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vtnudist
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 Posted - 06/05/2003 : 07:13:22 AM
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My wife has decided to try a resort for a weekend a cuople of weeks from now. I know she loves to be nude around the house and at the local swimming hole but, this is her first real social nude experence. I think she is doing this for me and maybe a little for herself. My question is what can I do to make this a positive experence for her so she can enjoy herself and have the bset time possible?
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Cheri
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Posted - 06/05/2003 : 09:05:44 AM
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You didn't say where you were going, so it's not going to be easy to answer this. Make sure you're going to a park that is what you're looking for. Bring sunscreen, hat, chair, whatever you need to feel comfortable, ie. walking shoes esp. if there is gravel around the park.
Remember to bring 2 towels, one to sit on and one with which you can dry off. Find out if they have a snack bar or restaurant and if it's allowed that you bring your own food/drinks. Some don't allow your own if they do have a restaurant.
I always carry insect repellent as biting insects can make your time there miserable.
Enjoy!
:) Cheri
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FireProf
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 Posted - 06/05/2003 : 11:06:08 PM
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vtnudist,
Just do what you can to make her feel comfortable. If you are like me...I want my spouse to continue going to nude venues with me. So whatever I can do to make her feel comfortable, I do everything I can to accomodate. When she's had enough...you leave. When she's had enough sun and wants to put something on...encourage her to do so. If she is uncomfortable because of the inhabitants or feels she is being looked at, let her get dressed or ask her if she would like to leave.
Listen to what Cheri has to say. She is a very knowledgible person in this lifestyle. She has helped me and my wife through her posts these past few years. My wife is a 85%'er. She is a weather driven nudist. She's not likely to get naked when it's too cold. This has happened over the years with a patient, understand husband and information and posts from women like Cheri.
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stucker111
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Posted - 06/12/2003 : 12:40:59 AM
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I can't wait to find out how it went. I hope she enjoys herself and wants to go back, or visit other resorts/venues.
Nude when possible, clothed when practical.
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sunbreeze
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Posted - 08/02/2003 : 11:19:35 AM
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I love being free outdoors; I love to find the secluded river or beach and be free. Problem is, I've tried over the years to get my wife interested but she is absolutely resolute in not experiencing it. I have learned over the years that it is an issue not to bring up as something for her to consider trying but I DO let her know when I've been to the beach, river, lake, whatever...
I'd love to find others who are into this in the Sierra Foothills (near Sacramento) area; at this point, I'm not into the resort thing as I can't afford the membership. The thought of finding an area in the open rolling hills and limitless sky is of particular interest.
Thanks.
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Cheri
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Posted - 08/02/2003 : 11:48:51 AM
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Question, sunbreeze, have you given or just left out some of the good literature that is out there? (- /cheri.html)offered your wife a compromise in which for one hr. she'll accompany you in exchange for something she would like?
Nudism isn't for everyone. Reassure her that you love her, that she is beautiful and if at any time she feels uncomfortable, you'll gladly leave with her.
Regards, Cheri
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vtnudist
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Posted - 08/03/2003 : 10:15:19 AM
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Well we spent the day at a resort in New Hampshire yesterday. My wife had a fun day but still felt a little out of place. It was not the reaction I was looking for where after an hour she was totally relaxed and having a great time. My wife did have a fun day walking in the woods, sunning and swimming all nude, but did feel uncomfortable when a guy set up his towel right next to us only he was at an angle and faced us rater then the lake. We did meet some great people and had some laughs. At the end of the day my wife did say she had some fun and would like to go back again. thanks to everyone that gave us advice on making this a fun day for all.
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Cheri
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Posted - 08/03/2003 : 2:59:44 PM
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vtnudist, Glad that your trip to NH was good and that you'll go back.
Best regards, Cheri
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paint4life
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Posted - 08/04/2003 : 1:48:16 PM
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Originally posted by vtnudist
but [we] did feel uncomfortable when a guy set up his towel right next to us only he was at an angle and faced us rather then the lake.
This happens occasionally at the beach. There are sometimes lookie-loos and pervs, clothed and unclothed.
If I see someone setting up unnecessarily close to us (i.e. in our invisible "personal space" when there are so many wider-open areas to place themselves instead [especially if it's a single man], or maybe they set up with a clear shot of my wife's crotch and then pull out the ol' paperback to "read" with sunglasses and baseball cap on -- yeah right!).
I get up off of my towel and walk over to them before they have gotten too set-up and say, with a smile "Excuse me, sir, but this is a little too close to us for our comfort. Would you mind finding a more open area for yourself? We'd feel much better. Thanks."
Sure, I have gotten a look that says "What's your problem, prude?" sometimes, but they have nearly always moved.
Once a guy gave me attitude, so we moved.
In either case, the sooner the better.
Either way, you are letting them know etiquette.
Yesterday at the beach we found it to be quite crowded. Many. Many nude couples. We found a "relatively open area" but still within 15 feet or so of another couple. As we began to set our stuff down, I asked "Is this too close to you guys for your comfort?"
They gave us a smile and a nod to go ahead and stay right there.
Treat others like you would like to be treated.
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FireProf
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Posted - 08/05/2003 : 6:59:44 PM
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We've had the same thing happen to us many times at the beach. paint4life, your approach is great and I will commit your dialog to memory. I've used simular sentences but I happen to like your's better.
We have yet to move ourselves when someone, usually a single man, gets too close for my wife's comfort. We have never been asked to move or give another couple more room. They are always glad to have another couple sit by them.
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USHans
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Posted - 08/08/2003 : 4:34:25 PM
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We have visited a resort in Michigan a couple of times now (stayed for the weekend). My wife still is not comfortable for what ever reason, but she still goes to support me and I love her for that.
I continue to follow her lead. I suggest to go swimming or to the club house and leave when she says that she has had enough. For the most part she seems comfortable around the outdoor pool, but is not comfortable inside.
We seem to fit in and love the people at the resort, they are very friendly and open. They have not judged her when she decides to stay clothed or act any differently than they would with anyone else. It is really a very nice atmosphere.
Peace in Christ,
Hans
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sea foam
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Posted - 09/02/2003 : 01:02:30 AM
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It took a while for my wife to work through some concerns and anxieties before she was willing to try a nude beach. What really helped was making a few trips to a deserted section of another beach by ourselves. She became comfortable with that, and then it was not such a stretch from there to the nude beach. We were going regularly (almost every week), but now we have relocated to St. Louis. My wife isn't really comfortable with the idea of trying a club, so we're going without right now. We miss "our" beach.
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NJtoNH
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Posted - 09/16/2005 : 10:24:42 PM
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Where in NH is there a resort?
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Cheri
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Posted - 09/17/2005 : 11:23:24 AM
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Where in NH is there a resort?
There are four AANR-affiliated nudist parks in VT. Go to: http://www.aanr.com/stateclubs/aanr-vt.html
Regards,Cheri
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Cookie
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Posted - 09/17/2005 : 10:23:19 PM
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My wife was the one who suggested that we might try a nude beach on the Cape, but we were warned to watch out for the Park Police.
Our first visit was to a resort on the Cape, and after a few awkward moments, we both settled into the routine.
My wife now goes around the house 95% of the time completly nude. As soon as she arrives home from work she is beside the pool in the buff!
If we are not beside the pool we are at some of the nudist sites here in the greater New England area.
I have made sure we have plenty of wood for the winter months before we head to Fla. so tht the house is nice and warm.
Right after the holidays we will head south, and then in April we will head to the West Coast, and spend sometime at DS, Terra Cotta, and by that time the snow should be gone from New England.
Good luck!!!!
Cookie
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cheef
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Posted - 09/20/2005 : 09:45:07 AM
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Glad your wife's experience was fairly good, although I do wish it had been perfect!
One of the things that tends to help is making friends. Perhaps you could arrange to meet a few couples at the club, and this would help her feel less out of place.
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