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Admin
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 Posted - 06/02/2004 : 8:28:34 PM
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How do you tell a real nudist from someone mostly interested in sex, and posing as a nudist?
Many nudists will tell you nudism is good for your mental health, and is healthy for the entire family. But what about the "nudist sex" you see on the Internet, isn't that part of nudism? How do you explain this to someone interested in trying nudism for themselves?
In other words, how do you personally sort out the bad apples?
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Dave
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Posted - 06/02/2004 : 9:07:59 PM
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 I would say,pushy people .Most pushy people have alterior motives!Just like the lounge lizards that inhabit the bars in every home town across this fine country!They will hit on you,push you to do what ever.To each his own,like everything else keep your eyes open and don't be nieve!!!Unless you want to!!!Dave...
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Bikeracer
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Posted - 06/06/2004 : 08:00:21 AM
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Great new topic Admin! I've had occasion to introduce a few people to nudism. I find it's effective to go about it gradually and unoffensively. The idea that it's 'sexual' to be sans clothes need's to be quickly dispelled, in my opinion.
Nude in the pacific northwest
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naturist_massage2000
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Posted - 06/06/2004 : 1:54:41 PM
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my husband tells me he is not a nudist but a naturist, he defines it as naturists believe in the lifestyle as a whole and nudists are nothing more than Expositionist. this is how they class them in the uk he says.
joyce and andy
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Cheri
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Posted - 06/06/2004 : 7:11:31 PM
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Joyce, That's HIS definition. I use the words interchangeably. Others who enjoy being nude in nature only consider themselves naturists. I enjoy being nude when possible but clothed when practical. I've been a nudist for over 36 yrs. of my 56 and am a nudist/naturist; first, last, & only. Nudists are not exhibitionists (I think that's the word you mean). Nudists and naturists enjoy the freedom from clothing in appropriate settings. We don't want to flaunt that freedom, just enjoy it.
It's about accepting yourself and others and not what you look like, own, or wear.
Regards, Cheri
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NudeAl
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Posted - 06/06/2004 : 10:26:22 PM
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This is a recurring problem.
It is bad enough that the uninformed general public associates us with the whole sex thing. But then you get those who go out and do this sort of thing and it just undermines everything we are trying to do. What adults do behind closed doors is their business. I have no problem with that. It is when they hit on others in a nudist setting or try having their, "fun," at a nude beach in front of others that really burns me up.
In my opinion we nudists are generally far to accepting of this type of behavior. I know we all just want to get along but we really must take a hard stand on all inappropriate types of behavior. If not we will loose what few remaining places we have.
I really don't know how to expain how to tell if they are genuine nudists or not. I think you just have to go with your gut instincts on this. If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck then the odds are pretty good it is a duck.
"The best dress for walking is nakedness." Collin Fletcher
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FireProf
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 Posted - 06/06/2004 : 10:45:40 PM
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nudeAl,
I think you are right about that, we used to just turn away in the beginning and not say anything to those people acting inappropriately. We were at our favorite resort and were spending a few days and nights there. One weekend day the place was full and there were several day use couples there. The owners and manager were working overtime scolding these day user about the rules and etiquette of the resort. I got a scolding for not speaking up. We visit there quite often and we thought we were just guests until, while being scolded, the manager and owners stated they rely greatly on us regulars to be there extra eyes and ears. They said, "you're here so much, you're like extended staff, so don't let that stuff happen." It made us feel good that they felt that way.
We don't keep our mouths shut anymore, we don't especially like to confront abusers but you are so right by saying....if we don't keep our resorts and beaches free of this type of behavior, we are condoning it and we could very easily loose our beach and our resort get a reputation we don't want to have. So we are vocal to those abusers nowadays. So far I haven't had to duck a punch but if it comes to that, I am able to hold my own til the calvary arrives!
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Kimberly
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Posted - 06/07/2004 : 05:08:54 AM
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Good for you FireProf. Sometimes we have to stand up for what is right at the club even though there is management present. Some people just push things to see how far they can get. It also works the other way when people get into a tight click, and exclude others. There should be a balance, that everyone is welcome, but gently informed of any rules violations.
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cheef
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Posted - 06/07/2004 : 9:40:40 PM
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Actually, this is how society was supposed to work... we have standards and we hold each other to them. In our neighborhood, we have drug dealers and prostitutes on the corners, teenagers drinking beer and other alcohol in the parks, and streets full of truant children. Why? Because nobody wants to speak up... they leave it to the "management" ("police") to do it.
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Kimberly
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Posted - 06/10/2004 : 04:43:37 AM
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Right Cheef, and when the "Management" does something about it, then everyone gets upset with the "Management". Go figure.
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NUDKIWI
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Posted - 06/10/2004 : 3:41:21 PM
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Yes unfortunately some people think that when we leave our clothes at the gate we leave our morals as well.Nudists or naturists aren't any more or less sexual than ordinary people.Why?,because we ARE ordinary people who just happen to be more comfortable doing certain things without the restrictions of clothes.
You wouldn't go around doing obscene acts on a clothed beach or resort,why do it on a nudist one.
Naturally KIWI
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NudeTLH
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Posted - 06/10/2004 : 4:46:53 PM
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No matter what walk of life we are in we are going to encounter those who have motives less desirable. We should give everyone a chance but once they show their true colors something should be done about it. Perhaps if this was the case, I would not be so suspect everytime I want to join a club or go to a resort as a single male. (Which is really getting old.)
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Kimberly
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Posted - 06/12/2004 : 06:59:09 AM
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That is a point I have always tried to make Nude TLH. I think everyone should be able to join a nudist whether they are married or not. I asked one of the club managers why single males were not permitted access to the club. The response was that by admitting only couples, it kept the ratio of males to females even, and they can control trouble makers easier. Looks like you could always toss a person out of the club if they did not obey the rules. We witnessed at one club where a couple of single guys were refused admitance to the club, but we niticed that a single female was granted access. I do not mind single males being members of the club. I would probably feel uneasy if I was like the only female and the rest males, but I do not think that would happen. If they are worried about single males hitting on the females, I have been hit on by more married men than I have have by a single men. There is a good possibility that when my son goes away to college next year, that there are clubs he would not be permitted to visit because he is a single male, even though he has been a nudist most of his life.
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Cheri
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Posted - 06/12/2004 : 10:12:47 AM
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Kim, Is your son an AANR or TNS member through a club? If so that club management or even you, can call ahead for him to try to gain admittance. I do that for any and all of my singles who travel.
Hugs, Cheri
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naturalgar
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Posted - 06/12/2004 : 12:45:53 PM
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Well it was this February that I arrived at the Holiday Inn express where there was a nude swim & dance...many people were there and I even had a contact ...but showing up as a "single" male I could tell that they were less enthusiastic about letting me gain admittance> I a'm an outgowing person and I feel that I could have fit in well, but left due to the way I felt about being "single"
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Cheri
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Posted - 06/13/2004 : 09:58:41 AM
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Gary,
I wish you could have felt more comfortable. Don't be self conscious about being single. Couples don't spend all their time together at the swims/dances. Once you walked in, it probably would have felt relaxed andenjoyed the event.
Hugs, Cheri
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