with it but she stayed mostly in our camp, a little time in the pool but that was all. This year I have booked a week at Cypress Cove, last week we were on a business trip to Orlando and played hooky one afternoon to drive down to the cove for a tour. She was impressed! Once back in the hotel she said I won't have to be embarased about my 60 yr old body after seeing all of those nude people!HORAY I am so looking forward to the end of March!
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| Warmskin |
Posted - 01/15/2012 : 11:57:38 PM
For any individual, there are always pre-dispositions. Some folks are just not cut out to be nudists. I sometimes think that some of those people have a powerful sense of privacy and vulnerability. That could be regardless if they think they look great, like a Barbie or Ken doll, or not. Who looks like them anyway? Certainly not I.
The average person who is fine with him/herself is more likely to be a candidate for nudism. They're less likely to be phobic about the matter.
Conversely, I would think a person who feels very badly about him/herself, either physically or mentally, would be quite phobic about a nudist place.
As in any area of life, you are better off trying to win someone over to your way of thinking if you are dealing with someone who is not extreme in their social thinking. The folks in the middle of the textile/nudist spectrum are probably the most worthwhile trying to convince.
Not much use in trying to talk a person into nudism if they have no inhibitions in clothing or lack of it. Likewise, there may not be much use in trying to coax a phobic person into nudism. It's like trying to convince someone who has claustrophobia to enjoy being locked up in a hallway closet. Not going to happen.
So, target friends or loved ones, like a wife, if they are of moderate thinking in matters of nudity, but not yet convinced of becoming a nudist.
It also occured to me that women my feel more vulnerable than men when it comes to communal nudity. Once they find out they need not feel vulnerable, they enjoy being nude. Nope, not being sexist. I really wish more women would consider nudism. It would be nice if nudist resorts were more 50-50. I guess nudism has to be experienced to be appreciated - like people from Missouri -- gotta show me.
It is almost is self-defeating. A woman might need to know for a fact that she will be fine at a nudist place. She won't know that until she tries. That is where a loving husband can help to a great extent. He has to help her through that barrier of at least thinking seriously about nudism, and trying it at home. From there I suppose they could try skinnydipping at a secure place like a river, or lake, just to test how it feels away from home. It that works out nicely, they could try a nudist resort in the middle of the week.
I.e., gradualism works for the candidate who is at least wanting to try out nudism to see if it is right for them or not.
“I rise early almost every morning and sit in my chamber, without any clothes whatever, half an hour or an hour, according to the season, either reading or writing.”
Ben Franklin
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| nudesunguy |
Posted - 01/11/2012 : 2:35:24 PM
Bones, if you camp in a tent, that might be enough incentive for her. I remember trying to change clothes in a small tent at a clothed state park. Damn, that is hard to do. The first time I tried it at a nude campground, I just went outside and changed; didn't have to worry about anyone seeing me. Lovely! (Must have been cold out; otherwise what was I changing clothes for at a nudist campground?)
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| bonesrmj |
Posted - 01/08/2012 : 9:55:19 PM
Thanks Diger! I think if I can get her there it might answer some of her questionalbe doubts. She has a lot of confidence issues around her weight( you know all those people are skinny). Like you said baby steps for now. |
| Diger |
Posted - 01/05/2012 : 5:32:31 PM
Be patient brother, Just think of it as taking Baby Steps.
She will come around in her own time, but that does sound like a good place to take one of those steps.
Good Luck.
Diger |
| bonesrmj |
Posted - 01/04/2012 : 5:12:59 PM
Well I have done some more reserch on Nudists areas around us and I have found a campground that is c/o and has no pressure to get nude! Since we are avid campers, I have visited it and talked to the owner who reasured me that they have several families where one or the other stays clothed. I am going to try to get her to at least go for an afternoon and check it out. Maybe when she sees both at the campground, she might be more confortable about it and try it. I guess, I'll have to wait until summer. Bonesrmj |
| nudesunguy |
Posted - 10/12/2011 : 10:35:48 AM
You are correct, Sunflower, I know at least two women whose husbands/boyfriends will not come to the nude beach with them, or if they do, they keep their suits on. But I do think that having a near panic attack from seeing nude people is very unusual.
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| sunflower |
Posted - 10/11/2011 : 3:01:31 PM
As a female naturist of many years, I do find some peoples attitude to nudism hard to understand and I don´t just mean other females as I have had men disappear rapidly when they have found out that I am a naturist with comments that they could never go naked, or of course, they promptly assume that you are up for sex.
Certainly men are more open to nudism but there are some that have a similar attutude to a lot of women.
I think some of the previous posters comments give real food for thought.
Personally if at home or outside on my balcony I am always nude, also will use a nudist beach alone. |
| nudesunguy |
Posted - 10/11/2011 : 11:01:56 AM
Wow, a panic attack from Little Beach? I'm afraid you might want to reconsider a nudist lifestyle until you find out what is the cause of her anxiety. I suspect it is a bit more complicated than simple nudity. Just my 2 cents.
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| wishwarm |
Posted - 10/10/2011 : 6:53:52 PM
I thought Little Beach would be perfect, with a mix of clothed and nude folk. I was wrong. My wife lasted about 10 minutes and was close to a panic attack, BEFORE clothes came off! So, the next time, we divided the beaches for a while. Sad, but what can you do.
D in Upstate |
