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Hi Guys and Gals,
Thanks for the input and let me answer some of the comments;
a) Where have I been for the last 4 years-the military kept me busy, and my last command tried to force me out with a bad conduct/dishonorable discharge a year short of my retirement (they didn't win)
b) I am 40 years old-not 19 y/o
c) Significant other-don't have one, she left about six months ago and stated nudism was the biggest reason.
The one thing I have started is put an ad on singlenudist.com and waiting for them to reply to my message regarding signing up for AANR via their group since their ability to pay online isn't working right now.
One of the biggest reasons why I got involved with nudism is that nudists generally more comfortable with themselves physically and don't have the same hangups about themselves. The other reason is that this is how I would want to raise my kids so they won't have the same hangups I did growing up.
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Posted - 04/14/2008 : 09:59:12 AM
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"One of the biggest reasons why I got involved with nudism is that nudists generally more comfortable with themselves physically and don't have the same hangups about themselves. The other reason is that this is how I would want to raise my kids so they won't have the same hangups I did growing up."
nudieandproud,
I agree, nudist are typically less concerned or unconcerned about their body than textiles. Great for pre-pubescent kids.
Best Wishes, Jim
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Posted - 04/14/2008 : 4:28:58 PM
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Hi Jim,
thanks for the input.
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Posted - 04/18/2008 : 8:06:51 PM
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Well to bring everyone up to speed--
I have decided not to give up being a nudist for the time being, submitted my singles ad through singlenudist.com and sent the application for AANR membership to them today.
Thanks everyone for your input, take care and be blessed.
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Stars Upon Thars
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Posted - 08/24/2008 : 05:06:06 AM
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I have to admit, this thread gives me pause, because I see what could easily be myself in 18 years. At my age I'm not ready to give up my idealism, but honestly I only have a few years where I feel like I could hold onto it without making any progress. I see very few nudists who seem to have stable relationships and those who do have good relationships are, like most nudists, older. That bothers me a great deal - it's a disturbing trend that honestly makes me reevaluate whether all the rhetoric we spill is true.
I just went through a breakup of a long-term relationship. It wasn't over nudism, though it was partially over nudity in movies and such. I wasn't willing to give up what I enjoy doing and talking about for her, and at this point in my life I wouldn't for anyone. But in 5 years if I don't have any serious prospects I'm sure my priorities will change. I can't wait 'til I'm 40. A celibate man, I am not.
"What if there is no tomorrow? There wasn't one today." - Phil Connors, Groundhog Day
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Stars Upon Thars,
I wouldn’t be discouraged by what you’ve read here. I don’t think that unstable relationships are any more or less common within the nudist circle than they are in any other segment of society.
There are plenty of nudists here who’ve been married for a long time, and plenty who are not. I’ve said before that the practice of nudism is only one aspect of a person’s personality, and each one has to weigh its merit along with every other factor. As an example, I quote NaturistDoc: “As much as I've enjoyed the various nude beaches, cruises, and resorts I've been to, I must say that if a day came when my wife told she was no longer comfortable with social nudity, I would toss my TNS card into the shredder without a qualm.” I think that's what marriage and stability are all about. Sharing interests, tempered with consideration and sometimes sacrifice. That, I’d say is love.
I was married for 28 years, and I’ve been divorced for 4. My divorce had nothing to do with nudism. To be kind and brief, it had everything to do with personality.
You mentioned that celibacy was not for you. I don’t see that as a problem. Nudism and sexuality are two different things. But I would think that given the relaxation of sexuality in today’s society, there would be more women open to the idea of enjoying nudism. If they’re more open today to sexual openness, why aren’t they more physically open? I don’t know, maybe that’s one of society’s dichotomies.
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Posted - 08/24/2008 : 9:27:57 PM
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Oh, yes, and don't misunderstand me. I wasn't making the comment of celibacy in order to insinuate anything about the sexual or non-sexual nature of nudism. I merely meant that it's not in my blood to wait until late in life for marriage. I believe in saving sex for marriage so that's where that comes into play. I guess what I'm saying is that if I were to find that nudism were hindering my prospects in so significant a way as to prevent me from finding a bride within a reasonable period, I would have to re-consider its importance.
There are some things that I would hold onto. For instance, I am a songwriter and if I had the opportunity to go on tour and make music for a living, well that's my dream and if I had to stay single to do it than so be it. That probably won't ever happen, but it's one of the only lifestyle choices I can see making that would out-class romantic love in importance.
I'm not giving up yet (heck, I've only really started) but I want to be realistic from the get-go.
"What if there is no tomorrow? There wasn't one today." - Phil Connors, Groundhog Day
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Posted - 08/26/2008 : 7:33:18 PM
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I practice the lifestyle when I can because I enjoy it. My wife doesn't participate yet (I'm encouraging her in a subtle way). She's far more important to me than a desire to enjoy this lifestyle as a couple, so I live with the limitations she imposes. I don't like it, but I live with it.
Relationships are a compromise sometimes. Only you can weigh the benefit of a relationship versus your lifestyle. I entirely gave up being a private pilot for my wife. Before we met, I was extremely passionate about flying. It's possible for me to do without being nude with her or flying with friends. Imagining life without my wife is totally impossible. Yes, she's THAT important to me. For her, I do make sacrifices. No regrets. I'd much rather be married to my textile wife than be a single, Naturist pilot (how's that for an image???).
Good luck with your situation. I wish you the best!
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Posted - 08/27/2008 : 04:49:55 AM
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I could never understand how that works. Yes, my wife is the most important person in the world to me. And I am to her and she wants me to be happy - she would never force me to give up my passions for her.
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