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Posted - 11/20/2006 :  1:20:04 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
I always get erections. I don't flaunt it, but it also seems to be the time wehn complete strangers will start talking with me and my wife. I don't understand it, I get embarrassed about it. I tend to get hard, (not semi) and upright, its difficult to hide. I once tried to bend it down, but it made more attention.

I was even told once by a female on a nude beach, (while talking to her I got an erection), she looked at it and said "lucky you, if I was a guy I would walk around with an erection all the time".


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Cheri
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Posted - 11/20/2006 :  4:40:27 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
quote:
Originally posted by ttboy

I always get erections. I don't flaunt it, but it also seems to be the time wehn complete strangers will start talking with me and my wife. I don't understand it, I get embarrassed about it. I tend to get hard, (not semi) and upright, its difficult to hide. I once tried to bend it down, but it made more attention.

I was even told once by a female on a nude beach, (while talking to her I got an erection), she looked at it and said "lucky you, if I was a guy I would walk around with an erection all the time".



Since it can be offensive, and you obviously "know" you're going to have an erection, why not just wear a beach towel over your shoulder. Trust me, if you go to a nudist park, club, or resort, you will need to do that or something.
It's just plain polite.
Cheri

Doing what I can to positively promote nudism
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BlobbyBob
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Posted - 11/20/2006 :  5:27:41 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Cheri
Since it can be offensive, and you obviously "know" you're going to have an erection, why not just wear a beach towel over your shoulder. Trust me, if you go to a nudist park, club, or resort, you will need to do that or something.
It's just plain polite.


I think it is impolite to expect someone to cover a part of themselves. I can never understand this double standard of "We accept all of you, but not that bit when it sticks up"

I know how things work so unfortunately rules would get a person kicked out and I understand that non-nudists can use it as an excuse to say that nudism is sexual, but as most men will know erections often are truly unavoidable and mostly always non-sexual. This will probably be debated for a long time yet to come anyway, with no real conclusion.

Temet Nosce



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allnaturalwife
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Posted - 11/20/2006 :  7:22:07 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
As a very seasoned nudist, from a nudist family of three generations I would like to offer my 2 cents on this subject. I would say I have been to over 50 nudist clubs, resorts and beaches over the years. Both with my husband and our three daughters throughout their upbringing. The question of male arousal has always been a hot topic of discussion. Along with the rest of my family, I am quite active in expressing my opinion at my own club as well as with AANR regarding these sort of issues. I would consider myself fairly "liberal" in my views regarding nudism and sex.

That being said I do not really care to see men with raging erections pointing to the sky walking around my club. The argument from the "pro erection" crowd is always the same: " Its natural..and/or whats the big deal..it happens all the time to men" Well I have spent almost every weekend at a nudist club since I was about 2 weeks old and rarely seen men walking around with "full-blown" erections. Im not sure where all these "hard men" are..but we have been members of our current club for over twenty years and have maybe seen 1 guy with a very noticeable erection, and he was there for the wrong reasons and was asked to leave. Our family pretty much surrounds itself with other nudists in social settings every weekend. So I would say I have A LOT of experience around A LOT of naked people. And "the man with the huge hard on" is VERY VERY rare amoung normal social nudist gatherings. Getting an erection may not be avoidable..BUT it is easily managed. For all those who say that they "should be able to walk around with as raging hard on pointing to the sky..who are you to say I cant?"... I would rather you NOT carry on a conversation with my 12 year old daughter while in that state. I feel that at a FAMILY nudist venue, at the very least, you should try to not walk around that way. I would venture to say most nudist parents who enjoy attending nudist venues with their children would agree. Guys..if you are at an "adults only" type club that is geared more towards that sort of thing..I might tend to not have as much of an issue.

Jenn

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FireProf
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Posted - 11/20/2006 :  9:49:54 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Bravo Jenn......Bravo!


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Pete Knight
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Posted - 11/21/2006 :  02:03:39 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Thanks Jenn, well said, thats pretty much what I've been saying, but its much better hearing it from the female point of view, and I too get sick and tired of those guys constantly trying to justify displaying their erection, if you get, cover it is the accepted code of practise.

Pete Knight



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GeeWilly
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Posted - 11/21/2006 :  3:01:21 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Thanks, Jenn, FireProf, Pete. Though my experience clearly does not match up with Jenn's, it would report the same observations. Erections do not just happen at proper naturalist locations.

Perhaps the pro erection group is really just fantasizing about something they know not?



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as far as im concerned. ive only been on beaches nude, and without children present, not clubs or resorts. it is maybe still new to me, 10 times probably. I don't walk around with it, but it will happen once or twice an hour, usually when relaxing. im actually embassased when it happens and i always wont have a towel with me when it happens, or im laying on my towel to begin with. while in the water it will happen, usually from the free-feeling. once there was a hottub and that was unavoidable too. and if people are uncomfortable, then why is that the time they decide to introduce themselves to me and my wife? 20 years experience at a nudist resort and you've very rarely seen this? that makes me feel something is wrong with me and i wont be welcome at a nudist resort. i better stick to beaches since im not the norm then. i have to say my experience was several erections spotted, they weren't 'threatening' more embarassing. ive even tried to 'subdue' the problem in the privacy of the washroom, it helps for a while.


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HarborGuy
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Posted - 11/21/2006 :  9:57:52 PM  Show Profile  Visit HarborGuy's Homepage  Send HarborGuy a Yahoo! Message  Reply with Quote
Well, it's probably true that this subject will never be resolved... No I can't believe that. As time goes on people will see that it was a minor subject to begine with.

This is also saying that nudism as a whole will never be more accepted than it is right now. Society has just as many arguments against nudism as nudists have against erections and they stand just as firm in their convictions.

A good song that goes alone with this subject is an Elton John song from Mad Man Across The Water... Full Blooded City Boy. "Tiny minds.... Sacred Cows"



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CalTom
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Posted - 11/22/2006 :  1:40:07 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
When do erections cease to be offensive and cross over to be the source of amusement to all? Well it helps if the owner is in late middle-age, with his wife, and any resemblance to studliness was decades passed and about 70 pounds ago. And a jolly visitor from England.

This past weekend the temps ran 15 or more degrees below normal for central Florida. With a stiff breeze kicking up by late afternoon, the sea of vacant white deck chairs showed that even nudists know when it's time to don warm clothing and take the party inside; except if you are a well-lubed visitor from abroad on his first naturist trip to the colonies.

As temps dipped into the 50's, this fellow who could very well obtain employment as any mall's Santa Claus sat there with his wife wearing an expression that alternated between and . Finally when a server handed Mr. Claus another brew it became evident that the fellow was indeed happy-perhaps not overtly in the pornographic sense of the word and certainly a couple of standard deviations below average in the organ in question, but happy none the less.

There were many toasts and "here-here's" from the crowd in the Si Como No: Mad dogs and Englishmen.




Edited by - CalTom on 11/22/2006 1:41:11 PM

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ToAsTeD
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Posted - 12/02/2006 :  7:00:19 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
After reading *all* 24 pages on this topic (phew!)... I have to respond!

There are certain "social laws" (or just plain manners if you will) we have in our society. I think the following would be agreed upon as a whole society nude or clothed:

- Saying "please" and "thank you"
- Holding the door for someone who is right behind you.
- Remaining silent in elevators if you are alone and don't know the other person.
- Refraining from obscene language.
- Waving back to someone who waves to you.
- Offering your seat to a pregnant woman (or any woman for that matter)
- Turning off your cell phone in movie theaters, churches, classes, etc.
- Saying "excuse me" after a loud burp or any burp.
- Not standing to close to a person at an ATM machine
- The list goes on and on...


All of the above are simple "laws" and "rules" that our parents taught us (or tried to teach us) that we in turn teach our children.

I have never seen these "laws" and "rules" written anywhere... perhaps I am wrong? but we still tend to follow these laws and rules once we leave our homes and enter the "real world."

I am not old-fashioned or even old for that matter; I am in my early 30s but I was brought up with many social rules like the ones listed above.

The point is that no matter how hard we follow these rules and set the example for others, there will ALWAYS be a few people out there who simply refuse to follow society's unwritten rules and norms.

There are people out there who didn't say please" or "thank you" as children and they certainly don't as adults. They don't hold the door for people or offer their seat to women. (You know the type I am talking about.)

Are they wrong? Not really. They certainly aren't violating any written laws.

Are they being rude? ABSOLUTELY in the eyes of (our) society.

The same holds true in the nudist society.

There are certain "unwritten laws" and "rules" that are taught and expected to be followed.

Most will learn and follow them just like they do in the textile world.

But for the select few (who were never taught proper social behavior) they will continue to NOT follow such laws and rules.

Are we going to change their minds in a discussion board like this one? NO

Are we going to change their minds anywhere else? PROBABLY NOT


I am sure that if I walked over to a public pool (in a nudist environment or not) stood by the edge and started singing the Barney song for no apparent reason and then repeated it over and over again louder and louder each time, I would be quickly removed from the setting if not arrested on the spot and taken "downtown" for psychiatric evaluation.

Even though singing the Barney song is NOT against the law; it does violate the "social norm." Singing should be done in private in such a situation.

So if Mr. Happy wants to flaunt his erect penis throughout a nudist resort or beach, I say let him. Hopefully he will receive an "education" on MANNERS and proper SOCIAL BEHAVIOR from the other members. Maybe after being thrown out a few times he will learn that having an erection is not accepted in certain places whether it be natural or not. Period.

A word of warning however: If you choose to flaunt your penis near my young son while we are enjoying our time together at a nudist resort you will be reported immediately.

I don't care if your erection came from you, the wind, the sun, or the fairy godmother herself. Keep it away from my son.

The bottom line is simple: Erections are NOT the norm in a nudist setting.

The unwritten law says to "cover it up" just like the hundreds of other unwritten laws you follow (or don't follow) everyday.

I have never had an erection in a nudist setting but if I did, I would "cover it up" immediately not because I am ashamed of my penis but out of simple respect for others (men and women.)

Maybe that's just in my up bringing but so be it.

Just my 2 and a half cents worth.

-ToAsT



Edited by - ToAsTeD on 12/02/2006 9:21:05 PM

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allnaturalwife
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Posted - 12/02/2006 :  8:26:00 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
From a nudist wife and mother of three...Well said.


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Pete Knight
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Posted - 12/03/2006 :  03:20:03 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Nicely put TaOsTeD, but the dimwits who constantly try to justify their erections will still argue their case, and despite the social niceties that you point out, there are still people who don't give up their seat to a pregnant woman, and they can't see that the've done wrong.

Pete Knight



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ToAsTeD
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Posted - 12/06/2006 :  11:49:10 PM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
Thanks Pete Knight and allnaturalwife....

It's nice to see others have the same viewpoint as I do...

Where did BlobbyBob and Harbor Guy go?

Things are *very quiet* in here...

-ToAsTeD



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ToAsTeD
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Posted - 12/23/2006 :  12:52:30 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
BlobbyBob and Harbor Guy!

Where'd you guys go?

Haven't seen you *anywhere* in the Forum...

-ToAsTeD



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