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mzdadrvr
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 Posted - 09/04/2002 : 01:16:49 AM
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I am interested in trying nudist experiences in a resort or private club setting. I have heard that might be easier to ease into. However, my female companion, won't have anything to do with it. I have encouraged her to try it in the privacy of my house, with just the two of us. She has done so, but only for brief periods. I have gone nude in front of her and she accepts it. I believe that she equates sex with nudity. I am looking for any ideas to get her to be open to at least engaging in nudism when we are alone, with the hopes that some day, we could go to a more public setting.
How did the ladies companions here make the first steps to get them to engage in nudism? How did the women here first come into the practice?
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Cheri
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Posted - 09/04/2002 : 12:08:16 PM
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I've been a nudist longer than my husband. We met because we are both nudists. I've visited more than 50 clubs, parks, resorts, and beaches during the 34+ years.
I put together a brochure for reluctant partners that can be found on the web at - /cheri.html
Within that brochure is my first time experience.
How about suggesting in exchange for something she would like (you cooking dinner, you taking her out to dinner, her choice of tv show or movie, shopping trip, something in your budget), ask her if she can accompany you for one hour only? Remind her that if at any time she feels uncomfortable, you will gladly leave with her.
You didn't mention where you are located or I'd happily have made a recommendation for a first visit somewhere.
Best regards & good luck,
Cheri
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usvera
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Posted - 09/21/2002 : 07:25:01 AM
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You might also like to read what Candy Mejia the manager of the Terra Cotta Inn in Palm Springs has written about nudism... you will find it by Clicking Here I think it is very interesting..!
Bare Hugz... Vera, the Sun Devil
The Diablo Sun Devils... a nudist club primarily for the benefit of women everywhere..!
http://www.DiabloSunDevils.com
Devils@DiabloSunDevils.com
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mariosp
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Posted - 09/28/2002 : 10:19:40 PM
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I would try a place like Orient Beach where there are both clothed and nude people. In that way, she can gradually decide when and if she is ready to remove her clothing. When I went with my wife, she swore she wouldn't be wearing anything less than a bikini. By the end of the week, she was taking off her clothes as soon as we got to the beach and walking end to end. After a while, it doesn't seem odd at all and she learned to just ignore the gawkers.
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lv1752
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Posted - 09/30/2002 : 8:06:36 PM
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Hi,my name is Larry. Have been reading some of the posts on this topic. My situation is quite different;my wife will cheerfully accompany me to nudist spots,sometimes even initiating it,because she knows I enjoy it. However,when we do go,she stays covered up from head to foot,and refuses to talk to anyone. I know she is selfconscious about being somewhat overweight yet many of the people there both men and women are more than twice her size!! If she could change her attitude,I think she would enjoy it,but I sure dont enjoy being around someone who merely "tolerates" it. Any suggestions?
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Beach
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Posted - 09/30/2002 : 10:36:14 PM
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She may be suffering from a bit of low self esteem. Just be patient, keep verbally reminding her that she is beautiful and non verbally reminding her she is loved by holding her hand and caressing her hair once in a while. There are many BBW sites that make no bones about large women being beautiful! She must love you a lot! Yourt a lucky, lucky man....
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usvera
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Candy Mejia
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Posted - 11/10/2002 : 7:45:43 PM
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Hi, My name is Candy Mejia. I am the Manager of the Terra Cotta Inn. Hi Vera, thanks for mentioning my article on the http://www.diablosundevils.com site.
This is my advice for trying to get a woman to try nude recreation. First try nude sunbathing in your back yard, if it is private. Do NOT do anything sexual in your back yard. You are trying to convince you wife that nude recreation is not sexual, and you will hurt your arguements if you get frisky. After she becomes comfortable, then look for a nice nudist resort in an exotic area. Palm Springs, Florida, Europe, The Caribbean, etc. This way she will equate nude recreation with a great vacation and you will hook her. If you don't have a private back yard, then visit a local nude beach. Go to an end which is away from other people. Nervous women normally do not want to talk with others on their first time. And of course smaller resorts like us and the Morningside Inn are great in that your wife will feel pampered.
Good luck. Candy :-)
Candy:-)
The Terra Cotta Inn of Palm SPrings, CA
http://www.sunnyfun.com
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Cheri
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Posted - 11/10/2002 : 9:59:14 PM
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Candy,
Nice "seeing" you here. Tom & his wife are lovely folk. I regularly recommend Terra if a man is interested in bringing his wife for a first-time visit somewhere. That is definitely the place to feel spoiled.
Best regards, Cheri Alexander
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socalnudist2003
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Posted - 09/16/2003 : 2:09:23 PM
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I everyone, so as my first post I thought I would ask for some advice...
I saw this topic and it fits my situation to a T right now, so sorry to bring up an older subject.
I am engaged to a wonderful woman and I was a home nudist before I met her. I have eased her into the process and now she is used to my lifestyle choice. We have many conversations about nudism and its benefits and why i like it, but they all end up with her saying, "thats good for you but I couldn't do it" She has agreed to accompany me to a clothing optional beach or resort as long as she doesn't have to participate (which i am estatic about as this might be a first step)
What I am confuzzled about though is her attitudes. She is a "prime candidate" to enjoy the lifestyle as the first thing she does when she gets home is Take off her clothes and only wear underwear and a t-shirt around the house. I ask her why doesn't she just do away with the clothes and she says that she likes them, that they are comfy.
I have tried to get her to read the brochures that were talked about on here but she has always begged off. I don't want to push but I truely think that she would enjoy it. I think that she thinks that nudism is rooted in sex. Probably because the only form of being nude in front of me is when we are making love.
Thanks again for everyone's encouragement and wonderful resources here! THey have been very helpful, especially since I just moved to the Palm Springs area.
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Cheri
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Posted - 09/16/2003 : 2:39:45 PM
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socalnudist, Don't push her. I can very much recommend taking her to Terra Cotta Inn for the day/weekend in Palm Springs, CA. She will enjoy it. Buy her a pareo (sarong). She'll be able to wear that if she's still uncomfortable. I can very much recommend the resort or other nudist park rather than the beach since it does have a more controlled environment. Don't push her. Nudism isn't for everyone. Some times it just feels good to wear a comfortable tshirt. I wish you well.
Regards, Cheri
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socalnudist2003
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Posted - 09/18/2003 : 6:23:16 PM
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thanks Cheri
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tj
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Posted - 02/24/2004 : 10:04:17 PM
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I have been a nudist for a few years and enjoy it and for some time now I have been asking my wife to go with me . After many talks I think she understands  . She has been of the mindset that nude = sex.I explained to her it is being as we were intended and seeing people for who they are. I realy think it will help her self esteem , not everyone is a perfect 10 or a beauty queen but everyone is beautiful in there own way . Hollywood has hurt many pretty ladys by setting a certian mindset as to how a woman should look, don't get me wrong I think my wife is very pretty but sometimes I think one thing that keeps many people away from enjoying nudism is how others see them based on sositys view of whats attractive and what the porn industry has done in that naked = sex. Some of my most relaxing times are when I am sitting on the waters edge (nude)playing in the sand like I did as a child before life got so complacated.Anyway I need to know if there are any good beaches an hour or so from my location , the one condition my wife had is that it cant be close to home for the first time , I understand. any help. I live in northeastern maryland. tj
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Cheri
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Posted - 02/25/2004 : 7:37:05 PM
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TJ, I can recommend White Tail Park in the Ivor, VA area or Avalon in the Paw Paw, WV area are very nice nudist parks. There are no nude beaches in your area.
Regards, Cheri
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calmnude
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Posted - 02/25/2004 : 8:59:27 PM
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if you are closer to the pennsyvania border, you can try cheef's web site, or melissa starr's. there are a number of places not that far away.
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jerry adler
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Posted - 02/26/2004 : 6:38:51 PM
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My suggestion is to leave her alone. . . The more you talk about it, the more her defense mechanisms are activated. Sometimes men are on an ego trip, whereby everyone must do what they say. In this fashion they are in control. Sex, by the way, is everything. Sex without RESPECT for your partner is nothing. Look around you, man. Watch T.V., listen to the radio , there is hardly anything that doesn't represent sex. We hide it. point blank, so that at times, we are completely unaware of how to gratify a woman; either emotionally or physically. We can't talk about it, so that the church tells you propagation is for reproduction only. Right or wrong, these are only my thoughts, and since one is born in sin (?) and then one spends an entire lifetime attempting to overcome what guilt has been imposed. It' s almost like the headstone I saw once that was carved with, See, I told you I was sick!. You're right, Cheri. Not everyone is a nudist. Don't talk, show her that nudism is as natural as sweating and other bodily functions. We're born naked, we die naked. what you do inbetween is up to you. Live each day as if it were a gift from heaven, and for heaven sake, live it as if you were a complete person. Change the things you don't like about yourself, but most importantly, learn to accept people for who they really are, not what you want them to be. Jerry
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