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beach_maverick
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Posted - 01/24/2004 : 8:24:50 PM
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One last thing.... Is it so wrong to get aroused a nude beach and try to meet somebody? I never said I was going around trying to have sex on the beach.... Maybe you people should get out into the real world and experience a normal healthy life that includes meeting people and being aroused. Bye bye
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nudeisntlewd
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Posted - 01/24/2004 : 8:55:42 PM
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Whatever.
This group, like any other assembly of people, has plenty of diffences of opinion on a lot of subjects. I personally have engaged many disagreements, but friendly ones. They may be disagreed with, but your ideas are not squelched here. No one here does,or is allowed to, make personal attacks on each other.
You're right, kids should be left out of what you're looking for-sex. You present very thinly disguised solicitaions for sex. That is not, however what we are looking for. You are in the wrong place. I get my intimacy from the one I love, not on the internet. In this group, we are looking for discussion on topics in which we hold a common interest.
To quote Admin:
Just a reminder to protect those who present unpopular ideas-
Remember, here we address the concept or idea presented, not attack the person.
Be nice, you might learn something.
He also told me personally to be nice to you for the same reasons.
Interesting how you have been accepted, defended and offered ample opportunity to present your views, even when in contrast with some prevailing fundamental philosophies and rules of our forum, yet, by the time you reached 7 posts, you already feel compelled to attack the group on a personal level. Good luck making friends and happy hunting to you.
For those of you who didn't see his pic, looked like wood to me. In my personal experience, flaccid generaly points downward.
Randy
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MrNatural
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 Posted - 01/24/2004 : 10:06:45 PM
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quote:
Originally posted by beach_maverick
One last thing.... Is it so wrong to get aroused a nude beach and try to meet somebody? I never said I was going around trying to have sex on the beach....
Perhaps I don't understand you correctly. Do you mean you get an erection and walk over to someone with it visible? That's what you seem to be indicating. If not, forgive those folks that were thinking that, because the general topic of this thread is visible arousal in public, and I'm not sure how much of the previous thread you caught up on.
I can understand why your previous picture wasn't allowed. It looked like you were standing next to a big rock at the beach with a horizontal erection, which you held in your hand. If that's what it was, you should know at most beaches I know of, you would be arrested for that. It's not surprising most of the members here would find that offensive, should someone be seen doing that. It would give those that wish to shut down the nude beach exactly the evidence they needed. Would you want to be the one person most responsible for losing the nude beach?
And don't think they can't be shut down, it happens and will happen again.
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hikerman
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Posted - 01/25/2004 : 12:56:10 AM
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You know, the world is full of people who think only about themselves. If it feels good to them, then it's ok. It's very difficult to deal with those types. They feel that rules, regulations, or guidelines are for everyone but them. You've seen them. The folks who drive 85, when the posted speed limit is 65. People who park in handicap parking spaces because they don't want to walk. I could go on and on, and so could you. In a society, and that means ANY society, guidelines and regulations are needed. Just think what our world would be like if everyone did exactly what they wanted, anytime they wanted. Just think about that. In a society of nudist, there are regulations and guidelines for proper behavior established over many years with input from nudists with various political, religious, and cultural backgrounds. Those rules weren't established on a whim. There were reasons for their implimentation. It's those regulations that allow the nudist lifestyle to exist in some orderly fashion. Just think what it would be like if there weren't any. Like in any society, you may not like all the rules, but if you are a member, then you at least make an attempt to abide by them. If you don't agree, then don't be a member. Most folks have indicated very clearly that male arousal at the nude beach is generally not accepted. Most have indicated that male arousal does happen, and if it does, then most prefer that you attempt to do something about it. No one expects you to be embarrased by it, but neither do they expect you walk around flaunting it. Is that to much to ask? That you at least respect the feelings of others. Or is it more important that you do what you want with little or no regard for others? I don't think members of this forum are hypocrites in any way. They simply have agreed to abide by the established guidelines. It's folks like them who will provide the leadership to promote nudism in a positive way.
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Kimberly
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Posted - 01/25/2004 : 03:41:18 AM
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Randy, Mr. Natural, and hikerman; well said!
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nudeisntlewd
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Posted - 01/25/2004 : 04:29:44 AM
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Thank you Kim, but I doubt if he's listening.
Randy
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melissastarr
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Posted - 01/25/2004 : 09:24:10 AM
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I went to a nudist swim/ recreation party last night and I was very impressed by the way erections were dealt with (actually, I was very impressed at the whole thing... you can read about it on my site later today.) At the new-comers orientation erections were discussed. Gary, the Grand Poo-Bah of Bare Buns (the club that held the event) identified that many men are initially scared of getting an erection. Rarely, he says, does it happen. Having an erection, he said, doesn't mean anything bad. It's what you do with it that matters. It's wise, he said, to just cover it with a towel or hop in the water (pool, hot tub, or shower) as it goes away. He was very clear to point out that there's nothing wrong with getting an erection. However, he also mentioned two things about if you have an erection all night: 1) he wants to know how you do that LOL and 2) that means your mind is probably not where is should be at a nudist venue as this isn't a sexual atmosphere. I wish I could state it all as well as Gary did, but I was very impresssed at his wording and reassurances.
Regarding children, there were several children at the event last night, two of whom were 'out in the open' rather than in child-care because they were old enough to keep track of themselves a bit. The girls were 10 or so and some of the most delightful kids I'd ever met. They were sweet and innocent, very relational both to each other and to the adults, obviously well-adjusted, comfortable with their and others' bodies, and just overall delightful little people. It was quickly apparent that EVERYBODY there was watching out for those girls, joking with them, etc. They have more aunts, uncles, and grandparents than the average kids so there's so much more love going around. Nudism IS a wonderful lifestyle for these little girls, especially as they approach adolescence, as long as it's family-friendly like this web site and last night's event.
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Cheri
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Posted - 01/25/2004 : 09:38:00 AM
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Melissa, Glad you enjoyed the swim. Children are the most natural nudists. They are born into the world nude and are accepting of themselves and others. Unfortunately, too many youngsters are taught body shame as they grow and develop.
Hugs, Mom
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spadoc
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Posted - 01/25/2004 : 09:47:24 AM
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I have been a practicing (practicing?...maybe one day I'll get it right) nudist for 35+ years having been to many many nudist parks and C/O beaches. Frankly, in all that time, I have NEVER seen this occur. I will however say that by and large, I felt more comfortable at the nudist clubs and resorts in that the gawkers had been screened out. I can understand that the person who is considering trying a club or beach may fear this reaction, but isn't the fact that they "fear" it a sign in and of itself that they know it would be inappropriate?
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SkinnyBlondeGirl
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Posted - 01/25/2004 : 09:54:20 AM
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I still think an erection on a male is as natural as anything could be. When guys sleep they often have natural erections. I really think it's the guy's own decision whether he feels comfortable with the erection or not.
Erections on a guy are his business, just like his choice to go nude in the first place is his business. You can't go around telling people to hide certain parts of their body just because you don't like looking at the natural state it may be in at any given point.
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Kimberly
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Posted - 01/25/2004 : 10:37:09 AM
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Very well put Melissa, that is the way it is at out club too. My understanding is that most men have a fear of getting an erection, but it never happens that often. Our kids have grown up at the club, and like you say have everyone watching out for them, it is a safe and friendly enviroment. I am so happy Melissa that you have good club to attend and that you have met some good friends.
Skinnyblondegirl I dissagree with you, I do not feel that a man has the right to walk around at a club or beach with an erection anytimes he wants. The nudism/naturism group is just the opposite of what you are eluding too. Naturism is not about sex or showing off, its enjoying each others company in a nudist environment. Naturism is a wholesome family oriented atmosphere. In the 17 1/2 years of being a nudist I have probably seen three men with erections at the club, and the quickly covered up. It is just being considerate of the females. It is also proper etiquette, such as cover your mouth when cough.
Kim =^.^=
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spadoc
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Posted - 01/25/2004 : 10:41:41 AM
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I understand your point SBG, I just don't agree with it. Toilet habits and passing gas are "natural" also, but in polite society, we've relegated those actions to a private venue (well hopefully). Public displays of arousal are considered impolite in nudist society, and belie the message we are trying to get across....that nudism does not equal sex. If that is what you are looking for, then there are places you can go....swingers clubs, homes of like minded adults, etc. But overt sexual activity or arousal is NOT welcome at family oriented parks, clubs, resorts, or beaches. If the simple act of nudity is a "turn on" to you, as you indicated in your "first experience" post, you may want to take a look at the fact that perhaps it's not the nudity per se, but the exhibitionism that is driving you. Nudists are NOT exhibitionists.
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Cheri
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Posted - 01/25/2004 : 10:48:50 AM
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SkinnyBlondeGirl, I've been a nudist for more than 36 of my 56 years, and believe me, spadoc aka Walt knows what he's talking about and said it well.
Regards, Cheri
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SkinnyBlondeGirl
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Posted - 01/25/2004 : 10:54:47 AM
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I am not interested in going to nudist resorts and beaches to look for sex. I would like to visit for the safe atmosphere, and that means NOT being sought after for sex, or soliciting sex. By the same token, it just seems naive to think that everybody there thinks exactly this way. We can not deny that there is a certain "sensual" feeling in being nude, and some (including me), do at times find myself enjoying the subtle, sexy feelings of it all.
All that aside, an erection is an involuntary thing. A man just can't turn it on and off like a light switch. I would think people could give him the benefit of the doubt, that he means no harm by it.
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Kimberly
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Posted - 01/25/2004 : 11:10:54 AM
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Skinnyblondegirl, my husband begs to differ with you. He says that erections CAN be controlled, and that he doesn't have a problem with it.
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