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nudistmormon
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 Posted - 03/04/2008 : 11:16:29 PM
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Im in a strange (to me anyway) position. I need to tell my family I am a nudist and been thinking of ways to do it. my mom is one i am not sure how she will take it, grandmother may try to turn it around on me somehow, one uncle wont care either way the other would most likely join me and then theres the others who are extremely judgemental. My thoughts are to tell my uncle who will most likely join me and have him help explain. any other ideas?
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JohnnyBoy
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Posted - 03/05/2008 : 3:39:05 PM
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I'm curious why you feel the need to tell your family? My family knows we are nudists, but only because they asked. We had been spending a lot of weekends at a rustic club just outside of town. My folks would call, and my (then) teenage kids would tell them we were at "the club" camping. They never asked the kids, but one day their curiosity got to them, and we explained. Understand, my folks are very conservative and deeply religious. Mom thought it was "interesting" in a "that's cool" sort of way. Dad doesn't want to hear it. He makes it known he disapproves, but realizes it's our life, so he just leaves it alone. My brother falls into my dads way of thinking, my sister just says "yea, that's John". She's interested in it in a "so what've y'all been doing lately" kind of way. Mrs JohnnyBoy's family all know, but we have limited contact with them and don't really care what they think.
Edited to add: My folks have met most of our nudist friends (in a textile environment). Mom always comments that she really likes our group of friends, as does Dad.
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Calbob
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Posted - 03/05/2008 : 11:49:09 PM
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Originally posted by nudistmormon
Im in a strange (to me anyway) position. I need to tell my family I am a nudist and been thinking of ways to do it. my mom is one i am not sure how she will take it, grandmother may try to turn it around on me somehow, one uncle wont care either way the other would most likely join me and then theres the others who are extremely judgemental. My thoughts are to tell my uncle who will most likely join me and have him help explain. any other ideas?
Not new here, I usd to have the s/n loves2bnude
You didn't mention whether there is a religious aspect to your dilemma. Your ID suggests that there is. I know that strict Mormons strongly disapprove of nudity, so there may be no good solution.
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nudistmormon
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Posted - 03/06/2008 : 12:14:31 AM
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well, its not a religious thing (and im the only mormon in the family) its more that when i get a place of my own they are guarenteed to just walk in the place without knocking and for some reason locks of almost any kind dont help much in keeping my family out. if they walk in on me there could be some problems if theres no warning ahead of time. By the way the lds church aka mormon church doesnt actually have a stance on nudism. we disapprove of porn and things of that nature or dressing immodestly and so on but im not going to go into all of that here.
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txvic
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Posted - 03/06/2008 : 09:06:46 AM
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if you're in your own place enjoying your nudist lifestyle and they walk right in without knocking, maybe they will learn to knock.
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nudistmormon
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Posted - 03/06/2008 : 11:07:03 AM
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"maybe they will learn to knock." haha good one. Maybe I will just refrain from telling anyone except one of my uncles (I know if he knows he wont react strangely) and let everyone else ask questions
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agde
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Posted - 03/06/2008 : 2:23:06 PM
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If someone walks in on you nude, there are all sorts of humorous ways to deflect the tension.
- "I haven't got around to deciding what to wear yet -- do you have any suggestions?"
- "Yes, well, my new girlfriend took my clothes to sew up all the torn parts."
- "The judge told me I can be nude at home."
- "Some friends want to go skinny-dipping this weekend, so I'm a just practicing."
- "The whole apartment complex just went clothing-optional, so I'm trying to fit in."
- "Mom refuses to come over to do my laundry" or if it's your mom who walks in "Whew! You've finally come to do my laundry!"
Overall, like all things with family, it is always more traumatic worrying about stuff than afterwards when you find out that everyone adjusts. As noted by others, there is no particular reason for a "public confession" but rather just to continue to be normal, nonchalant, cheerful and non-defensive when they ask or find out. It can also be useful to have few "reasons why" handy -- you've probably seen The Naturist Society's "205 Reasons".
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nudeisntlewd
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Posted - 03/06/2008 : 5:48:32 PM
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quote:
Originally posted by nudistmormon
Im in a strange (to me anyway) position. I need to tell my family I am a nudist and been thinking of ways to do it. my mom is one i am not sure how she will take it, grandmother may try to turn it around on me somehow, one uncle wont care either way the other would most likely join me and then theres the others who are extremely judgemental. My thoughts are to tell my uncle who will most likely join me and have him help explain. any other ideas?
Not new here, I usd to have the s/n loves2bnude
I don't have time to read all the other posts today to see if this has been said in one way or another yet, but here's my feeling on your situation:
Why? I mean, why bother? Everyone doesn't need to know everything about you. It would be nice if more people were open-minded about some things, but most people are not. If you think it would be awkward or worse, don't put yourself through the pain. If it will damage or limit your enjoyment of the practice, don't tell. Some members of my family know, some don't. Some don't have a problem, some think I'm a freak. All say they would or could never do it. There are a billion things that others don't know, don't need to know, and will never know about me.
There's nothing wrong with you having something that you enjoy that they don't know about. As far as I'm concerned, we don't need to "convert" the world to our practice of social nudity. We just need to be left alone to enjoy it unmolested. Our behavior and our good example are the best ways of getting more people comfortable with us and possibly with trying it too. If you fear being accused or ostracized by your family, I feel they're not the people to engage in a confrontation with about it. There's nothing wrong with your enjoyment of being nude. There's no prohibition of nudity in the Bible. If that's what your faith is based upon, don't let "experts" tell you differenty.
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nudistmormon
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Posted - 03/06/2008 : 8:49:02 PM
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for me the biggest concern is the heart attack factor, im not sure who will be so shocked by seeing it with no warning that they have a heart attack (with my familys hearts its really a possibility.) i think my mom has suspected i am a nudist for a while because when i was a teenager i thought of the human body and nudity different so nudity had no effect on me. Knowing my mom Id be able to tell her and she wouldnt think much of it.
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jeanluc
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Posted - 03/07/2008 : 1:54:42 PM
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Nudistmormon,
I don't know if you have seen the mention of it elsewhere on this forum, but there is a web site relating to LDS and skinnydipping http://www.ldssdc.info/. If you haven't checked it out, you might look at it. I only saw the home page, but it looks ok.
Jeanluc
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nudistmormon
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Posted - 03/07/2008 : 1:56:59 PM
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i saw it, i am a member of the lds skinny dippers forum. thanks though
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Balto Bob
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Posted - 03/07/2008 : 5:41:39 PM
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You don't "need" to tell your family. You may WANT to tell them though. My daughter and her partner were togeather 5 YEARS before she told my parents and I. They wanted to have a rather large public ceremony which they wanted us to attend which gave her the NEED to tell us.
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nudistmormon
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Posted - 05/11/2008 : 4:10:53 PM
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Well, I told my mom, she said she suspected as much for a long time.
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prism2525
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Posted - 05/11/2008 : 6:02:25 PM
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and? No hysterical outbreaks or anything?
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nudistmormon
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Posted - 05/11/2008 : 10:53:13 PM
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nope no freaking out.
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FireProf
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Posted - 05/12/2008 : 12:39:38 AM
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Sorry to go a tad off topic but I've got a question...I hope you can try and ask.
What is it in the Mormon teaching, if any, that discourage or disapprove of nudism?
We had a landscaper, who is mormon, do our entire backyard. I tried to be general, in nature, about why we needed lots of landscaping on one side of the yard so we could have complete privacy. He wasn't getting it...so I just told him...my wife and I are nudists, we enjoy our backyard without clothing and do not want to upset or embarrass the neighbors.
We never saw this guy again. He always sent one of his partners to do the talking, negotiating and completion of the job. He'd been here each and every time til I told him about us.
Just curious if was a teaching or just his personal preference not to deal with us nudists!
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need to tell my family somehow
