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almost there
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 Posted - 09/29/2010 : 11:49:40 AM
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well i am still relatively new to the whole nudist thing. i have looked into it at times but have been a bit disappointed with the results. i love being nude around the house, but i now have a room-mate so that has stopped. i checked out a nude beach a few times, but that was virtually disastrous. first i am a single guy and i do not sport the full body shave, so i stood out like a beacon in a dark room. when i wasn't getting evil looks from people i was being hit-on by varying selection of presumably gay men. my on-line ventures into so-called nudist chat rooms have been just as bad. i understand peoples reservations when it comes to single guys at nudist places, i have those same reservations now. but at this point i don't know what to do. i like being nude but short of moving to a more tolerant country (at least where nudity is concerned) i am at a total loss. i have no nudist friends and no place i go to just enjoy being nude. i don't think i am the only person in this dilemma, but it is disheartening none the less.
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SandC
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Posted - 09/30/2010 : 11:02:57 PM
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Have you spoken to your new room mate about this? Maybe he/she wouldn't mind. You'd have to be careful to make sure your room mate doesn't view it as a come on. What country are you in?
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sailawaybob
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Posted - 10/01/2010 : 12:29:01 AM
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almost there by your profile your single and live in florida the nudist capital of america, could you be uncomfortable because you are new to the nudist lifestyle ? there are tons of clubs/resort and several beaches there how lucky can you be. if you really are serious about nudism i'd try again if still uncomfortable i'd try something else.
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almost there
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Posted - 10/02/2010 : 3:58:00 PM
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i talk to my roomate in general about it and wondering around the apt nude is out, frankly with the way the economy is i need the help with rent more then the ability to be nude.
i did the public beach thing, playalinda to be exact, but im a bit far from there, and judging by that place, the full body shave seems to be the style, and well im not into that and i heard a few comments from people around me on that. second i was by myself, really don't know how to approach someone and ask them if they want to go to a nude beach.
being there alone got me plenty of evil looks and i must say that there were more then a few guys at playalinda that were looking for more then some conversation and a tan. the only other place that i know of near me is a family resort in loxahatchee and well i don't have a family of nudist. the next closest beach i think is miami. but i still a bit reserved since the last beach
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jbsnc
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Posted - 10/03/2010 : 4:13:24 PM
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almost there, You can do searches and easily find the web sites, telephone numbers and email addresses of nudist resorts and contact them about visitation. All the places I've contacted have been pleasant even the one saying as a single man they didn't want my business. Fine with me, no problem, there are many other places and particularly in FL. Don't worry about your appearance, shaved or otherwise, just do it.
Happy Nuding.
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nudesunguy
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Posted - 10/06/2010 : 3:49:36 PM
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You got "comments" about not being shaved, and "plenty of evil looks"? Doesn't sound like any nudist venue I've ever been to...
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sailawaybob
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Posted - 10/07/2010 : 12:16:25 AM
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i agree with nudesunguy i've been to nude beaches in florida when i was single and never had a problem, talked to numberous nudist and textiles- no problems. as for being shaved i've been a smoothie for a while never had a bad comment but seen numberous that weren't. almost there maybe you are expecting to much or not comfortable being a nudist, some people aren't and will never adapt.
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sunflower
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Posted - 10/12/2010 : 3:03:12 PM
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I have been a nudist for many years, now a widow it did take me about a year to pluck up the courage to go to my local nudist beach alone but now I happily go. Apart from one instance I have not had a problem, ok most are couples and tend to keep themselves to themselves but I am quite comfortable lying there reading or whatever. Last month I went on a holiday to Croatia and again used a nudist area alone. If you are really serious about being nude then I would suggest you follow the example of jbsnc. As far as shaving is concerned, personally I prefer to see a man au natural but its each to their own way.
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sailawaybob
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Posted - 10/14/2010 : 01:33:12 AM
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sunflower i am surprised that couples won't interact especially you being a female, when i was single i would walk the beach several times during the day and chat with others and always had a positive conversation i actually though the beach goers were more receptive than the resort/club goers, yes not so clic-ish..
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sunflower
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Posted - 10/14/2010 : 2:09:37 PM
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Was on the beach today sailawaybob, there was a couple one side of me where he was nude but she wasnīt, me on my own, then two single men seperate and another couple, non of them spoke at all, possibly different nationalities, then probably men on their own donīt like to speak in case they are thought to be perverts or similar, whilst with me I am a bit nervous of speaking to men of their own for the opposite reason..I did speak to the one couple as I was leaving, they were not English but did understand..Here also a lot of them are on holiday so not regulars on this beach.
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sailawaybob
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Posted - 10/15/2010 : 01:50:10 AM
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sunflower don't be discouraged as you become a regular to the beach others will become acquainted. i still believe the beaches are more friendly than the club but maybe some places are the opposite. but no matter what enjoy the sand and water you are lucky if it is near where you live.
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Nudejon
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Posted - 10/17/2010 : 07:31:12 AM
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You might try finding a companion to go along with you, Im a little sujprised at some of the additudes that were explained in the post, Ive not been to alot of nudist hangouts but ive always been well recieved and never made to feel (uncomfortable or preassured) But ive always been with my husband, try finding a companion with the same interest and check the forum for (Nudist Friendly) Places to go. Youll meet friends little by little and you wont feel so uncomfortable. Just a suggestion. (Nude Jons Wife)
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almost there
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Posted - 10/31/2010 : 12:47:24 PM
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sorry it's taken me so long to reply back to all the posters ... i did call and talk to a few of the different resorts ... in the end, after really questioning every aspects of my reasoning, comfort levels, and so on i think i am just going to end this chapter of my life ... i don't have a problem with seeing others nude (i worked in the medical field as well as in photography and cinematography for a while - so that was never an issue) i figure in some way i do have some reservations about myself being in the nude, though i think in some cases i would have felt uncomfortable nude or clothed ... but i love to be sociable, i like being with my friends, rough-housing with the kids, i don't know how to put it but my friends and i are physical, we grab each-other in headlocks, throw are arms around the other, play stuff (nothing sexual) ... it's the fact that i do not see myself as being able to interact in that way while nude ... i know that when i go to a nudist beach (still haven't gone to a resort) i am constantly worried about perception of my actions ... and that does effect my comfort levels ... i love kids, but when i see one at the nude beach i head the other direction, as the last thing i want is for someone to think im some kind of perv. if i look at their kid or say hi ... kind of the same thing with women, i dont want them to think im just talking or looking at them for some perverse sexual encounter.
anyhow i like closeness and physical interaction with my friends (again not sexual) when i am at a non-nude beach there if never any thought to how we interact with each other, but at the nudist beach i am constantly every action i do so as not to offend or do the wrong thing or make people think im evil or make them uncomfortable ... im the end i spend more time worrying about doing anything un-politically correct (for better lack of terminology) then i do just having a good time.
i also accept this as my own shortcoming and not that of the nudist community as a whole ... so for now i stick to being a home nudist apart from any that i might offend or perceive to offend.
thank you all for your comments
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sailawaybob
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Posted - 11/01/2010 : 9:06:58 PM
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almost there, there is nothing wrong with being a home nudist there are probably thousand of them heck i may be one as i don't visit nudist resorts like i use to, but will be nude any chance i get. so enjoy being a nudist where ever you are.
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steve_c
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Posted - 11/16/2010 : 6:10:05 PM
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almost there , let me say this . People will always say negative remarks . ignore them . you have to be you . me , i shave my chest and pubic areas but verry few at my club do this but noone pays any mind to it . some people would likely scoff at others who have tattoos . those are the types of people i cant stand but guess what , i realy dont give a you know what about what others think about me . They don't live my life nor yours . the best you can do is smile and wave at them and keep walking . they are the ones with the problem . Just be yourself and enjoy the joys of being nude . don't let others run your life or ruin your fun .
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