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chrisnrich
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 Posted - 07/20/2005 : 5:26:30 PM
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I've been a closet nudist for some years, I'm single now and been that way for about 5 years. I am tired of hiding my nudism. Being summer I like to swim nude and lay out nude, and be inside nude as well. But it's not easy with her around. I just don't know how to tell her, and hope she dosen't think I'm a sex pervert. When I just want to be nude, like the rest of us.
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Cheri
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Posted - 07/20/2005 : 9:42:03 PM
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Originally posted by chrisnrich
I've been a closet nudist for some years, I'm single now and been that way for about 5 years. I am tired of hiding my nudism. Being summer I like to swim nude and lay out nude, and be inside nude as well. But it's not easy with her around. I just don't know how to tell her, and hope she dosen't think I'm a sex pervert. When I just want to be nude, like the rest of us.
Can you tell her that you prefer to not wear a soggy wet swimsuit and prefer no tanlines? Start with that and see what happens. I can also suggest getting some good nudist literature from either or both the national organizations or send me a SASE (2stamps), and I'll gladly send you the brochures by return mail.
Regards, Cheri
Doing what I can to positively promote nudism
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Mic
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Posted - 07/25/2005 : 10:34:23 PM
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Been there and faced the problem as a couple with both a son and daughter. Wife and I limited our social nudism while on a couples only vacation or day trips.
We finally bought a boat when the youngest turned 12, and started to enjoy weekends on the water with the family.
For the first time my wife wore a bikini in front of the kids. Their reactions were interesting, our boy could not believe his mother would wear so little. But along with his sister I could tell they were sort of proud of how good their mother looked.
Everything changed when my wife lost her top while coming up the ladder onto the boat. She did not realize that her breasts were exposed until she was standing on the deck. She quickly wrapped a towel around her body and retrieved her top. Later my daughter asked her mom, "why do you have a tan under your suit?"
My wife looked at me before answering and I nodded yes. She then explained to the kids that their parents enjoyed being naked outside. After a moment of thought my son said "that's cool." My daughter then asked why we wore swim suits with them. After some hesitation, I said, "we felt that it should be their decision whether they wanted to be naked with others or be around others who are naked, not ours to force them."
The next week my daughter asked if she could sun on the back of the boat topless. Her mother told her it was her choice to expose her breasts to her brother and father. The next weekend, we stopped in a cove for lunch. After we had eaten my daughter laid out on the stern pad. She unhooked her top and laid on her stomach. Fifteen minutes later she turned over without putting her top back in place. Her brother stared for a moment and I smiled at my daughter.
My wife layed on the foredeck and my son suggested that it was alright if she wanted to take off her top. That was the beginning of our family and nudism. It took two months before anyone went beyond the ladies being topless. During our family vacation at a very remote lake, my wife and daughter were topless when ever we more than a 50 yeads from another boat. On the third day, the kids were in the boat while my wife and I were swimming. After a few minutes, I pulled off my swimsuit and put it on the swim platform. My wife saw what I did and removed her bottoms. We continued to swim and play in the water.
The kids finally decided to cool off in the lake. As they stood on the back of the boat, my daughter saw our suits on the platform. She looked at her brother and said, "it looks like mom and dad are enjoying themselves." She then jumped into the lake and pulled off her bottoms and put it on the swim platform. She then told her brother to join us. When he did and removed his suit. The family was now all nude but hidden by the water. My wife finally decided to get out of the water. She swam over to the boat and started to put her bottom on. After trying and failing to get the suit back on, she said, "oh what the heck." She then climbed up onto the deck and started to dry off.
My son stared at his mother for a few seconds and then continued to chase his sister. When it was time to get none of us hesitated to climb out sans clothing. In the mean time my wife had wrapped herself in a towel which she dropped when she saw the three of us.
For the rest of our vacation, we all were naked on the boat. That is long story of how our family handled the situation. As you can tell, we were successful in that we did not force anything and let the kids make up their own minds.
Mic
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pilot
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Posted - 07/26/2005 : 02:36:28 AM
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Mic's response emphasizes two key points. First, having both parents offer approval of nudism sends a much stronger message than either one alone saying it's okay. Second, don't anticipate your kids' responses and given them space and time to make their own choices.
Our daughter (an only child and off to college this fall) did not know quite what to make of our preferences and has taken a while to process them. What she has seen over the past several years is (1) we do not make any effort to wear unnecessary clothes at home or by our pool; (2) we do not obsess about our bodies, but we do make concerted efforts to eat healthy and to stay healthy with frequent workouts at the fitness center; (3) favored vacation destinations are nude-friendly (e.g. St. Martin/Orient Beach), and she has come with us.
I mention all of this because for several years (and like so many teens) she was very private and seemed to resist all of the healthy eating, heading to the gym and other examples we were trying to set. A few months ago, she (and I emphasize, she) decided that it was time for an attitude change--she is now eating healthy, at the gym 6 days a week, and is becoming increasingly comfortable with the body she inhabits. My wife and I look at each other wondering what finally triggered the shift, and we're still mystified.
My point is that setting parental examples of what's okay and giving kids space to make decisions within those boundaries acknowledges parental leadership while offering kids respect. As Mic's story shows, that's a powerful combination. But it can take time.
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BareBoomer
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Posted - 10/28/2006 : 11:04:15 PM
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I see it is quite some time since Mic wrote about the wonderful experience that he and his family had in finding out how to be nude together. It was very well told!
My children are grown now and I was not successful in getting them to be comfortable being naked in the pool. At the time, we lived in Florida and the summers were always hot so we spent much time in the pool. My wife and I would enjoy being nude together on my day off but the children were at school. Sometimes on a Saturday, my wife would come home from a run and strip off before going in the pool. The children were usually busy with other things and did not pay attention.
On a few occasions, I swam naked when they were in the pool but asked my eldest daughter (middle school at the time) if it made her feel uncomfortable. I assured her that if it did, I would not continue swimming nude with all of them. She indicated that she did feel a bit awkward and so I did not continue with this practice.
Now that they have gone on to college and beyond, I have often wished that we could have had something like Mic described in his article. I think the freedom would have been wonderful.
At least for myself, I can enjoy no tanlines and the freedom to be naked around the house. My wife has become quite accepting even though she does not join me very often.
BareBoomer
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navyman2
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Posted - 04/27/2007 : 05:26:53 AM
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My wife and i enjoyed have been going nude in the house , resently my oldest son 19( first marriage) moved in with us to go to school here. It all but stopped. Last week i finnaly had the the talk with son. Admazing how hard it really is to bring up to family at first. Wife used to love being topless or nude and relaxing in the house.Her family background was all the sisters were nude in and around the house all the time as were her parents. But anyway he was honest and he was ok about it. Opened the door for him to do also if he felt he wanted to. SO far we are easing into it and it seems to being going great
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naked-peter
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 Posted - 05/21/2007 : 8:32:24 PM
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I have the same problem myself. I recently widowed and have a son aged 21 and a daughter 19 still living at home.
I have been travelling to Florida on business for a week here and there since early last year, and discovered the pleasure of being free last year on Haulover beach. This spring it was becoming obvious; a deep bronze tan and no tan lines!
This weekend I was at home and decided that the easiest way to broach the subject was by example. So I set myself up on a sun lounger out on the deck (the kids have seen me naked before, just not quite as brazen). My daughter was the first to appear at the door. She simply smirked and we chatted for 5 minutes (not on topic yet!) and she went off to meet her boy friend. Then my son came down stuck his head out the door, did a double take then said "I'm off to work, see ya".
We still haven't had the discussion yet but both of them seem to have readily accepted that Dad sunbathes in the nude. Next step is to open the discussion about doing it in public.
I'm planning to find a local resort to visit for the coming holiday weekend. I've dropped a few hints to the kids (their not dumb and probably have put two and two together), we just haven't had the time to talk about it yet.
My kids are very liberated and I don't think this will phase them at all. My daughter is the curious type so you never know she might decide to join me some time.
At the end of the day I think its us that suffer the hang up, not them. If we just came out and told them, at least with my kids, they'd probably just shrug their sholders and say "so what!"
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Mic
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Posted - 06/24/2007 : 6:33:07 PM
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Unfortunately our family nudity has some problems. We continued to enjoy nudity as a family with no problems. On several ocassions other boaters either came close enough to see my wife or daughter or were already nude and joined us. The kids had no problem with others being naked with them. At the end of the summer, we met two other families with kids near to the age of ours. They all seemed to enjoy their time.
When school started, both kids participated in school sports. My daughter is/was a swimmer and my son played football. Both sports required the participants to shower after practice or game. The third day of practice my daughter was kidded for having an all over tan. The next day my son got the same treatment. Their teammates were OK but when it got out in school, the kids were really harrassed for having been naked in the sun.
Mic
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smoothy
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Posted - 06/25/2007 : 08:57:18 AM
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All they had to say is that they went to a tanning bed. The best response is don't knock until you try it.
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Nightforce
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Posted - 07/12/2007 : 3:28:39 PM
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I'm wondering how to broach the subject myself. My daughters are 4½ and 2 and it's nothing for them to strip right down for bath time no matter who is in the house. I've been making more comments about being nude, going to a nude resort, etc. and it's getting some questioning responses from my wife. I don't think she's on board with the whole nudity thing. We don't make a big deal out of it, I'll change in front of them and she will get undressed in front of them to and from the shower but we done lounge around naked as a rule. I've started sleeping in the nude again, I couldn't take the boxers or sweat shorts bunching all up. :( I don't want to force my views and beliefs on my children (other than the usual honesty, integrity, etc.) and want them to make up their minds for themselves. If my wife doesn't support the idea it might prove to be more difficult and I'll have to be a closet nudist.
Chance favors the prepared mind. - Louis Pasteur
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Balto Bob
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Posted - 07/12/2007 : 4:28:26 PM
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you might want to check out VinceM and the threads he has. Big difference is his wife is on board. You don't need to TALK to your daughters about this. Simply leave them nude after their bath and see what happens. My girls never wore panties to bed at my wifes suggestion. I remember the first time I put my youngest to bed without a diaper. I asked her if she was ready to sleep naked like the rest of us. While my ex-wife seldom was downstairs nude, she never wore a nightgown during our marriage. My oldest often wore a long sleeve shirt in the winter, her sister liked blanket sleepers or nothing depending on the weather.
I will try to link to a couple old threads on this topic.
www.nudist-resorts.org/talk/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=2471
www.nudist-resorts.org/talk/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=2785
GOOD LUCK
Bob
Have a nice NUDE day !!
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BareBoomer
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Posted - 08/17/2007 : 2:50:29 PM
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In regard to Mic's comments of 6/24, it is surprising that his teenage kids were hassled at school. I guess it depends where you live. I'm a teacher in Southern California and tanning, including all over, is a way of life for many girls and some guys. Most of them go to Mystic Tan where a chemical tan is sprayed on. The instructions clearly say that you should wear nothing in the tanning booth. What's more, shaving of pubic hair is encouraged. This is especially true with our cheer leaders. If they come to practice without enough tan, the coaches will spray their legs and arms. Now I know that this is a very long way from nudism, but it is a common way of life where I live.
I should also add that, although I am totally comfortable nude around the house, in the yard or on a nude beach, I never breath a word of this in my place of work. There is too much danger of people taking it as "sexual harrassment", something we as teachers are very sensitive to, especially male teachers.
Finally, thanks to Mic for his original post of more than a year ago about how his family first came to nudism. It was well told and a model of freedom within the family that many of us wish could be possible.
Cheers,
Bareboomer
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ultrahd
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Posted - 02/22/2008 : 10:23:12 AM
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my daughter is in early 20"s ,i just started being a nudist less then a year ago,im nude in hot tub a lot,when my daughter comes over i want to stay nude ,is it ok ?
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Diger
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Posted - 02/22/2008 : 12:47:18 PM
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ultrahd,
Your asking the wrong person, ask your daughter. A hot tub is a good excuse to skinny dip. Tell her you like skinny dipping and don't like soggy swimsuits. One other way is to put up a sign over the hot tub that says "suimsuits are optional". She may take it as a joke but it will open the door to the idea.
Just be honest with her, she's an adult, she can handle it.
Diger
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skipre
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Posted - 12/10/2008 : 04:07:41 AM
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My daughter is 18. We sat down one evening playing dominoes while my wife was at work. She is alot like me so I asked her a few questions, and she asked some back. She enjoys walking around the house with a "skimpy" robe when she gets up and before and after showers. I asked her if she just went nude around the house while my wife and I were at work, which she admitted to. I told her it was okay, that I didn't mind, I to did the same when I was her age. I told her that often growning up, during the summers I never came in the house. I let her know that feeling this freedom was natural. She asked me honest questions like how did I hide it from my mother. Told her it was easy. My mother called me "natureboy" because from the time school let out till we went back, other than church I only wore cut off jean shorts. I would mow the lawn several times a week, take the mower behind some trees, leave it run and lay out where she couldn't see me. Daughter got a kick out of that. I told her that this winter and spring I am working on making the backyard nude frienly. So I can lay out, let her know that it was okay if she wanted to she could do the same. I want to let her come to this on her own and not force anything uncomfortable on her, but let her know how I feel, and that it is okay for her to feel that way to. Now she sleeps nude, and continues being textile free when we are not home. Wife sleeps topless, and me I enjoy my freedom every chance I get. BTW she beat me in Dominoes.
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nudieboy and jenni
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Posted - 08/19/2012 : 10:12:01 AM
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Friends of our who had never told their 17 yr old daughter they were nudists decided it was time. They were on vacation at Haulover Beach and when they got to the nude section her mother took off her bathing suit, and the daughter was surprised to see her mother nude. She told he she and her husband had been nudist for years and if she wanted to become one she could. She removed her bathing suit and they have all bee nudists since then.
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