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agde
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 Posted - 03/19/2007 : 01:39:16 AM
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Justin, I think its really good that you are letting your grandmother get slowly used to your "fashion preference". But it also appears that its about time to start planning for an up-front conversation. If it were me, I would eventually say something like: "Grandma, you've known me since I was a baby and you know I like to kind of air my bod without clothes from time-to-time around the house. Do you mind? I would just prefer to be really easy-going about being clothed or not around the house, but I don't want to be a pain."
Then I'd be ready for the potential responses. If she said, "I don't think its appropriate", I'd be emotionally ready to respect that and say "Ok, no prob!" If it was, "Well, only when its normal, like on the way to the shower" then I'd also be ready to say "OK, no prob!" but knowing that subsequently I'd be able negotiate occasions when it was OK. If it was a plain and simple "Its fine" then I'd be ready to say "Great! But be sure to tell me if ever it bothers you!" If she responded, "Well, I don't mind as long as you don't mind seeing me nude from time to time too" then its again "OK, no prob!", but I'd be ready to be really normal and nonchalant the first time I saw her nude.
Have you thought about how she feels about you being in what is essentially her space? She may also be feeling with you around that she has to close doors or dress up when normally she wouldn't alone. Whenever people share a living space, its all about harmonizing habit patterns so that everyone is completely comfortable. That's really what your conversation will be about.
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jmg33188
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Posted - 03/19/2007 : 12:28:04 PM
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Originally posted by agde
Justin, I think its really good that you are letting your grandmother get slowly used to your "fashion preference". But it also appears that its about time to start planning for an up-front conversation. If it were me, I would eventually say something like: "Grandma, you've known me since I was a baby and you know I like to kind of air my bod without clothes from time-to-time around the house. Do you mind? I would just prefer to be really easy-going about being clothed or not around the house, but I don't want to be a pain."
Then I'd be ready for the potential responses. If she said, "I don't think its appropriate", I'd be emotionally ready to respect that and say "Ok, no prob!" If it was, "Well, only when its normal, like on the way to the shower" then I'd also be ready to say "OK, no prob!" but knowing that subsequently I'd be able negotiate occasions when it was OK. If it was a plain and simple "Its fine" then I'd be ready to say "Great! But be sure to tell me if ever it bothers you!" If she responded, "Well, I don't mind as long as you don't mind seeing me nude from time to time too" then its again "OK, no prob!", but I'd be ready to be really normal and nonchalant the first time I saw her nude.
Have you thought about how she feels about you being in what is essentially her space? She may also be feeling with you around that she has to close doors or dress up when normally she wouldn't alone. Whenever people share a living space, its all about harmonizing habit patterns so that everyone is completely comfortable. That's really what your conversation will be about
Thanks for the great advice. For some reason, I was feeling uncomfortable anytime I would try to say something about the subject. I agree though. It is her house and I should sit and have an actual conversation about it so that we are both on the same page. It is all about respect.
As far as her being nude around the house: When we went to the nude beach when I was little, she never went nude, only my parents, my grandfather and I, did.
I think I might sit down with her now actually. I want to get the whole thing nice and clear. Thanks again for an outstanding suggestion.
V/R
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jmg33188
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Posted - 03/19/2007 : 12:46:14 PM
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Well, that wasn't as bad as I thought. I said that i didn't want to do anything that would make her feel uncomfortable or that would show any kind of disrespect. Then I asked her if she minded me walking around the house with no clothes on. She responded by saying she doesn't mind as long as I have my towel on when I am downstairs. (I bought one of those towels with the elastic and the snaps). I just would like to once again, thank everyone for their great suggestions, comments, and advice.
V/R
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agde
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Posted - 03/22/2007 : 2:34:48 PM
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Well done, Justin! Now you can relax and just let time do its thing. Meantime, you'll be able to explore fashion options for your downstairs wraps! 
One last thought -- upstairs is kind of going to be a test area for interactions, so enjoy and keep it really friendly and natural. Also, its been my experience that if one is always well-groomed when seen -- alas we have to spend extra time on full body grooming -- it has a positive impact on others' experience of living with a naturist.
Good luck!
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jmg33188
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Posted - 08/19/2007 : 05:43:52 AM
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Hello Everyone. I realize it has been awhile since my last post, but here are some updates...
My girlfriend and I have regularly attended Light House beach on Long Island all summer long. We met some very nice people who we keep in contact with. Also, one couple we met told us about Sunny Rest Resort in PA. We visited a few weekends ago. We were unsure about nude camping so we decided to get a hotel room. It took us about an hour to get used to the surroundings and after that, all of the clothes came off for the entire weekend. We enjoyed the pool and the night club that they have on friday and saturday nights. There, we met a bunch of great ppl. We were even invited to some parties throughout the weekend. I have to say the strange part was sitting in the restaurant at breakfast completely nude. It took a little getting used to, but we had a blast. We definately plan on returning soon.
Hope everyone is doing well and I look forward to your posts.
Justin
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Dannie22
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Posted - 11/03/2007 : 10:29:26 PM
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Hi, I am new to nudism. Recently I modeled nude for a retired photographer and really enjoyed it. Also I like to do housework in the nude and sometimes run on my treadmill. I would like to find a place to hike or walk in the woods.
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pilot
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Posted - 11/03/2007 : 10:52:03 PM
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Welcome to nude recreation, Dannie22. You might want to review some of the threads on public nudity and the law; depending on where you live, there may be some legal issues. If you want to try social nudity, your best bet is to find an AANR-member club or resort. There's lots of information at www.aanr.com
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Posted - 11/10/2007 : 11:37:36 AM
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Hi Dannie22! You've hit on a topic that I enjoy. I took the name Nudewalker because I love to be naked in the woods. You just have to know your surroundings and be careful. You might check out www.hikingnaked.com or see if you can find Sunnydays website. I've been in secluded areas that I scouted out and in all these years I've only been seen once, by a mountian biker! Good luck and enjoy!
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barefoot n nude
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Posted - 01/17/2008 : 5:02:57 PM
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Hi guys, new nudist here. I'm really nervous about going nude in public, and I want a private place to hike with my girlfriend, because we don't to hang out around textile people, or strangers, because we don't want people to see us nude.
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Diger
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Posted - 01/17/2008 : 9:20:38 PM
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Barefoot,
If I could suggest you go to some nudist venue, a beach or resort, you will not regret it. You will find being around others is one of the most relaxing things you have ever tried.
Diger
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barefoot n nude
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Posted - 03/25/2008 : 6:01:44 PM
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I don't know, maybe we might want to keep with being nude alone
Thanks for the advice anyway though, Diger
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Diger
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Posted - 03/25/2008 : 10:09:31 PM
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Barefoot,
Only you will know when or if it will be rite for you. Personaly it took us several years to take our enjoyment of nudity out of the house and backyard to Apollo beach. After we did, we were wondering why we waited so long.
Good Luck
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barefoot n nude
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Posted - 03/27/2008 : 6:37:38 PM
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Maybe, but if you read my latest thread (moderation pending), I come from a strictly textile family, who absolutely refused to let me be nude anywhere, unlike Justins, whose grandmother is slightly tolerant. Maybe we're (me and my girlfriend) just best off walking nude together in isolated spots or private spots.
Again, thanks a lot for caring, Diger.
Nude and barefoot forever!
And Ever!
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