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sah956
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 Posted - 11/28/2007 : 3:13:21 PM
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hi iam 18 and iam in 12th grade in high school, my parents are not nudists how can i tell them, or how can i get my fam to join?
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agde
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Posted - 11/28/2007 : 7:44:24 PM
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Different parents react in different ways depending on their upbringing and how easy it is to talk to them. Many kids nowadays are much more comfortable with casual nudity than their parents. Sometimes though, the current crop of parents may have actually participated in the "free beach" era, so may be a whole lot more understanding than expected. Generally, rather than making a big deal of being a nudist, little steps usually work best. For example, taking a few minutes to air the bod after a shower, or doing morning primping nude, like shaving if you're a guy or putting on makeup if a girl. Reading up on nudity issues -- lots of good online resources -- also allows you to understand where parents are coming from and maybe raise little conversational topics like that article you read about Brattleboro, the fun of hiking au natural in the Alps, or the history of body-shame in Hawaii.
A dad who knows our household is clothing-optional told me his daughter had gotten "casual about leaving doors open when dressing" and had asked her mom about an article she had read about women and body shame -- he was wondering how to react since he'd been brought up "in a strict family" but didn't want unknowingly to "traumatize" his daughter, but also wanted her to be safe. I replied that I thought she might be merely signaling an interest in naturist-style body acceptance, that there were a number of studies and articles about how separating wearing clothes from sexuality was a very healthy attitude, and that he might want just to talk with her openly about his worries, find out about the attitudes of her peers, and discuss when/where skin-only was an appropriate choice of attire.
Sooner or later you just need to ask openly if they mind your having a little clothes-free time around the house. Ultimately of course they set the rules and you have to be emotionally ready to respect them and look forward to college. Btw, you may want to read about Justin's similar experience or check out similar topics on the YNAI forum.
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traisjames
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Posted - 02/21/2008 : 9:29:08 PM
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I reasontly told my mom about how I am conferrable being nude. my family tends to lounge around the house wearing just underwear and shorts (or shirts in my sister and moms case), but I have gone skinny dipping with my brother and my mom seemed to be fine with it. that was over the summer and a few weeks ago, I asked her her thoughts on nudity. it did not result in a good conversation. I am at college and its winter so I can only be nude in my room as I don't have any friends who seem conferrable with nudity and so I spend all of my "free" time by myself, and I find it so much more enjoyable then being clothd, but I know when I go home, I won't be able to be so free. Even if my mom was ok with it, my dad and sister would not be.
I am also posting this http://www.nudist-resorts.org/talk/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=2756 as it fits better there
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Posted - 04/20/2008 : 7:46:49 PM
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sah-
Give it time, don't try to force it upon them if they have already given you the indication that they're not comfortable with it. For a little while, grin and bare it (no pun intended) and when you head off to college or the military, keep your mind open to new experiences and enjoy the trip we call "life".
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traisjames
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Posted - 04/26/2008 : 6:27:45 PM
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As i have mentioned in previous posts, I am kind of a closet nudist as other than my mother knows...knew...that I was a nudist. when I told her about, I got a fairly negative response. Well last week was spring break (I have a loopy college) and I was at home for my break. On sunday my mom gave me a much needed hair cut. After my hair cut I wanted to wash off the hair so I wouldn't be itchy, and being that I was home, I decided to go to "my" pond to dip in and wash off the hair. Sure, the water was about 34°, but I will be lifeguarding at lake superior this summer and the water won't how I like it at about 90° and if someone needs to be rescued, I won't be able to ease my way into the lake, so I was using my pond to start getting adjusted to the cold. My 12 year-old brother came down, saw that I was nude, asked about it, then got naked and joined. we spent about 10 minutes seeing exactly how insane we by seeing how deep we would go (I made it to my armpit. he made it to his belly, and his legs turned red because of the cold...my shoulder also turned red, but from a sunburn instead). While still in the water we talked a little bit about it, and while he was fine with being nude himself, he did not feel conferrable being nude with people not in his family. Still, that now makes 1 is fine with nudity, 1 indifferent, 2 have no idea about me being a nudist, and ME!
I should quickly mention that my sister does not know and I am debating on weither she would be ok with it or not. On one hand, she is like rebellious teen, dressing in some kind of provocative manor (actually she isn't that bad) and whatever is cool or hip. her rebelliousness also includes being self-centered and aggressive. On the other hand, she is very open minded when it comes to gay rights, being extremely active in her high school's Gay-straight alliance, which when I found out actually surprised me based on her personality, but being as open minded as she is, I have been thinking she might be ok with the fact that I am a nudist.
Tuesday afternoon, took my dogs out to let them go to the bathroom and I went down with them to the pond and saw that some ducks had landed, but my dogs scared them off, so I took them back inside, grabbed a camera, and went back out. When I got down to the pond, the ducks were still gone, so after hiding in some bushes, I decided to go on a walk to our family's land (I was nude from the time I got down to the pond the second time on). After seeing a flock of turkeys, a deer, 8 ticks, and making it to our land a mile away, I headed back to the pond to hopefully see that the ducks had come back. As I came over the hill, I saw one of two things. First, there were no ducks; second, my parents were looking for me. My cloths were on the other side of the pond from me so there was no way I could get changed, so my mom and dad both saw me nude. at that time neither one mentioned anything to me about it but when I was helping my dad put the sheep and pony away, he mentioned that I should avoid doing that since it is turkey hunting season and soon to be mushroom hunting seasoning and that was it. At some point while watching TV he refereed to me as nature boy. This is an almost 100% opposite of how I was expecting him to respond. My dad is a bit more conservative then my mom so I was expecting him to frown apon it more then mom. This has been turned on its head and I am glad about that.
One more thing, when I got back to the pond and put my pants on, I had to keep adjusting them as I could not get them back on and have them feel conferrable.
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